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Suspicious over over neighbours new found money!!

154 replies

JKCR2017 · 17/02/2019 21:11

Hi all, I have a neighbour and a friend (although not a close friend as such). A year or so ago she claimed her and her partner were completely broke, barely surviving until pay day every month. They have 4 children, she is a SAHM and her partner works.

So fast forward to now, and they seem to be in a much better financial situation. Which is brilliant for them but they are eating out 4-5 nights a week, go out on an expensive days out with the children every week, new clothes, new shoes (designer), 2 cars, expensive perfume, the kids have everything, holidays etc. She is also the type of person who posts all this on her social media accounts so we all know about it. It just seems very bizarre. I know circumstances change but this seems extreme. Her partner hasn’t changed jobs as far as I’m aware. Like I say, she’s the type of person who posts absolutely everything about her day on social
Media and I am certain I would of heard about it.

Their rent is most likely in the region of £700-£900 pcm based on the other houses on the street.

She’s not a close enough friend to really tlak about it but odd things do come up.

Now really this is has nothing to do with me. But I am wondering if they are either hideously in debt, drug dealers (joking) or its something else. A little while ago they temporarily split up, she kicked him out, he’d to claim benefits, changed the tenancy. They were apart for about 4 months. So I am wondering if she’s still claiming as a single parent getting housing and council tax benefit so they have all this extra cash? He is definitely living there though. It just seems bizarre!

I’m just baffled.

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VaggieMight · 17/02/2019 22:31

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Dreamzcancometrue · 17/02/2019 22:32

The things people come on here and moan/gossip about... Jeez louise.

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 17/02/2019 22:41

WinterfellWench, OH! That's right! I have only seen GOT twice, however, I've seen Rosemary and Thyme hundreds of times! LOL! So, it is not surprising that I don't remember. Thank you, though. I still love your name. Smile

NCjustforthisthread · 17/02/2019 22:51

Drugs. Must be. She’s the new Escobar.

GreatWesternValkyrie · 17/02/2019 22:54

They’ve just completed jewel thief training and being newly qualified tea leaves, they’re clearly a bit too eager and forgot the rule about no ostentatious purchases immediately after a blag.

mummmy2017 · 17/02/2019 22:55

PPI claim pay out on all the debts.

userschmoozer · 17/02/2019 22:57

If its benefit fraud she must be at least 6 people.

squeekums · 17/02/2019 23:00

Insurance payout
Inheritance
Lotteries win
Promotion

Many valid reasons. We live pay to pay. I literally have 80 on me till payday
In coming weeks it will be different due to dp insurance payout for ptsd

HeronLanyon · 17/02/2019 23:00

You sound jealous. Also too invested in your theory that she is still receiving benefits she ought not to be.
No wonder they haven’t told you about whatever good
Fortune or sad (inheritance) has
Come their way. Get on with your own life.

thegreatbeyond · 17/02/2019 23:08

She is actually El Chapo in disguise. He's got a few kids, I understand.

snop · 17/02/2019 23:09

Are you serious op, why are you so interested ?

Purpletigers · 17/02/2019 23:19

All those saying it’s not benefit fraud . When she posts on sm is the husband in any of the pics ? The best benefit fraudsters never post any pics with their boyfriend / husband . They also give two separate phone numbers to childrens’ schools and dad rarely if ever will do school pick up . It’s entirely possible it’s benefit fraud . If in doubt you can report it. Two of our tenants are committing benefit fraud . They’re not living the high life .

Walnutwhipster · 17/02/2019 23:21

I don't work. I have a brand new SUV and apart from posting on FB. I match most of the way you describe your friend, although I wasn't skint a year ago. I have a trust that no one outside of my immediate circle have any knowledge of. I wonder if my neighbours think I'm committing benefit fraud? Mind your own business!

userschmoozer · 17/02/2019 23:22

All those hinting its benefit fraud. What benefits do you think she is claiming to get that amount of income?

TitsAndTomatoes · 17/02/2019 23:26

Ask her?

Thurmanmurman · 17/02/2019 23:26

You sound like an absolute horror. Mind your own business.

AlwaysSomethingThere · 17/02/2019 23:37

Bitchy and pathetic

LilQueenie · 17/02/2019 23:38

Why didn't you just say you thought she was committing benefit fraud. better yet why not just ask your 'friend' and be supportive as a 'friend' ought to be. Hmm

My neighbour tried to do the same to me. He was wrong and he knew it but it didn't end well. It was obvious who it was. Its not always strictly annonymous.

MissConductUS · 17/02/2019 23:46

If it was an inheritance or similar one time windfall spending the way they are now means it will likely all be gone in a few years or less. I know people who have pissed away hundreds of thousands this way and then can't believe they're not actually rich anymore.

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 17/02/2019 23:56

Honestly OP, this thread is quite horrific. And, as PP's have pointed out, I do think you're jealous. Maybe, not of her money (because apparently, you have quite a bit, with the mortgage being half paid and all) , but I think it's because of something more personal. Maybe, she is prettier than you and your husband took notice? This OP is way to personal and vicious to be a mere curiosity. You are angry with her for some reason. And, I have a pretty big hunch as to what. Hmm

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/02/2019 00:21

I can absolutely assure you OP that even with benefit fraud, you could not have a "lifestyle" like that. I am a previous high earner who now finds herself on benefits due to having a child with a disability and my husband leaving me. While we do not "struggle" as such, we're fed, clothed and have a roof over our heads, there is absolutely no way I could do designer, have holidays, new cars or anything of the sort. I would imagine they've had a lottery win, promotion, inheritance. Regardless, who cares? I will inherit considerable wealth one day and then I will be subject to threads like this. Mind your own business I would say. If you really must report her for fraud, then that's up to you but personally I couldn't live with myself.

NightOwlHoney · 18/02/2019 00:24

You sound like a jealous, unpleasant, nosy bastard.

Monty27 · 18/02/2019 00:29

Keep your nose out. Jealousy is not good nor are your assumptions. Hope I don't know you in rl. Confused

LightDrizzle · 18/02/2019 00:33

You are SUCH a curtain twitcher!
It looks like they’ve had a windfall. If her SM posts are annoying you then block her, but you do need to mind your own business.
I’ve occasionally wondered how x or y manages to afford Disney World holidays with 2 kids at resort hotels and the like, but it’s a passing thought because when ever I look; it is gadzillions, and we are not badly off. I don’t actually dwell on it though.

LordPickle · 18/02/2019 00:38

This happened to my neighbours and they had won the lottery. The millionaire maker on euromillions.