To ask a teacher out for a drink ........?

[Disney2017]

First time poster, so please be gentle. I have massive middle age crush on teacher at Ds's school.. He's not Ds's teacher. Lots of eye contact made, but no reason to speak to each other..Don't want to make a massive arse of myself by asking him for a drink/making it known that I like him, as obviously have to do school run everyday and do not wish to be laughing stock of staff room "ha ha Disney's mum.asked me out" . Also have no idea if he's in a relationship. His FB status states he's single but he he hasn't been active on FB for past year. Should I just admire from a distance and bite the bullet this is a lost clause? Or do I risk making a total.arse of myself? Suggestions please!

You’re just going to have to volunteer at all the pta events until you can strike up a conversation. Or friend request on facebook or something.

I second this!!! You need to suss him out first.

I wouldn't ask him out directly. Play it a little bit cool and like someone else said volunteer at events etc...and try to be where he is now and again (no stalking!!) And there's no harm in saying hello to him next time you see him. He's just a man! When you get to know him you might not want him anyway so stay cool!!!!! ☃☃☃

Thought about this thread today as I was talking to my sister
on the phone, my sons teacher stopped to talk to me so I told her to hang on and after he went my sister commented that I was flirting with him! So mortified as she didnt even know I fancied him until then...so I must have been so bloody obvious! didnt realise I was Now im embarrased to see him again. So if youre gonna speak to him try to be abit more subtle than me 😭

Your child is at school to learn. It is their space. Why would you jeopardize this in any way?

I did with a teaching assistant a few years ago and it ended VERY messily.

We dated for about 3 months and DC never knew (still don't) but rest of school mums, then headmistress etc did and it really didn't end well.

Hey ho.

I think the general consensus is "don't go there !" With a few encouraging "go for it". Wish I was brave enough to "go for it" but have thought about repercussions. Also not even sure he likes me! We have spoken, but in a group setting. I think I'm just reading too much into it and everyone's comments have confirmed it's pretty much a no go area. I've not shared my "clrush" with even my closest friends or indeed anyone at all. If I did pluck up the courage to speak to him I would never share this with anyone. Saying that makes it seeml kinda shady, but seriously since I have read your replies I'm going to "wean " myself off him 😀....need to look.elsewhere..Shame though as I've not felt this way for a long time. Think I've just fallen for a charismatic man who is friendly and engaging with everyone .

I'm a teacher. I know many teacher / parent relationships. Go for it.

Seriously? I work in a school and we're not even allowed to be Facebook friends with parents, let alone date them!

Meh
Why a disaster ? Kids doesn’t have to know until it’s serious
And don’t tell people . It’s very simple !

If it turns out it's meant to be you'll both find a way around it and like the other person just said the kids don't have to know until it's serious anyway. Just go with the flow and see what happens. Don't write him off just yet!!! Being a single mum you'll be used to being discreet already and it's nobody else's business anyway. Good luck!!! 💗