Seeing DC for the first time

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What is that feeling like when you see your DC for the first time?

My mind can't actually comprehend it and I can't imagine what it's going to feel like when I do finally give birth!

I'm dying to know what he's going to look like 😍

With DD1 I had a general anaesthetic so didn't see her immediately. When I did see her I was like 'shes not mine. Prove it' 😲

DD2 I had a planned section and got that 'moment' of seeing her being lifted out. It was amazing. My first thoughts were, amazement, omg she's long, that a lot of blood, she looks just like her sister and back to amazement all in a split second

Ds and dd1 "why aren't they crying" and then when they were checked over and given to me "please don't give them to me, I want to sleep"
Dd2 "why is she crying so much, why won't she shut up"
I feel so guilty that I didn't say anything nicer to any of my children

I’m with KTCluck. A bit underwhelming in the moment for me. Just relief he’d arrived and everything looked ok. But remember spending the night looking at him in his little plastic bucket crib thing. I do remember before I had my children looking at the noses basket and just not being able to get my head around there being a little person in it at some point! And then when they’re a baby you can’t get your head around the fact they will one day walk and talk and be little people... then they do!

@DeadDoorpost
lol mine was the same, quick take him i cant hold him as i cant feel my arms

and with both the first thing i asked was have they got red hair????????

When my first child was born my first thought was I had better smile and look happy, then it hit me and I was excited. My second two births I thought I am going to throw up.

With my first, it was very much a “oh, it’s you moment”. It was like i’d Known him forever already. Then I began to think about how weird it was that suddenly there were 4 of us in the room (including the midwife) and that i’d Actually made a whole person appear like some kind of magician. Paul Daniels, specifically. Not quite sure why, I think it was the Adrenalin.

With my second, it was more like “thank god that’s over” then “you look just like your brother”.

Emcs under GA, still drugged up to eyeball. 9llb 1oz Ds was in incubator in nicu with lots of tiny tiny babies in incubators.

First thought when I was wheeled up to him and remained until I was wheeled away was, nothing, he could have been anybodys baby, I had no feeling he was mine.

First thought- ah a boy
No she was just quite swollen down there

Dd1 was noticing how much hair she had and a feeling of wanting to protect her. As pps have said, just and odd feeling of "oh, a baby's here!" Dd2 was nothing but a huge surge of love and how beatiful she was and that she was my lovely baby.

I had a picture in my head that was as clear as daylight of who my daughter would be. It was a little girl on a mother care poster at the time. All curls and sort of scruffy and tom boy like in dungarees ( a bit like me I guess! )Of course she wasn't and was sort of pointy and thin with wispy straight hair. I was terribly shocked!

It's amazing when they're born. I still have a vision of a doctor (c-section) walking with arms outstretched holding this screaming lunatic of a baby and handing her to me. She then proceeded to suck on my chin (my chin does not resemble a nipple). It's amazing and frightening and bloody awful and terrifying all at once. My only thoughts were 'you're alive and you're normal!' I had spent my entire pregnancy utterly convinced that something was going to be wrong with her/him. I had had dreams of giving birth to aliens and such. It was a relief to discover she was in fact a baby. I was a bit 'Wow' WTF? You don't know anything, it's like you're a newborn yourself.

surprise really, that a baby had come out my tummy and that she was so big

just huge relief that the pain (labour) was over and that they arrived safely. I didn't fall in love instantly - it always took me a couple of days.

@ATailofTwoKitties 'He didn't look ginger on the scan' that's brilliant.

When I was handed DS1, I said 'wow! He has a tongue and everything!'

The others, I can't really remember.

The overall feeling was completeness and utter happiness.

@MyElbowIsItchy

I was the same, crying as it was my last newborn, with DC2.

I didn't cry so much with DC4, who is DEFINITELY my last! (Too tired!)

I couldnt believe that it was an actual person! Not sure what I was expecting. I think because I was just only saw him on the ultrasound I couldnt imagine he would look like an actual baby. So weird lol.
I'm absolutely glad that i had an elective CS. It was such a calm and beautiful experience.

We adopted so had seen pictures.
However, when we finally met her she was laying in her cot sucking her thumb. My first thoughts were:

1. oh look at those beautiful big eyes.
2. I hope she doesn’t get upset
3. her head is bigger than I thought

I forgot that with both of mine I said ‘’Happy Birthday baby’’

Good luck OP!

Why aren't they letting me see?

I think my baby is going to die

I'd give everything for this baby not to die.

Possibly the worst moment of my life.

(All fine now thankfully, watching cartoons beside me)

With DS1 I had an emergency section. I'd had a failed induction so the relief of the spinal block was immediate and I dozed off, exhausted. I woke to my husband tapping my shoulder and telling me to wake up as they were lifting the baby out. I came to and said 'boy or girl, boy or girl', laying eyes on him for the first time. My first thought was 'that's one pissed off kid', my second when the doctor spun him round in answer to my question was 'wow, wrinkly balls. Boy then'.
I'd worked as a nanny my whole life, so I kept expecting someone to come and take him and say 'thanks for looking after him, you can go now'.

With DS2 I had a planned section. I had a bet with DH that it was a girl. He said boy. We had a fiver on it. We asked the medical team to let him be the one to tell me. He said 'DS1 has a brother' and my first words were 'damn, I owe you a fiver'. And yes, I paid it.
After DS2 was born I kept thinking that I didn't recognise him. He didn't look anything like his brother.

You can feel deflated because there isn't the rush of love, you think there will be.

It can take up to a couple of weeks for that to appear.

They are amazing and all that, but don't worry if it isn't what you expected.

With my first, it took about a week. Three days with my second and only hours with my third. That was for the full on proper attachment, not the instinctive one.

Surprise because I didn't realise that was the last push. Apart from that it was totally surreal. Indescribable really and wonderful.

My husband and I just kept saying "oh god, she's perfect, she's perfect" repeatedly about a hundred times. She was very different delibowith forceps and a ventouse and looking back now somewhat more objectively she actually looked so battered and bruised. She had a huge red outline from the forceps directly over her face, both eyelids were very red and bruised and she was generally purple and screaming. At the tone though all we could say was "she's perfect" and that was honestly how we felt. A few times during labour we thought we were going to lose her so I think we were just beyond relieved that she was here and alive.

*difficult delivery with!

First time the baby was stuck face up and I was told I’d need to be taken to theatre for forceps, the anesthetist was explaining it all between contractions and I knew that wasn’t what I wanted so I pushed as hard as I could and she shot out like a cannon ball, the midwife only just caught her. I wasn’t expecting it nor was the room full of people so when I felt this warm wet thing on my stomach I thought what the hell is that? Then they passed her up to me and asked me what had I got, I looked down and saw the cord and thought boy, but then realised it was the cord so I said “I don’t know??!” my husband told me it’s a girl and I thought ahhh amazing, I then looked at her head and thought shit what the hell is going on there (it was very squashed and cone like!). All this in about 30 seconds! Then I sat and stared at her and realised she was here safe and cried a lot. I got the lovely immediate love thing that people talk about (even though she looked pretty dam ugly from being squashed!).

Second time the baby arrived and the midwife let my husband tell me what it was. It was a bit less of a shock baby coming out and I knew what the warm wet thing was! My husband said “it’s a boy” and I thought ahhh I’d thought it was a girl, great we have one of each now! I looked at him fell in love and had a good cry that he was here safe. I then declared that it hurt 1000 times more than last time (it did) and wondered if my bits would ever be the same again (I felt like I’d ripped in 2). He was 2 pounds heavier and wasn’t squashed as much!

It’s an amazing feeling, I think it’s hard to put into words without experiencing it, the best 2 moments of my life by far! I think my main feeling was relief at having the baby here safe above all else, I cried a lot both times knowing that they were ok.