Seeing DC for the first time

[amrscot]

What is that feeling like when you see your DC for the first time?

My mind can't actually comprehend it and I can't imagine what it's going to feel like when I do finally give birth!

I'm dying to know what he's going to look like 😍

Sadly my first thought was ‘I need sleep’.

Then when I woke up and saw the baby. ‘Is that really mine?’

@dishingoutdone. youve made my night 😂😂😂

I remember seeing his little wrinkly face and then they put him straight on me for skin to skin and I know for some people it’s beautiful but he was so slimey so my initial thought was eww dry him off. Then they dried him up and he had to go on the resus table and I remember looking at how pale and beautiful he was. He just sat there looking all thoughtful. I never put him down all day I was like a kid with a new doll 😂😂
To be fair I still snuggle him as much as a can now and he’s 8 haha

I felt sad. I felt detached. It all felt wrong. I asked for him to be taken off my chest because they started stitching me up and I was flinching and terrified I would squash him or drop him. He ended up being rush to SCBU and I couldn't go, so I finished getting stitched up, they then showered me and eventually took me to him. He was attached to loads of tubes and breathing apparatus, I took one look and collapsed. When I woke up the next day I didn't believe I'd had him and thought I was still waiting. The nurse asked me if I wanted to go along to SCBU and I remembered. So then I cried because I knew I was an awful mother. It took about a week for us to bond. Now i am so completely and consumably in love with him.

amrscot big congratulations, it’s wonderful that you are so excited!
If I’m really honest, and not wishing to sound putrid in any way,
The first time mine were placed in my arms I thought I would burst with love.
Looking down at this wrinkled, bald, grumpy looking small person I was overwhelmed.
I never thought I knew them, but I knew from that second that I would die for them

DC1: you’re a bit blue! (Cord round his neck and needed a bit of help breathing). Then, wow you’re beautiful! I couldn’t believe how gorgeous he was!

DC2: you’re massive! (8lb15 so not particularly big but he was quite chunky!) Then, you’re very noisy.

Oh my god, she’s an alien! She had big black eyes, bright red lips and a cone head, she was also quite hairy, she was so weird, yet so cute. DS: looked like an old man, but I was feeling a bit groggy after loads of gas and air, I didn’t hold him much afterwards, he’s been literally hanging off of me since and he’s 5. Love them both to bits 😁

my first thought

'wow her feet are massive!!'

it was all i could see initially as she was being weighed/checked over and she had her foot up in the air

hee hee.

No 1. I didn't feel any instant recognition - it was more kind oh, hello, who are you then, but in delighted kind of way.
No 2 - oh, you look just like your brother (he changed completely at 3 days old but for the first few hours was the spit of his older brother at birth).

My first thought, followed by most other identical thoughts, was what the fuck have I done? Which I thought most days for about 9 months.

With dc2 he looked so much like my dad it freaked me out.
I remember the midwife lifting him up to show me and dp and instead of the awww she was expecting it kinda threw us both to see an identical version of my dad but with a crying face and we both kinda recoiled and said ohhhh errr he midwife turned him away super quick like WTF is wrong It was so freaky. When we held him we were both just staring for ages at my dads face on a tiny human. I don’t know why it freaked me out so much to be honest but I’m guessing shed loads of morphine and pethadine might have contributed

DS1 - wow - look at all his hair! - closely followed by ‘he’s fucking massive’. Then ‘how is he so beautiful?!’

DS2 - ‘oh!’ - he looked the complete opposite of DS1 and it totally threw me.

First thought - holy fuck, I completely forgot why we were here, is that a BABY?

Second thought (out loud) - ‘it’s a GIRL’ (he wasn’t, too much gas and air / exhaustion 😂)

I always imagined I'd scoop him up and hold him to me. In reality, I must have had a really short umbilical cord because every time I tried to move him up my stomach, it felt like I was pulling my uterus out. So I just kinda cradled him on my lower stomach for a while.

It's weird, DH took a picture of us and I feel no connection to that baby looking at him, but ten minutes later, with him all wrapped up and free from too short umbilical cord, he was my boy.

DS1: Fireworks, butterflies, love at first sight, absolutely overwhelming love. Instant.

DS2: Hey dude, good to meet you. So, who are you then? Let’s get to know each other.

It’s funny because that is like their personalities. DS1 is 17 now, he’s fiery, sparky, a big bag of energy and wears his feelings on the outside, a risk taker. DS2, 13, is much more cautious, measured, but loves those he loves deeply and loyally. A true, faithful friend.

It’s like they came out as them and I responded, which is the opposite of how you’d think it would be.

When I first saw dd I thought “thank fuck that’s over” and “what a round face”

When I first saw ds I thought “what the fuck is he covered in” followed by “what the fuck is that smell”

Just sheer utter relief that it was over and he was alive and howling, then how beautiful his eyes were, then how slimy his bum felt in my hand!

My poor DD was born very very fast and in a dark room on the antenatal ward (nobody listened to me that I was in labour!). As a consequence she had a huge bruise over the top of her head which in the semi darkness I thought was hair down to her eyebrows. She was only just on 37 weeks and covered in thick vernix and I thought the poor little thing was terribly ugly, and it didn't matter as I would love her anyway.
I am happy to report she is a perfectly beautiful little girl.

DS1-little fuzzy monkey baby. 😍
DS2-father in law. 😱

With my first she was passed to me and I looked at my boyfriend (now dh) and said 'is it meant to look like that?' 😳
In my defence I was 17 and had had a 4 day labour ending with an episiotomy , I was exhausted , her head was misshapen and swollen and I'd never seen a new newborn before!

My first thought was "it's a boy!" Close followed by "Christ he's got really big hands and feet" then later on "oh my god im completely responsible for everything in your life for next 18 years"

I was so tired I just held him and looked at him like he wasn't real. I woke up later thinking it was a dream and I was still pregnant.

Loving all these different experiences and stories!

I remember being totally shocked that she was girl. I honestly hand on heart wasn't bothered either way, but
I would have more than confidently staked my winning lottery numbers that i was expecting a boy.

Also I remember she looked just like a baby bird, and she was moving her little arms and legs, almost like she she was flapping. .

First thought, my god he's so hairy! First comment to DH 'he looks like a baby spider monkey' , I still call him monkey