AIBU to wonder why people without kids are on mumsnet?

[Workingmummyguilt]

Just that really, noticed recently lots of posts from people where poster says they don’t have kids/don’t want kids/ no plans to have kids etc and just wondering why, then, they are on the forum in the first place. Not saying they shouldn’t be , hey whatever floats your boat and wouldn’t tell anyone what they can/can’t do , just I don’t really understand why you’d want to be ...

I discovered Mumsnet after DS was born 12 years ago, I wished I’d discovered it sooner. First time mums at baby groups left me feeling like I was failing at motherhood, everyone appeared perfect. I only lurked for a fair few years but enjoyed reading posts about all sorts of things from nipple balm to budgeting. I’m not sure I’d have discovered it back then if I wasn’t looking for Mum related things but I read all sorts of threads now. I don’t think I’ve ever been an OP but I do post a fair bit now.

I think it is a perfectly appropriate name for a forum that discusses everything. It is just a name but one that is well known now. It shouldn’t really come as a surprise that mums don’t just talk about pregnancy, babies and children. Just reading the topics and thread titles you’ll see it’s not exclusive to Mums. I have friends and colleagues of all ages with and without children. Our discussions don’t just revolve around kids but I suppose my experiences and opinions have been shaped by having them. I certainly don’t find it odd that people who aren’t overly interested in kids come on here.

If PP’s friend has ‘ladies’ then I’d also advise them to stay away, it’s no place for a ‘lady’.

Ursula I'm picturing Woody's head spinning round. 😂

it’s no place for a ‘lady’

We can all agree on that

not this again !
We are on it to answer silly questions like this FFS because we have nothing to do with our time. ( JOKE )

Why do the twats who continually post this boring question always have 'mummy' in their nickname?

There was a thread "favourite line from a film" the other day..one was from Gregory's Girl and it said that in the future , men and women would not be having children so we would all be w . HELLO!

• Times are changing. People are changing. Soon, there'll be no men and no women. Just wankers.

APOLOGIES; misquoted.

Journalists trawl the site and repost the juicy stuff, I might as well go straight to the source rather than give the daily fail a click.

Surely this question was posted about a week ago.

I'm not saying that posters shouldn't ask questions that have been asked a zillion times before but if you just click on the 'Talk' thingy up the top OP you'll see that the vast majority of subjects that come up have nothing to do with being a 'mummy'.

Almost every time I google about how to do something a MN thread will come up, last time it was ways to cook some sort of fish or vegetable if I remember correctly; something only 'mummies' would need to know obviously.

It's a forum with wide-ranging topics and can be very thought-provoking. It gives a great insight into the various and different lives lead by others and it can't be a bad thing to be interested in others.

Everybody yes point taken, it does say ‘by parents, for parents’. Although I’ve never been under the impression it was just for parents or only mums! What name would you suggest?

Because I want to be.

It's not like every topic is for parents. There are SO many things being discussed.

OP made a rookie mistake, can we just leave it at that instead of being hypocrites & rude?

She's posted a topic that's been repeated many times. However, majority of people replying on this thread are also repeating the answers that's already been posted within the same thread by someone else.

If you all can't be bothered to read the full thread as to see if someone has already sent out the same/similar response as you then maybe OP doesn't need to search the sight to see if a similar thread had been posted.

I'm not a mother. Or a stepmother. Or an Aunt or anything else. An internet search for farrow and ball paint brought me here. And I found a whole host of people with diverse opinions and different experiences. Just like in real life. Am I only supposed to engage and interact with people who don't have children?

The next person to say 'mummy' gets a kick in the minge.

I don't have children, couldn't. Someone told me that I shouldn't be put off by the name Mumsnet, that all sorts of stuff is discussed on here, so I came and had a look round, liked it and stayed.

It would be a pretty boring forum if it only accepted bearers of crotch-fruit and only discussed crotch-fruit related things.

This has never crossed my mind but... Being relatively new to this site myself it's taking me a while to understand how it works properly I wasn't initially aware you could search previous topics etc.. What I have noticed however is the amount of patronising users that belittle posters for things they aren't aware of! I get the impression these people feel because they are avid users and understand everything are just plain rude to others that don't, it comes across extremely bitchy and puts me off posting in fear of being attached by keyboard warriors telling me to "bore off" or "there's a search section for that" instead of politely helping the poster in the right direction or just not commenting at all! I just can't get my head around grown adults jumping on a post just to feel inferior or witty when in all fairness if you're bored of the topic keep scrolling until you find something that interest you or you can offer constructive advice! I'm all for giving honest opinions and not just telling people what they need to hear and I'm not easily offended but seriously why be rude unnecessarily? I feel like some of these comments could push someone vulnerable over the edge!

I'm a mum but I rarely look at mum related threads. I like the general topics, netflix chat, relationships, dating, work and career things.

How much 'mum' stuff is there to discuss anyway? It's not like being a mum all I am 🙄

Why do the twats who continually post this boring question always have 'mummy' in their nickname

We without gremlins find many topics that aren't gremlin related. Didn't know this was a forum that was for "yummy mummies" only 🙄

I can't add anything else that hasn't already been said. I am not a Mother, I can't remember what brought me here but I have received a lot of non parent related advice on here, I only wish I had found it earlier, when I really needed it.

90% of posts I read have nothing to do with being a parent!

What a very strange post. Especially the part about "floating our boats" what are you implying?

littlemissquiet

I think it's pretty well known that MNers say it how it is, especially on AIBU. It's not called a nest of vipers for nothing. I would also add that I have seen the most amazing support and advice given to those in need over an extended period of time, so it's a melting pot of both.

I love it but if you don't you know the saying, if you don't like the heat get out of the kitchen.

Why do these twats always have Mummy in their name?

Because they feel as if they've been selected to join an exclusive club for the ordained and worthy and express bemusement that lesser inferior women should presume to attempt to be included in their superior conversation

It's the adult version of YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US from Mean Girls basically

Look, the question has been done to death and it's one if the most patronising things you see here.

Yes, I am well aware that it's called mums net, I really don't need to be told as I can read. I also know I'm not in your 'mummy group', but thanks for the reminder.

It doesn't take a genius to look around the forum and see how much more this is than just a parenting website. I'd hazard a guess that 90% of threads aren't even about children.

You may not have meant to cause offense but it's incredibly patronising to question a group of people as to why they are here as if they shouldn't be.

And if you want to know why your question can be so hurtful to some of us, go and take a look at some of the infertility/miscarriage boards and try asking them why they are on a site 'for parents'.