What random / secret things do you find attractive?!

[Luckyduck88]

So... here are the random things I find attractive in a man.

-someone who is good at catching. This sporting prowess makes me weak at the knees.

-an effortless parallel parker. Swoon.

-Smoking. Hear me out... I do not want a smoker in fact I'd actively avoid a man that smokes... but deep down maybe it's the Hollywood old school glamour (or more likely deep seated crushes on the bad boy at school lighting up behind the bike shed) hangs head in shame

What are your slightly less obvious 'secret' things that make you fancy someone?

Underpressure... yes a man in a waistcoat - who doesn't look like he's trying too hard.. with the shirt sleeves rolled up and slightly hairy forearms... swoooon... have also had to stop myself sniffing the back of the neck of a few 'naice' men

The lingering smell of Wright’s coal tar soap.
Double cuffs and subtle gold cufflinks.
Long legs.
Kindness and a slow crinkly smile.

Summerisnearer - you seen Ralph Fiennes in the English Patient though? More khaki... gaaawd

Crumpled jolie-laid/pretty ugly men like Willem Defoe/Serge Gainsbourgsort of look like they've been battered a bit

Hairy chest and tummy. Like a teddy bear. Also a small, fat tummy. The teddy bear thing again.

nov You are my type of friend!

Mother I've never seen it but just googled. I am drooling I just might take myself off for an early night...

Ohh Serge Gainsbourg 😍 the actor who played him in Gainsbourg had him down to a T

Good conversation - really good, can’t tear myself away, funny conversation.
Big hands.
Competence.
German accents.
A beautiful watch on a muscular, slightly hairy wrist.
A dominant personality in the bedroom (consenting and agreed obviously!)
Shirt sleeves rolled up.

What can attract me to someone is the fact that I should NOT be fancying them At All.

I once went out with a nasty ugly fucker, ugly inside and out actually. He cheated on me, but I won't go into all the gory details. He was a waste of space, and I wasted a lot of time on him ... but there was just something about the way he picked up a glass and drank his pint. I kid you not. He had good arms, good hands, it was a slow, manly thing, sitting next to me, I'd catch the movement out of the corner of my eye and it was so masculine, very, very hard to explain.

Years later he tried to reconnect with me and I met him in a pub. He was older, and wizened now, even uglier in terms of his character .. and I knew as soon as I clapped eyes on him I'd done the right thing in getting rid of him years before. But as we sat there .. both now middle aged ... there was still something about the way he lifted that glass.

Strong and muscled - skinny men don't do a thing for me though neither do overly muscled men...

Strong hands, well used but looked after. I HATE long fingernails.

But what makes me go weak at the knees is the nape of the neck so I like haircuts that show that of.

Oh, YES to shirt sleeves rolled up. Short sleeves with a tie are total passion killers.

People with stylishly tied scarves

A Lancashire accent ala Freddie Flintoff.

crinkly eyes and a big smile

My DH coming home after a 10 hour shift in his (dirty) Chef whites....he's usually exhausted and hates me jumping on him when he walks through the door

Someone eating with confidence...chomping slices of apple from a knife etc, licking his fingers.

Attached ear lobes. There’s just something lovely about the neatness of them.

Wonky teeth. And I don't mean rotten, manky teeth, just crooked ones. I had a crush on Tim Henman on the basis of his teeth.

Rolled up long sleeved shirts on nice arms. This is nit the same as short sleeved shirts!

Peachtree I was just coming on to say the exact same thing...lip scars are v sexy, especially from a cleft lip! A la Joachim Phoenix.

Hairy chest and tummy. Like a teddy bear. Also a small, fat tummy. The teddy bear thing again.

Wouldn't that be like shagging Winnie the Pooh?

Mathematicians & Physicists.
Seriously, every boy I dated before they were old enough to have a degree went on to become one of those & every relationship I've ever had once they were old enough to have a degree was with one or the other of those.

Something about the way they think just lights me right up.

White shirt with top button undone and wearing braces to hold up his trousers hmmm

Men in formal suits.
Men who know how to tie an ascot.
Men who wear a pocket watch.
Men wearing cuff links.
A man in full morning dress.

Men who are kind and patient with children and babies.
Men who use silly voices to talk to cats

Men who can be vulnerable with you because they are secure.

Men who you just know would be filth in the bedroom.

Men who know their champagne and have read the classics.

Forgot an important one!

Men who sing!

(My DH played Dakota on his guitar and sang it to me the morning after we first had sex!)

I go weak at the knees when I see a man drinking red wine out of a large posh wine glass sitting in a brown leather arm chair