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To ask a teacher out for a drink ........?

84 replies

Disney2017 · 14/02/2019 19:03

First time poster, so please be gentle. I have massive middle age crush on teacher at Ds's school.. He's not Ds's teacher. Lots of eye contact made, but no reason to speak to each other..Don't want to make a massive arse of myself by asking him for a drink/making it known that I like him, as obviously have to do school run everyday and do not wish to be laughing stock of staff room "ha ha Disney's mum.asked me out" . Also have no idea if he's in a relationship. His FB status states he's single but he he hasn't been active on FB for past year. Should I just admire from a distance and bite the bullet this is a lost clause? Or do I risk making a total.arse of myself? Suggestions please!

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Houseonahill · 14/02/2019 19:05

I wouldn't could end up very messy and i would have been mortified if my mum dated a teacher at my school

hazell42 · 14/02/2019 19:06

I wouldn't. Perhaps other posters have good experiences but I would be worried about having to go to the school gate for the next x years if it didn't workout

ATBhinchers · 14/02/2019 19:06

Life's so short. Go for it!!!

VeniVidiViciTwice · 14/02/2019 19:06

I think I would admire from a distance - but then I'm a bit of a chicken!

Bobbycat121 · 14/02/2019 19:07

I wouldnt, I have a
massive crush on my sons teacher but I wouldnt dream of trying to act on it!

MuddyMoose · 14/02/2019 19:07

I wouldn't. If you've got the wrong end of the stick or it did end up sour then you could cause backlash for your child or make him the victim of playground gossip & bullying.

Theimpossiblegirl · 14/02/2019 19:07

Don't do it. I think it is very frowned upon (possibly not allowed at all) for teachers to date parents so he'd probably have to decline. Professional boundaries and all that.

WinterfellWench · 14/02/2019 19:08

OMG no, no way.

Don't even go there! Confused

Leeds2 · 14/02/2019 19:09

I wouldn't, at least whilst your DC is at the school. Potentially embarrassing for all concerned, regardless of whether he says yes or no.

MightyAtlantic · 14/02/2019 19:09

Nope, don't do it! Just enjoy the crush.

ShadyLady53 · 14/02/2019 19:09

Has he ever given you any inkling that he’s interested in you? I don’t think you should ask him out unless you know for definite that he’s actually single.

recrudescence · 14/02/2019 19:09

I can’t imagine a more awful fate. And I speak as a former teacher.

LLOE7 · 14/02/2019 19:09

I say go for it. He's not actually your dc teacher so I don't see the issue.

Greensleeves · 14/02/2019 19:10

God, no, I'm cringing for you! Go and have a cold shower Grin

hippoherostandinghere · 14/02/2019 19:10

Do you know anyone else who works in the school that could possible sound him out for you?

formerbabe · 14/02/2019 19:10

Don't do it!

MissClareRemembers · 14/02/2019 19:11

No way. It’ll be against their staff behaviour policy.

NameChangeNugget · 14/02/2019 19:11

Please don’t

BlueSuffragette · 14/02/2019 19:12

No way do this. Wait til child left school and see if they contact you then. If not, then try it but in no way do it whilst child is at the school.

Skittlesss · 14/02/2019 19:12

No, I wouldn’t do anything. I think it would be frowned upon by the school, so if you ask him he may have to say no. If he could, and wanted to, then he would ask you.

I think schools are funny about parent-teacher relations. One of my old friends from school teaches at my DC’s school, when he realised my children went to “his” school he swiftly blocked me from FB. No other reason explaining it as we didn’t interact that much - just the odd comment and I totally understand why he wouldn’t want a parent (whose child may end up in his class) being on his FB.

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 14/02/2019 19:13

I work in a school. I would lose respect for any Teacher who responded positively to being asked out by a parent at school. It would be really inappropriate. Not to mention embarrassing for your child.

EvaHarknessRose · 14/02/2019 19:13

You’re just going to have to volunteer at all the pta events until you can strike up a conversation. Or friend request on facebook or something.

Amanduh · 14/02/2019 19:13

No no no no no

seven201 · 14/02/2019 19:14

I don't think there's anything in my school's policy about not dating parents. Don't think I would though. Enjoy the crush.

CripsSandwiches · 14/02/2019 19:14

Is it primary school? I would just admire from a distance to be honest. I do know a woman who went as a parent volunteer on an overnight school trip and ended up hooking up with one of the teachers - they're still together (although her kids have moved on to secondary). I know the school weren't at all happy about it but the teacher is still at the school apparently.