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Hosting - Is this CFery?

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ChampagneMamaBear · 16/02/2019 12:02

Hi all NC’d this post as I know the women are on here.

Ok, so I have a group of 3 friends and we are all in a chat together. I like all the girls and we get on well. However this has been annoying me so much recently - whenever something is suggested it is just expected to be at my house? Even when they want to do something it’ll just be expected to be at my place - I won’t even have invited them.

So at Christmas we decided we would all get together and have a dinner together. I agreed saying it would be nice to have a meal all together. The day before one girl (let’s call her Helen) put a message in the chat asking what time I wanted everyone? I didn’t even know it was expected for me to have everyone round and cook ANOTHER Christmas dinner for them? It annoyed me, I said I wasn’t hosting and they all went into a strop about how we had to go out for a meal now and they were skint? No thought for me when they were expecting me to buy everything and cook for them all - it was actually cheaper for me to go out!!!

This stuck in my mind and then yesterday I checked the group chat after work to see a load of messages.
Helen again had suggested as the weather is getting nicer we should all have a BBQ. Everyone sending in messages agreeing and the last message was from another girl saying “champagne???? We need to know when we’re coming to yours for the BBQ so we can put it in the diary”

WHY THE FUCK WOULD IT BE AT MY HOUSE?!
Is it just me who thinks if you suggest an event, you’re offering to host? Not ‘I wanna do this, you host an event to facilitate that’

It’s really pissed me off and I haven’t replied as I feel like they take the piss all the time. They can see I’ve read the chat and now Helen has text me privately saying “you’ve seen the chat, so when’s the BBQ then?”

ARGH FUCK OFF

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Handsoffmysweets · 16/02/2019 12:27

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runsmidgeOMG · 16/02/2019 12:28

Absolutely awful behaviour on their part ! And Helen appears to be the ringleader. I really really hope they see this thread and give their heads a wobble !

Jaxhog · 16/02/2019 12:29

or you could just say that you've had your turn with the work and cost of hosting for x times now, and it's time for the others to take a turn or three.

Then find some better friends.

TaimaandRanyasBestFriend · 16/02/2019 12:29

Wow so on the private message from Helen she has said to me
“Your house isn’t as nice as everyone else’s because it’s a house share and we have more bills and boyfriends that live with us. It’s just easier at yours and we can relax more”

WHY are you wasting headspace and time on these cunts? They're NOT friends! They're using bitches who see you as someone they can bully and rip the piss out of you. They don't like you, they see you as a doormat.

'Fuck you all. Go host yourselves you condescending load of pisstaking, bullying bitches. Hope your cunts fall out. Bye!'

And then delete.

Reastie · 16/02/2019 12:29

What a rude message from Helen! I read that as they want to come to a house that they don’t need to worry if it gets ruined. I think it’s one thing to expect you to host (which is bad enough) but another to not offer to share bringing food (like offering to bring drinks or do pot luck etc) and then to tell you they like it at yours because your house isn’t as nice is so rude! I’d avoid.

ohfourfoxache · 16/02/2019 12:29

Make sure you block them all in every way possible. Nasty little cunts Angry

NoSquirrels · 16/02/2019 12:29

Very glad to hear you have other, nicer friends! What arseholes. You're well rid.

ThanosSavedMe · 16/02/2019 12:30

Well done champagne. Pretty sure you won’t miss them.

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ChampagneMamaBear · 16/02/2019 12:30

Yes they’ll have to either trash their houses or spend money on going out now - WITHOUT ME! Let’s see how long they stay friends 😂

Tbh I think they see all my different groups of friends all having fun and meeting at my place on social media and they are probably jealous and left out. But my other friends contribute and help clean up after we meet and I love having them round!
Not these entitled fuckers!!!!

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RedDogsBeg · 16/02/2019 12:30

They've well and truly shown you what they think of you, haven't they. Just cut them all off, life is too short to waste any of it on people like them.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 16/02/2019 12:30

I'd put Helen's private message on the group chat and add
"I will not be continuing to host, pay for and clean up after your jollies. You can pick the next least nice house to descend upon!"

And then leave the group!

blackteasplease · 16/02/2019 12:31

Horrendous. They are being so blatant to say their houses can't be wrecked but yours can. Unbelievable!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 16/02/2019 12:31

Cross posted!

Stick it all on facebook and tell the whole bloody world what bitches they are!

Debruary · 16/02/2019 12:32

Wtf are y’all doing at these events that places are getting trashed

SubparOwl · 16/02/2019 12:32

They sound terrible, selfish and unpleasant. The messages make it perfectly clear they know you would rather take turns, and they don't care. Tell them straight that someone else needs to take a turn or you need to go out. If they complain, they aren't your friends. Honestly from those private messages I'd say Helen at least would be no loss.

NoSquirrels · 16/02/2019 12:32

How much "trashing" goes on? How old are you all?

We'd have house parties and BBQs and all sorts in our twenties but no one trashed anything... bit of cleaning up after, jobs a good un. If they're never going to host anything in their "nice" houses then life will be very dull for them for a long, long time.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 16/02/2019 12:33

When you've read so many different posts about how cheeky people can be - another one, like yours, appears.
I think you've been too nice - which why this has been happening. The "friendship" ratio sounds 3 versus 1.
You need to find new friends - even if you don't, or it takes a while, this trio need jettisoned.

UniversalAunt · 16/02/2019 12:33

Dear Helen,

You’re an abnoxious, cheeky, stuck up cunt. Take your BBQ, Boyfriend & Bills & shove them up your over entitled arse.

Lots of love,

Champagne & AIBU@MN xx

Blackbear10 · 16/02/2019 12:34

Wow they are CF’ers!!

How bloody rude Shock

They don’t sound like good friends...or very nice people tbh.

How about linking the thread in the group chat.

Urbanvoltaire · 16/02/2019 12:34

You're better off without them and you've different circles of friends who contribute so farewell to this lot.

Good on you, telling them to jog on!

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ChampagneMamaBear · 16/02/2019 12:34

Haha Debruary nothing wild but cleaning up after drinks/food can take up time or effort.
They wanna come to mine, make mess and leave!

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MorningRichie · 16/02/2019 12:34

Great update.

PS Helen, if you read this, you're a bitch

RedDogsBeg · 16/02/2019 12:34

If they are on here I hope they see this thread and realise what absolute arseholes they are.

Enjoy your social life and time without these wasters, OP.

fezzesarecool · 16/02/2019 12:36

That’s so bloody rude!

Great job ditching them op, it’ll be interesting who’s house they decide on next

CuriousMama · 16/02/2019 12:38

Bloody hell thank God you've come to your senses and fucked them off!

I'm glad you have other nice friends. Mind you I'd rather have none than this lot of CFs.

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