To dress young daughters the same

[Theorangeorange]

I have two young daughters (2 & 4) and I love dressing them in matching clothes - for reference they both love it too and get excited when they have the same on. I would stop when they don't enjoy it of course.

It's not every day, but for occasions they'll usually have the same on, perhaps in a different colour but matching.

I haven't ever given it a second thought until someone asked me whether I was concerned about them "not developing their own individuality" I wasn't!! Though I'm interested to hear thoughts......

[frecklesandsmiles]

I love it, I have a DS and a DD and always get them matching onesies/PJs etc. They love it. They wouldn't thank me for getting them matching outdoor clothes but I love seeing it on others. It's no harm until one of them doesn't like it anymore I wouldn't think.

[DaisysStew]

I think it’s cute. Me and my older sister were 2 years apart and my mum used to do the same.

[EmpressAdultHumanFemale]

i think little girls dressed the same look sweet

But sweet and cute are only positives until the age of about 4. Then they become negatives very quickly.

[MamaWeasel]

I think it's naff..... I even saw a mother and daughter out dressed identically the other day..... I cringed.

My nanna used to be scrupulously fair with her five grand children.... Three girls and two boys..... And wouldn't buy one without the others..... So we ALL had verrrrry similar, if not matching, clothes and toys. Cringe.

[SavageBeauty73]

I've never liked it. I have identical twin boys and always dressed them very differently.

[Weetabixandshreddies]

My mum did this. As the older child I hated it. I hated everyone commenting on it and I didn't want to be the exact same as someone else. Plus, I was the older child and resented being dressed the same as a younger child.

Even now I don't have a good relationship with my sister - I'm sure that the resentment I felt as a child still lingers.

[Boulezvous]

I hated it as a child. As the youngest of 4 girls I also got all the clothes as hand me downs. For years!

It can look cute but also a bit naff. What would they choose if they went individually to the shops and picked out an outfit? Try it. That will tell you if it stifles their individuality.

I knew quite a few Mums when our kids who were little who never dreamt of giving their children some choice over what they wore. I always did as I very much wanted to choose myself as a child and my own DD had very particular preferences.

[HexagonalBattenburg]

Yeah they're dressed identically - Monday to Friday, 9 to 3.30.

[Whoops75]

[Shopping with little ones is a right faff. If I see something I like it's easier to just pick up 2 and not have to look for another jumper or whatever]

No it isn’t, It takes 5 seconds to pick another top or trousers.

Looking back on photos my guys love to laugh at their style and the different characters on their clothes.
They remember the phases they went through and don’t look like a uni child.
I have 3 boys, not the same one two years. apart

[ModreB]

I used to dress DS1 & 2 in the same outfits, but only because they both insisted and kicked off if one was wearing something different to the other. It started when DS1 was about 4 and DS2 was about 2 and carried on until they were about 11 and 9, when they started to decide themselves that they wanted different clothes. DS3 (7 year age gap with DS2) wanted all of the clothes to be the same as the older 2 in photo's at the same age until about 12yo.

Never bothered me, as it was always their choice what they wore, as long as it was clean and suitable.

[SilverySurfer]

I am three years older than my Dsis and my DM would often dress us the same which I hated from a very young age. Children are just as much individuals as adults.

[HeddaGarbled]

Also a word of warning about the same items but in different colours thing: my younger, prettier, blonder sister always got the more traditionally feminine colour. I mentioned it to my mum as an adult and she’d had no idea that she’d done that - it was an unconscious bias.

[flowersaremyfave]

I think it all comes down to personal preference. I dislike character clothing (Spider-Man. Minnie Mouse. Frozen. Batman ect ) I also hate joggers, and stripy clothes. My kids have always been dressed traditional until they got to about 6-7 and started picking their own clothes. Now that there teenagers it's all Nike and stone island tracksuits 🙄 it's nice to dress young children how you want before they start wanting to pick their own clothes out.

[EKGEMS]

I've got an identical twin sister-I don't remember complaining about being dressed the same by my sister sure did! Unfortunately it's backfired as my parents have a hard time telling us apart in child hood photos until my slightly taller/heavier self emerged

[DorisToday]

I think it looks adorable!

[Nothinglefttochoose]

No way I can’t stand kids being dressed the same.

[qazxc]

wouldn't be to my taste and am not organised enough,but my sister does this : she reckons that her kids are easier to spot in playground ans that she hates clothes shopping so buys two of the same of everything.

[ApocalypseNowt]

I used to do it with my 2 girls (not so much anymore).

I think they looked lovely but it's also really helpful for spotting them if we were somewhere busy

[Hairyporker]

It's creepy as fuck. Especially with twins.

[areyoureallysaying]

*yikesanotherbooboo" why does not doing it make you a snob ? and more importantly why on Earth would you want to be labeled a snob????

[shirleyschmidt]

Go for it, I think it's really cute!

[mummyof2boys30]

We have a wedding next month and both boys being dressed the same. 8 and 6. I used to dress them the same but even though they have same clothes as both like similar things I try not to do it on same day now. Doesn't always work like that tho

[NunoGoncalves]

It's creepy as fuck

Creepy? It's just clothes!

[yikesanotherbooboo]

Areyoureallysaying i don't want to be labelled a snob but my reasoning for not wanting to dress my children the same is not very logical ; I just don't like it and suspect my reasons are to do with a slight snobbishness I'm ashamed of those tendencies . Others have quite openly said its'naff' , I mean the same thing but wish I didn't!!

[pineappletower]

This thread is utterly baffling. If they want to wear the same thing then it's fine, surely. And a perk of having children of the same sex. They'll quickly tell you when they've had enough. It's nice.