To be pissed off he's still in bed

[Thegoodthere]

Went to bed last night with a horrendous toothache from a botched root canal. Have been awake at various points of the night taking co-codamol and looking after our DD, who still occasionally wakes in the night. Last night told DH I'd be going to minor injuries today.

DD came into my bed at half 6 this morning. We cuddled / played for a while then got up and went downstairs. DH still in bed, leaving me to to look over DD. For context, I've done 99 percent of night waking / early morning wake ups since DD was very little (she's now 3).

So selfish.

swing

If my dh had toothache (or any other pain/illness come to that) he absolutely would not need to ask me to get up with our children, bring him some pain killers etc etc. Some people on MN have some very strange ideas about what a marriage is.

But he might not care doing so. He might however care to go out to the pub.

Thats the problem, we are assuming others need or wish for the same things as us. They don't. So men ask, women brew!

The OP didn't want to go to the pub though! She wanted some support with THEIR child whilst feeling pained. If you can't see the difference between the two things then there's no hope.

@skunkatanka, you ce arly fail to get my pint which confirms the issue.

Men are not mindreaders any better than we are. OP didn't forcibly appreciate that OP wanted him to get up the second their child was up just like OP probably fails to understand at times what her OP would appreciate from her.

Hence posters saying that if you want something and not getting it will lead in brewed resentment, just say what you want!

swingofthings
Are you messaging from the 1950s?

The thing is though swing that when you have young children they tend to wake up early at which point SOMEONE needs to get up. The OPs dh clearly decided that that should be the OP, despite the fact that she was in pain, which he knew.

My point is that a decent husband who actually gives a damn wouldn't need asking!

So rather than ask despite this viewpoint, the OP should have just carried on fuming? ‘I shouldn’t have ask’ is cold comfort when you’re sat waiting for a revelation that will never happen.

Oh I think we have a pissed off man among us pretending to be a woman.

What's wrong swingofthings, did your dw not agree to you disappearing to the pub last night, while she satyed at home making your dinner, waiting to rub your feet at home like a good wifey? Or are you a brainwashed housewife with a misogynistic twat of a husband?

Do woman not need to "let of steam" or are they just their to facilitate their dh needs at all times.

Your second post doesn't even make sense. However your comparison is ridiculous, but good try.... well not really.

There

Oh I think we have a pissed off man among us pretending to be a woman.

Because all women have the same opinion?

StillCoughingandLaughing

No. HTH

Then why have you assumed Swing must be a man?

Read the post. I honest to god do not believe a woman would type something so ridiculous.

‘Read the post’? How do you think I knew what was in it - osmosis?

How do you think I knew what was in it - osmosis?

What? 😂

Well I can only assume you are being purposely obtuse then.

Or that I disagree with you?

He got up of his own accord around 8am and we're behaving perfectly fine to one another. He's offered to take DD out so I can get some rest until my emergency appointment at the dentist this afternoon

What a bastard. Such unreasonable behaviour 🙄

Or that I disagree with you?

Well I kind of guessed that.
I still don't know what your point is, or if you expect and answer to the question in your last post.