To want a picture of my bio children

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Had a photoshoot of my bio children 3 months ago and I really want a canvas printing for my back wall, AIBU that my stepchild is not on this?

Totally missing the point, Matilda

MatildaTheGreat that’s because they are your birth kids and they know you love and accept them all. There’s a completely different dynamic to be considered for step kids.

@higgyhog awwwh sweetheart calm down will you this isn't a new comment.. baaaa

I can imagine a scenario where the ex has remarried and has another two children.

DSD comes to stay and is telling her Dad how upset she is that her Stepdad only wants his bio children to be in the big canvas on the living room wall in their home.

Do you think her Dad would be angry on her behalf?

I would take a picture of SDC with your newborn on her own so its about the older kids with the new baby individually rather that my kids/ your kid situation in a bit to keep it at an even ish, like a series of them all growing up and developing a relationship.
I have a friend who is still bitter that her dad had pictures of her and her brother in his study rather than with all the family shots and stupidly blames her step mother, 20 years later.

I wouldn't to be honest. It's like a constant rub in the face that she's different because she's not yours. I've experienced this first hand as a child.

@Thatoneoverthere definately will do this.. really appreciate your comment

@gamerwidow you are making assumptions. The message seems to be all children must be equal, but step children are more equal.

You’ve posted about it before... amd was told ywbu. Or just maybe a —n exactly the same— issue cropped up before for another poster...

@sunshinelollipopsrainbows noted, thank you, it's always good to get the perspective of someone who has experienced it

@DrinkFeckArseGirls no I haven't posted before, if I had would I be asking again. More presumptions

God it's bloody political. My dp and his middle son hates being photographed so no pics of him with children or baby or many of middle one as he actively hides - dosnt mens he isn't fmaily.
Just put some pics up of everyone on mantle price and the canvas as well. Sorted.
I ahve a big canvas of my bbay swimming as it's cool - it's just him and he's my only child. Just means it's a nice pic!

Can you all go out for the day together and take some good pics then?
Tell DSD that you are sorry they missed out on the photo shoot and then all pic a few photos together to get blown up?

Could then put them up with the canvas in some sort of family arrangement

@Foodylicious I can definately do this

@Chocolatedeficitdisorder food for thought.. thank you

Irrespective of what anyone thinks of OP’s attitude or linguistic choices, she’s said she won’t erect the canvas (about 10 pages ago).

Isn’t that a #win?

I think your SD would feel like utter crap if you do this op. She may not state it clearly, but of course she'd feel left out. Who wouldn't? If you value having a picture of all your biological children over your SD's feelings, then that says something quite negative about you I'm afraid.

Also, she may say something to her dad, who (if he's any sort of dad at all) will take her side and ask you to take it down. You'll refuse and thus create even more of an us vs them attitude. If you actually want that, then crack on.

Why don't you get a big canvas of all the children, then maybe a smaller one of yours to go on the mantelpiece x

I thought she then said she was going to do it regardless, Butchy... apologies if I've misunderstood

@Butchyrestingface thank you

I see people on here posting that they genuinely need help and support and these threads get little or no interaction

This thread and similar where people can start arguments, hurl abuse and generally just try to make people feel shit are very popular, boggles my mind but we are all different aren't we

I thought she then said she was going to do it regardless, Butchy... apologies if I've misunderstood

I thought she said no canvas, but it’s getting framed and going on da mantlepiece.

Apologies if I’ve misunderstood.

Please bother to read the thread people because you are saying what has already been said and taken on board

Contessa she said she'll put a smaller one on the mantle piece next to the one of SD . So no big bold hurtful statements on the wall.

@Butchyrestingface that is what I said so you were correct