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And so it begins: Valentine's Day extravaganza

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Enni2S · 14/02/2019 07:07

My DH (late twenties, married 4 years, no kids) has just gone to work. This morning, I woke him up and asked him to get me a hot water bottle for my 'dodgy tummy' (some top class acting was involved). What he found when he got downstairs is one of those ridiculously oversized and unnecessary Moonpig cards, exclaiming my endless adoration and love. To top it all off, I bought him a box of his favourite fudge chocolates, delivered all the way from the South of England.

Now, I'm going to watch him sweat all day as he tries to figure out how he could possibly pretend that he got me something similarly impressive all along.

So here's the backstory. DH and I normally don't really do Valentine's Day. Sometimes we get each other a card, but mostly we just sit on our high horses laughing at the 'fools' who engage in such a money-driven and meaningless celebration. Then two weeks ago, DH suddenly asked what we were doing for Valentine's Day as surely we celebrate every year? I'm aware that DH's memory is shocking, but this was a new one. Knowing that he would never remember the conversation, I started an elaborate ruse, to prank him today. All week I've been giving subtle hints about how 'excited' I am, interspersed with claims that I wouldn't get anything as it's a man to a woman thing (sometimes the end justifies the means). I hid my presents and performed some top class puppy dog eyes to complete the spectacle.

DH seemed strangely unfazed by this morning events. HAS HE ACTUALLY MADE PLANS?? Shock My DH, who lovingly told me not to worry about the shopping last week as he'd take care of it, before asking me to write a list, come up with meal plans and provide a detailed map of the supermarket in case he couldn't find something?!

I'm intrigued. I will keep you guys updated on how the 'romance' unfolds. Whether he's planned something or not, it's a win win for me. Either I get a nice surprise, or I get to laugh at him trying to talk his way out of the situation without hurting my feelings. Grin Grin Wine

OP posts:
Crustaceans · 14/02/2019 09:07

It’s the first Valentine’s Day with my BF so obviously the high point of effort. And (also obviously, I think) we don’t live together. So he’s coming over later and has booked a meal out. He send me flowers yesterday and has put find champagne in my fridge.

He did say that he usually doesn’t think eating out on Valentine’s Day is usually great (and I agreed that wasn’t necessary). In trying to express how low maintenance re: Valentine’s Day I am, I told him that I didn’t receive so much as a card in at least the last 8 years with my ex. So he’s decided that we need to ‘do it properly’ (which wasn’t my intention).

For my part, I’ve just written a soppy message in a card and I’ve bought him some stupidly expensive beer he likes (with a matching glass). So I guess that I lose, if it’s a competition. 😆 Luckily it’s not one though.

NCjustforthisthread · 14/02/2019 09:12

You are gleefully setting your partner up to fail? Sorry OP - you sound mean. Are you done insta influencer who also records everything for your followers? Just the way you write and your elaborate ruse sounds ott and attention grabbing.

nettie434 · 14/02/2019 09:12

I thought it was funny Enni2s. Hope you both have a great evening when he arrives home either shame faced or with a lovely present. Saying this as someone who is feeling very old and never gets Valentine’s stuff because there are a few comments that come across as a bit mean. Those chocolates sound worth investigating too!

Pinkbells · 14/02/2019 09:13

Hope you don't leave him confused like this about more important aspects of your relationship!

Dahlietta · 14/02/2019 09:19

I move between loathing VD and completely forgetting it exists

Fortunately I've never had to worry about VD, but I can see why you would loathe it. Grin

GetOffTheTableMabel · 14/02/2019 09:21

This is absolutely, definitely funny.

Yippeee · 14/02/2019 09:22

I can’t see how it’s a prank.

Ridingthegravytrain · 14/02/2019 09:25

My husband sent me a message saying I love you, followed by loads of heart emojis and then a vomiting one. I replied that unless he posts it all over Facebook he clearly doesn’t mean it!!

VD chicken sounds fun (so long as I am understanding correctly what the VD stands for in this scenario Grin)

slcol · 14/02/2019 09:25

God some people are shitty. If you think the OP is dull, stupid or whatever wtf post? Why would you want to attempt to make someone feel bad about themselves? Because your actions and posts say more about you than they do the OP, and it ain't pretty.

thebabessavedme · 14/02/2019 09:26

OP i get you! this is just the sort of thing me and dh do - i got up this morning to find the bugger has left me a card.

insecure123 · 14/02/2019 09:27

My word there are some miserable sods about eh. Sounds like a bit of fun OP. Enjoy. i got a hot water bottle from OH as I am always cold :)

TulipsTwoLips · 14/02/2019 09:30

That’s an awful lot of words for a really dull story!

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 14/02/2019 09:30

We celebrate but try and keep it low key. DP takes me for dinner on/near the day and pays and we swap cards and chocolate. So a standard dinner date with a little something extra. We had dinner at Gaucho last night and he got me green and blacks chocolates and macaroons from Paul. I gave him a mix of sweeties from hotel chocolat. And I got wished a happy Valentine's today.

He's quite a good gift giver but he's so snowed under atm that I feel really lucky that he's tried so much.

ketchupormayo · 14/02/2019 09:33

Me and my DH have been together 8 years, 2nd V day married. He actually asked me yesterday if I could pick up some flowers and a card for myself! I'm spending the flower money on a pedicure instead and we're not doing cards. The romance is dead!

TitsalinaBumSquash · 14/02/2019 09:44

I'm not big on V day and large romantic gestures in general, however this year I'm several hours away from home in hospital with DS1 and DH is at home with the other 3 children.
He tucked a card into my suitcase as I left and I sent him (and the kids) a card and a basket of sweets in the post.
I'm slightly grateful to be away from all the pressure of performing as society expects because it happens to be Feb 14 if I'm honest.

Jaxhog · 14/02/2019 09:58

We still do cards, and we've been married for nearly 42 years!

ciderhouserules · 14/02/2019 10:14

I don't like the idea of setting your dp up to fail, OP.

We don't 'do' Valentines day; I get a card, he gets a card. I'll prob do the nice steaks I bought yesterday for dinner today; he might get me a bunch of daffs from lidl Waitrose. No pressure.

I certainly wouldn't want to lead him on that I'd done nothing, then put a lot of thought into a rather nice card and choc, and snigger that he is now panicking and running about trying to 'match' it. Sounds a bit mean to me.

Especially when you then post on an International forum, for others to snigger too.

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 14/02/2019 10:32

I don’t get your ‘prank’ to be honest OP

I bought dp a card, 2 gifts, and have booked a restaurant for the weekend

dp bought me a card and is flying me away for a week, which I am so excited about!

We also cooked a lovely meal last night and enjoyed some very nice wine!

Magicstar1 · 14/02/2019 10:57

I don't see why so many people are having a go at OP...obviously it's a bit of fun...she's not expecting him to fail to make him miserable!

My DH told me he had to go out for while last night (going for flowers), and then realised he'd no money in his account, couldn't remember his online passwords, and asked me to transfer money from his other account to pay for them Grin. Now he's all mysterious and saying I'll have to wait until tonight to see if he got me anything Wink. We have a laugh about it...not everything has to be so serious.

mummmy2017 · 14/02/2019 11:10

It should be a fun day.
You send the card because you want to..
If the OP and her DH enjoy the in joke of will he, won't he.. then is that not in it's self doing something for valentine's Day .

joyfullittlehippo · 14/02/2019 11:17

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Jenala · 14/02/2019 11:26

Ahahahahahahahahahahahahaha there's some sour faced, boring posters on here this morning

Valentine's day is very serious dontcha know OP. Either presents and cards and romance are Very Important And Serious And It Must Be Special
or
It's All Silly And Our Relationship Is Far Too Evolved For Such Commercialism.

There is no middle ground and you are a bad, bad, terrible person for even trying.

toastonbean · 14/02/2019 11:30

There are some real Vday grinches around aren't there?!

It's like a competition for who can care less about 14th Feb Grin

We don't celebrate it but I secretly would quite love a bunch of daffs or something

Santaclarita · 14/02/2019 11:32

Well unlike some dim people on here I get your prank op. Grin Not a bad idea either, bet he is planning something to try and outdo you. Grin

2rach · 14/02/2019 11:39

I'm looking forward to hearing what he has or hasn't done!

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