to wonder why she didn't ask how my daughter was?

[lottiebel123]

a week ago I had to cancel a night out with a couple of friends because my daughter was throwing up and didn't want me to leave her.(could've left her with dh, but she wanted me) She was really poorly for a few days afterwards as well. I'd bought and paid for all our tickets for the concert and was gutted that I couldn't go. My friends still both went and had a good time. One of them hasn't asked me then or since how my daughter is. She regularly speaks to us in WhatsApp but didn't mention the fact that I couldn't go or ask how my daughter was. Don't want to drip feed but she just doesn't seem all that interested in my life at all. I always ask how her children are. I'm not needy at all, totally get that people have busy lives. She just doesn't seem to care. I'm retraining at the moment, which is a massive life change for me but she hasn't asked one thing about that either. I'm more bothered about the fact that my child was ill and she didn't even mention it. Am I being daft? Is this pretty standard and I need to get a grip?

This thread has gone the way of so many threads do these days on mn

A mum asks a simple question and instead of getting a range of common sense answers she gets a load of people answering who only want to put her down, accuse her of being dramatic etc etc. I think there must be 1000s of people out there who live unhappy solitary lives and love being on mn so they can get their kicks out of putting the boot into anyone they sense is vulnerable.... They need their own section really

Honestly OP - if you could have left her with your husband then you let them down for no good reason and you pissed your mate off.

I have kids and have absolutely no interest in the sickness of other peoples kids.

Gawd. No wonder there are so many people complaining about lack of friends, and of suffering from anxiety and depression after reading some of the posts on this thread.
Maybe for some it matters not a jot what’s going on for their friends or other people (too busy etc.) but OP there are a tribe of us out there who are also massively busy, with work and family etc., but who do care and take the time to check our family and pals are ok. And wouldn’t dream of not asking after a sick child.
Try and find members of that tribe - you’ll find you’re much happier.

I might've asked but I wouldn't have really cared. I'd be annoyed you didn't leave the kid with their dad if they were available

Honestly? I’d be pissed off and also incredulous that you chose to cancel the night out instead of leaving your child with your husband.

There’s some right arseholes on MN!
OP I don’t think you’re dramatic or should have gone out, i do think your ‘friend’ is not that bothered though and your vibes are correct. Time to move on I think.

I think ye are are not friends more old acquaintances.

I think she is over the young child years and can’t/ won’t relate anymore.

I never talk work with any friends that aren’t in the same line of work.

If you don’t want to be friends that’s fine but don’t rate yourself the better person because you send extra comments on social media, that’s ridiculous.