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DH still hasnt eaten dessert I made for our 4 year anniversary?

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Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 12:42

Ok so I fully expect to be told that IABU about this Grin . This post may be long and slightly windy, just so I dont drip feed.

My DH and I are saving as much as we can because we want to buy a new house next year. We decided that instead of going out to dinner, he will cook dinner and I'll make dessert.

I spent the whole morning baking from scratch an apple pie. It took so long because I had never made one before. I put it in the fridge and showed my DH the pie when he got home from work and he said he couldnt wait to try it. So the next day it was our anniversary so while he cooked dinner I got out the candles and a couple drinks.

Dinner was quite hearty and DH didnt feel like dessert afterwards but said he will have pie tomorrow. That's fine, I still had a piece and I thought it was pretty good!

So now onto the part where I'm a little bit annoyed. This apple pie has been sitting in the fridge for 5 days now and he either keeps forgetting to have some or doesnt feel like dessert. I took 2 slices into work for the girls in my area and he said jokingly "how come you're giving away my pie?".

So today he says he will take the pie into work but he forgets it. Again.

I just think it's a little rude to have not tried a little bit of it within 5 days?
Again, I'm probably just being petty.

Please be gentle with me Grin

OP posts:
halfwitpicker · 07/02/2019 12:45

Just bin it

BeardofZeus · 07/02/2019 12:46

Eat it!!

ricepolo · 07/02/2019 12:46

Whenever my husband does something like that I have to consciously remind myself that his intention is not to hurt me. He’s not trying to upset me. He’s on the same team as me. He’s just not focusing on what I would focus on.

Unless you have reason to think that your husband would be actively messing with you, such as he’s done this sort of thing before, in which case this needs to be a whole other conversation, I’m sure he’s just not thinking, however much that bugs you....

ILoveMaxiBondi · 07/02/2019 12:47

Does he like apple pie? Grin

Bombardier25966 · 07/02/2019 12:47

My partner isn't mad on sweet things, he'd keep forgetting about it too.

I'd eat it myself.

BIgBagofJelly · 07/02/2019 12:47

Aww I'd be disappointed too. That was your way of showing him you love him - you put loads of effort in! Really he should have had a little slice after the anniversary dinner to be polite even if he was full. It does sound like he might just be being oblivious though. I'd just let him know you'd really like him to try it as you worked so hard!

CurtainsOpen · 07/02/2019 12:47

Just serve it up. Blokes are lazy.

SneakyGremlins · 07/02/2019 12:48

Tell him he's not having a main meal til he eats the pie Grin

TipseyTorvey · 07/02/2019 12:48

Does he have a sweet tooth normally? My DH will say he'll have pudding but after a heavy Sunday roast will then say 'maybe later' and never get around to it. He's probably thinking it's not your anniversary any more so lost interest. Next time just buy something from M&S so it's not personal if he forgets. Did you have a nice evening beside that?

SingaporeSlinky · 07/02/2019 12:49

Are you sure he likes apple pie? I think by now I would have just asked him, and he’s he’s been too full after dinner, asked him to at least try a mouthful.
Just finish it yourself, and if he mentions it again, tell him it hurt your feelings that you went to the effort to make it and he couldn’t even be bothered to taste it once in 5 days.

Original poster
Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 12:49

Rice Ricepolo I love food, if someone makes me something to eat I eat it pretty well that day, which is probably why I'm a bit Confused that he hasnt touched it.

You're right that he isnt trying to do it intentionally

Ilovemaxibondi well I told him I was making it and he said great cant wait! Grin

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FlagFish · 07/02/2019 12:49

I’d be upset too! But I can imagine DH doing this. I’m sure he doesn’t mean to hurt your feelings OP.

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Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 12:50

I must say TipsyTorvey that he has a bit of a sweet tooth. His preference is chocolate however.

Evening was quite nice! Watched Titanic together (corny, I know) and then a nice early bedtime haha

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Dotty1970 · 07/02/2019 12:52

Leave him

CatnissEverdene · 07/02/2019 12:52

I think he doesn't like apple pie. And next time he asks about pudding, say "don't fancy spending hours making something for it to sit in the fridge thanks all the same".

I made DH a victoria sponge Monday afternoon. It was all gone by Tuesday evening Hmm

Grobagsforever · 07/02/2019 12:59

He sat through the Titanic? @Waterbottle1999 ?

Bugger the pie, he obviously loves you a lot to endure that shit

WinnieFosterTether · 07/02/2019 13:06

That would annoy me. If I've baked, I expect DH to eat it as soon as it cools Grin
I agree with a PP. Treat him like a reluctant toddler, serve up the pie with every cup of tea, breakfast, lunch, dinner until he eats it Wink

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 07/02/2019 13:08

Shock the ingratitude!

Put lots of squirty cream on (what's left of) your beautiful creation and pie him in the face.

WhoGivesADamnForAFlakeyBandit · 07/02/2019 13:11

Next year will be much easier.

TchoupiEtDoudou · 07/02/2019 13:12

I understand. I sometimes feel like that although now I have it sussed.

For DH I have to time it right. He doesn't like sweet things in the evening but will scoff anything left over the next morning for breakfast.

If I time it right though (usually end of the morning), an entire 3-egg cake mixture will have disappeared before bedtime between the 4 of us Smile

Anything left over is fought over by DH and the DSes the next morning.

neveradullmoment99 · 07/02/2019 13:12

5 days!!! I would bin it now!

DerelictWreck · 07/02/2019 13:14

And next time he asks about pudding, say "don't fancy spending hours making something for it to sit in the fridge thanks all the same"

Jesus, don't be that passive aggressive.

Agree homemade pie needs binning by this point though! And I'm normally pretty lax with dates etc!

Original poster
Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 13:16

Grobags I was impressed! Although he did spend quite a lot of time on his phone playing games, but whatever works. I'm slightly ashamed to say I quite enjoy Titanic haha

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ColdFingered · 07/02/2019 13:18

On the side issue - it's in the fridge. It'll last way longer than five days! Don't waste food by binning it!!!

Hollywhiskey · 07/02/2019 13:18

Sorry, this would really annoy me. Food and love are not the same thing. I have relatives who mix them up and are really hurt if you don't eat whatever it is they have which has been quite problematic when I was trying to lose weight.
I'd be a bit annoyed with him for keeping telling you he'll have it later if that's not his intention, but he shouldn't have to force feed himself to show his appreciation. (He also shouldn't have asked you to make it).