AIBU to wonder why people without kids are on mumsnet?

[Workingmummyguilt]

Just that really, noticed recently lots of posts from people where poster says they don’t have kids/don’t want kids/ no plans to have kids etc and just wondering why, then, they are on the forum in the first place. Not saying they shouldn’t be , hey whatever floats your boat and wouldn’t tell anyone what they can/can’t do , just I don’t really understand why you’d want to be ...

Wasn’t aware this had been raised before so sorry to those bored by the question. Am a relatively new mum and it would never have occurred to me to join before having my kids. Plenty of other varied forums out there on other things without the mum tag that I would have gone to first . Like I said not saying it should be just for mums just it wouldn’t have appealed to me in the first place before kids So wouldn’t have known it was about more than that ....

Don’t the people who start these threads every other week even look at the forum before they post?

If you look at the list of topics, or even just active conversations, it is blindingly obvious that a hell of a lot of it has zilch to do with kids.

I don’t have kids. not for the want of trying believe me.
Don’t see why I can’t still use the forum for support/advice/chat. it was actually invaluable for each of my losses.

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Because I enjoy the non child related topics and find MN gives great advice on many non child related issues.

@Workingmummyguilt What other forums would you like the non mums to trot off to?

Plenty of other varied forums out there on other things without the mum tag that I would have gone to first

Like what? I haven't found one I like. I posted here for ten years before he my kids myself.

@tryionsnextwife , no need for the rudeness. I have lots of friends without children who lead amazingly interesting and varied lives and until very recently had none myself, and even after becoming a mum have lots of other interests in my life so no of course I don’t think that . I was clear that I wasn’t judging anyone , unlike you who are clearly judging me without reason

They’re here to leaven with some sparkle the rest of us who have turned into mindless drudge mumdrones the second we delivered the placenta. Obviously.

Nobody asked me to piss on a stick/show proof of the existence of children when I signed up.

I stick around because I enjoy the discussions. And the shite trolls

Plus there's some funny fuckers on here.

Use your imagination.

Yawn

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Why do people who've been here for ages try and stop threads? If you've been here ages, seen the question a thousand times, then don't bloody respond! There are so many posts on here and yet you choose to join one that clearly bore you.
Makes no sense.

And in answer to the OP, I don't get it either. Prior to having children or ttcing I would never have joined Mumsnet even if I was looking for info that wasn't mum related . It seemed at the time a place for boring mums to complain about their lives.

Despite the hundreds of threads on here, I would go to either somewhere more 'hip' e.g Instagram, YouTube or go onto other forums for more financial related issues. Therefore it is not unreasonable to ask the question.

Have you ever actually read this forum?

Ventured outside the becoming a parent and being a parent sections?

If not give it a try and maybe you will answer your own question?

If you look at the list of sub-forums you'll see a raft of topics that don't directly relate to parenting. That should be enough to tell you that the forum management do not intend MN to be solely for parents or about parenting. Ultimately, forums need to be active or they die and the more restrictive you make them the less active they tend to be.

You've been given a bit of kicking for asking but at least you're one step above those who want to try and dictate that it should only be open to "mums".

You're the one who was being rude by implying that only parents should be here - your op was practically begging for people to come and agree with how the childless masses are ruining your special mum's club.

Advance search is there for a reason.

I have lots of children but prefer housekeeping, gardening, weather, style & beauty & many of the other non parenting topics.

I was clear that I wasn’t judging anyone

Yet that is exactly what you have done.

Too idle to search for any previous threads on this?

Never mind, you're probably only number 785 to have such an original thought.

I find it odd that non parents are on a parenting forum

I guess that you have missed the numerous threads and topics that have sod all to do with being a parent then.

@lboogy Why would you go to Instagram or YouTube to ask a question about work or relationships?

@croesoY1 I’m a non parent. but I’ve had a miscarriage and a 20 week loss and this forum provided a wealth of information and support.
I still don’t have children - does that mean it’s weird for me to be here? I don’t think it is
There’s a multitude of topics - I find threads on health anxiety particularly helpful - that have no relation to child rearing or ttc at all