Suspicious over over neighbours new found money!!

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Hi all, I have a neighbour and a friend (although not a close friend as such). A year or so ago she claimed her and her partner were completely broke, barely surviving until pay day every month. They have 4 children, she is a SAHM and her partner works.

So fast forward to now, and they seem to be in a much better financial situation. Which is brilliant for them but they are eating out 4-5 nights a week, go out on an expensive days out with the children every week, new clothes, new shoes (designer), 2 cars, expensive perfume, the kids have everything, holidays etc. She is also the type of person who posts all this on her social media accounts so we all know about it. It just seems very bizarre. I know circumstances change but this seems extreme. Her partner hasn’t changed jobs as far as I’m aware. Like I say, she’s the type of person who posts absolutely everything about her day on social
Media and I am certain I would of heard about it.

Their rent is most likely in the region of £700-£900 pcm based on the other houses on the street.

She’s not a close enough friend to really tlak about it but odd things do come up.

Now really this is has nothing to do with me. But I am wondering if they are either hideously in debt, drug dealers (joking) or its something else. A little while ago they temporarily split up, she kicked him out, he’d to claim benefits, changed the tenancy. They were apart for about 4 months. So I am wondering if she’s still claiming as a single parent getting housing and council tax benefit so they have all this extra cash? He is definitely living there though. It just seems bizarre!

I’m just baffled.

I’m not in a position to delete or unfollow her

Eh? Why on earth not? Just click on the dots to the right of her name and click unfollow.

Or you could unfriend her. If she has 500 FB friends, and is as self absorbed as you make out, she's not going to notice who she is and isn't friends with anyway.

Your life sounds very unfulfilled.

Could be an insurance settlement from ages ago, could be an inheritance, could be could be could be.........
I got a critical illness payout, I look healthy now, have moved cities, people who only know me on the last few years and don't know I was sick could think the same about me, I'm a single mum, have lovely holidays, own a renovated home and only work part time and go to uni but it's no one's bloody business.

What the hell has it got to do with you, stop twitching the nets and mind your own business!

None of your business, really? Live and let live. Let them enjoy their new found wealth.

I've got neighbours just like you OP. They like nothing better than curtain twitching and making phone calls to the DWP. Nasty fuckers.
Keep your nose out OP 😡

My brother got a critical illness payout when he was diagnosed with stage 4 aggressive cancer - mortgage paid off, and lump sum in the bank. Consequently, he and his wife have sold their original house, bought a smaller house in a cheaper area, and both retired in their early 50's. They both have nice cars and take lots of holidays, often taking their grown up children along too. Anyone not knowing the back story might wonder where their money comes from - perhaps the nosy neighbours think they, too, are drug dealers or benefit frauds, or maybe both. DB is in remission now, and long may his good health continue.

OP you have NO idea about the source of this money. If she's a friend, why not ask her?
'Another holiday? How on earth do you afford it?
are you defrauding the benefits system Have you won the lottery? Can you lend me a tenner til payday?'

Even if she was still claiming as a single parent she wouldn’t receive an awful lot would she

Quick play around with the benefit calculator I came up with £1,750 a month, that is an awful lot actually.

It could be any one of things mentioned. I wouldn't get involved. If it's something bad you don't want to know.

Or you could unfriend her

That's what deleting is...

Why do you care? Why should anyone on here care?

Your story doesn’t add up, OP. You’re rolling your eyes about her need to share everything with ‘all 500 of her Facebook friends’, yet you’re driven mad with curiosity by the one thing she doesn’t share. You’re annoyed by her constant showing off online, yet are desperate for excuses not to unfollow her (despite the fact that the unfollow option was created precisely for the purpose of hiding posts without unfriending someone).

You absolutely LOVE gossiping about this woman. You’re even enticing strangers to do it.

Anyone who imagines that committing benefit fraud would enable them to suddenly be able to afford 2 cats,meals out 5 nights a week,expensive days out every week,designer clothes and holidays are deluding themselves.

2 CARS even,not cats! FFS.

"Quick play around with the benefit calculator I came up with £1,750 a month,"

A family with two children (only two count) would get around £800 a month and then the Local Housing Allowance for rent.

That doesn't pay for what the OP is listing.

It's less than a full time wage. People in ordinary jobs, working full time with four children don't have that lifestyle.

Drug dealers generally don't. They tend to be in bed on a Sat/Sun because they've had a busy weekend night. So if they're up and out early, for these days out every weekend, then it's something else.

What has it got to do with you OP?

Seriously who cares? It honestly baffles me that people are so overinvested in the lives of others.

If you own your home and she doesn't then you are in a way better financial position than her anyway.

I had a neighbour like this, divorced mum with 1 teenager. Owned her own home but always skint, no car.. she disappeared for a year or two, never noticed anyone in the house.
She then came back with a foster child in tow, had a huge extension built, fancy 4x4 car... still no partner as i ever saw.
We've moved now but no clue what happened there at all

Perhaps they consolidated everything into one loan and as a result have more disposable income or perhaps they had loans that are now paid off. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Two cars, holidays, designer shoes - she’d have to be claiming benefits for abput ten people to pay for that lot. My money’s on a lottery win. Not that it’s any of my business.

Not in a position to follow her? I'm actually howling 😂😂😂 So you must keep up to date with all her movements. You really must get a life. How old are You? You sound very immature.

You remind me of an awful curtain twitching nosey cow a few doors up from me.

I’m a lone parent with 3 DC’s to support, and struggled on a very low wage for years, no holidays, crappy old car, second hand or primark everything.

She appears to be married, husband works, nice car etc.

Last year I inherited a fair whack of money. I’ve invested most but last year bought a nice car, bikes and laptops for all the kids, all the things they needed and I had it been able to get them before. We went to Orlando, Mexico and on a cruise (year off work so my only opportunity to travel that much).

Every time I see this woman, I can feel the suspicion from a mile off. It’s actually pathetic- she barely even knows us. We all just laugh at her, like this woman probably does at you. Mind your own business.

1. inheritance
2. lottery win
3. drug dealing/proceeds of crime

I might be nieve but I doubt they've got all that luxury through Benefit Fraud. As most people know benefits are a pittance. They and her dhs wages which can't have been great in the first instance would not cover top of the range cars, designer clothers expensive days out.
It could be a lottery win or a inheritance. That's all I can think of.

Yes to agree with pp it could be something sinister such as drug dealing.