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What random / secret things do you find attractive?!

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Luckyduck88 · 21/02/2019 17:05

So... here are the random things I find attractive in a man.

-someone who is good at catching. This sporting prowess makes me weak at the knees.

-an effortless parallel parker. Swoon.

-Smoking. Hear me out... I do not want a smoker in fact I'd actively avoid a man that smokes... but deep down maybe it's the Hollywood old school glamour (or more likely deep seated crushes on the bad boy at school lighting up behind the bike shed) hangs head in shame

What are your slightly less obvious 'secret' things that make you fancy someone?

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Alison100199 · 21/02/2019 21:34

Yep Ralph Fiennes in Schindler's List for me too. My DP's first language is German and I love it when he speaks German to me. Blush.
Left handed men for me too

Missmarplesknitting · 21/02/2019 21:34

Monkeysox YES
I watched Dave Grohl on Jools Holland play acoustic and oof, absolutely agree

katseyes7 · 21/02/2019 21:35

l love watching a man shave. Proper wet shave with soap/foam and a proper razor. And they smell divine afterwards. Just soapy and clean.

novasglowx · 21/02/2019 21:35

Eyeliner gets me every time Grin

Missmarplesknitting · 21/02/2019 21:49

Just leaving that here....

Georgianfairy · 21/02/2019 21:53

Hands like shovels
A strong thigh
The ability to do the worm
A sardonic eyebrow raise gets me every time
Beards, but not hipster style
Eyes that are unusual (eg the Pakistani guy I knew who had green eyes)
Heavy set, not into slim guys

Mammyloveswine · 21/02/2019 21:54

Not rtft but can't resist adding mine...

Love a hairy chest poking out of the top of a t-shirt in summer..

Love when a man wears a suit to a posh so, then at the end of the night rolls up his sleeves and loosens his collar.. swoon

A man who can do practical manly things (Sorry DH Grin)

Men drinking whiskey or pints (I think me I drinking wine or champers looks a bit weird)

Rugby players, so tough and muddy and grrrr manly.

Men who cup your face in their hands when they kiss you (naturally, not cos I've mentioned it DH..)

Oooh i could go on!

Very tall men.. they could be absolute mingers but the height makes all the difference.

Oh and the "chav" look of joggers and a t-shirt and a baseball cap but only on a gym-honed body underneath. Like a bit of rough.Blush

Things I've discovered I don't find attractive...

Skinny jeans on men.

BartonHollow · 21/02/2019 21:55

An aura of Mr Darcy and Awkward Posh Boy crossed with a sense that as proper as he is he'd be fucking filth in the bedroom

Yes I'm describing an actual man I know Blush

BartonHollow · 21/02/2019 21:59

Oh things I don't find attractive :

Men in their 30s who dress like Sk8r Boi's

The Hipster moustache and beard

Overly muscular upper body.

Prefer proportion

Luckyduck88 · 21/02/2019 22:01

I'm giggling so much at these, crawling through shit for the SAS men, plaster casts and palm steering reverses.

DH is asking what I'm giggling at I can't possibly explain (mainly because he's crap at catching, is shit at parallel parking and is a non smoker) actually he is a fantastic parker and always impressed me how he can get into any vehicle (hire car / borrowing a van for removals) and drive it and park it so effortlessly.

Keep them coming! Oh and less of the obvious ones haha men in suit and nice aftershave is too obvious. I want more pock marks and BO confessions

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Glitteryfrog · 21/02/2019 22:02

Men carrying a skateboard, surfboard, windsurfing equipment, in a wetsuit etc. (One of the above will do).

StayingWithAuntySue · 21/02/2019 22:02

Really bad skin, old acne scars

JaretsGirlfren · 21/02/2019 22:18

Ooh I love a lisp! DP has one which is especially prominent when he’s tired

vampirethriller · 21/02/2019 22:18

The crease at the back of a bald, muscled mans neck. Like you see spilling over bouncers collarsGrin

TrainSong · 21/02/2019 22:30

Men dressed in old fashioned cricket whites with the V-necked cable knit sweaters or in black or white tie.. They just all look absolutley phwoar. Apart from the Bullingdon club in that photo. They really manage not to at all.

chaoscategorised · 21/02/2019 22:34

Scuffed up, hyper 'masculine' workers' hands. Bit of old grease under the fingernails, calluses...Christ. Oh and also, when men giggle. Not all the time, that'd feel weird, but when a bloke lets out a proper giggle, it makes me go all dizzy

covetingthepreciousthings · 21/02/2019 22:37

Oh and also, when men giggle. Not all the time, that'd feel weird, but when a bloke lets out a proper giggle, it makes me go all dizzy

George Ezra has a lovely giggly laugh.

MiddleWilliamsWife · 21/02/2019 22:38

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elQuintoConyo · 21/02/2019 22:43

Quite a few of you describing Ron Swanson...Grin

I would throw my knickers at a man who can speak a foreign language Blush especially...no, any foreign language will do! DH is fluent in Spanish and Italian obviously I threw my knickers at him not long after we met!

chesterfuckingdraws · 21/02/2019 22:47

Police firearms officers in full uniform....it's the gun strapped to their leg and the cargo trousers tucked in boots! luckily I'm married to one so get to ogle him at work regularly

Maelstrop · 21/02/2019 22:51

Someone who is better at things than me, like someone who can draw or can make me run round like a loony on the badminton court.

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 21/02/2019 22:54

Combat boots (My DH is ex army, but in his curtain career he still has to wear them, thank God. I shine them for fun HA!)

Military/Police/CO uniforms except Navy (my Dad was in the Navy, so, gross!)

Snipers or any man who is a good shot (fortunately DH is very good at this too)

Any man who literally stands up for me. For instance, my Rabbi (when I converted although I no longer practice now. ) blew the roof off when I told him my brother had molested me when I was a kid. Also, when DH and I were at a rock concert we were a little bit close to the mosh pit and he literally put his arms around me like a circle. Some guy smashed into me and he screamed "GET THE FUCK OFF MY WIFE!!" Never in my life has anyone defended me like that. We had some amazing sex that night with combat boots I might add Grin

Scars, or pock marks on face.

Nice hands. Don't have to be big though. I love what I call pianist hands which is what DH has. Very long fingers. Can't explain it, but they are gorgeous.

Mischievous smile.

Slightly crooked, not perfect teeth.

Men who can build things like porches, or anything actually.

Low voices.

Men seen playing with cats.

Nice short beards (unfortunately DH can only wear these on vacation, now as work doesn't allow it anymore)

Strong long legs.

Ridiculously tall men, like 6'4-6'6 (DH is 6', still love him though)

A slightly arched eyebrow.

Winking

Curly hair like Bob Dylans. Essentially, a jew fro (DH is half jewish, so thankfully he has this, but has to put copious amounts of gel in it so he won't get in trouble at work)

Cigarettes that are kept rolled up in their T shirt sleeve.

An Irish accent.

Men who sing to me.

Men who slow dance with me. (Fortunately, DH has been doing this more often!)

Broken noses.

Cauliflower ears.

A man who can hit a baseball really hard and really far.

Awkwardness/Shyness

The little wrinkles/crinkles near the eyes. Eyes that smile when they smile. (DH has this too! Smile

ScurrilousSquirrel · 21/02/2019 22:55

Prominent canine teeth and a slight lisp. Like Dara O'Briain or Raul Esparza. Properly turns my brain offline & makes me swoon like Scarlett O'Hara.

Watching bass players' hands.

AnnabelleLecter · 21/02/2019 22:56

Scars
Tattoos
Big boots
In a band

WhiteDust · 21/02/2019 23:04

Men who blush go a tiny bit red when they smile at you or say something nice.
A quiet man, tall, a bit stocky, scruffy jumper, jeans & worn out brown boots. Floppy hair...
a slight sweaty smell ❤️

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