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DH still hasnt eaten dessert I made for our 4 year anniversary?

90 replies

Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 12:42

Ok so I fully expect to be told that IABU about this Grin . This post may be long and slightly windy, just so I dont drip feed.

My DH and I are saving as much as we can because we want to buy a new house next year. We decided that instead of going out to dinner, he will cook dinner and I'll make dessert.

I spent the whole morning baking from scratch an apple pie. It took so long because I had never made one before. I put it in the fridge and showed my DH the pie when he got home from work and he said he couldnt wait to try it. So the next day it was our anniversary so while he cooked dinner I got out the candles and a couple drinks.

Dinner was quite hearty and DH didnt feel like dessert afterwards but said he will have pie tomorrow. That's fine, I still had a piece and I thought it was pretty good!

So now onto the part where I'm a little bit annoyed. This apple pie has been sitting in the fridge for 5 days now and he either keeps forgetting to have some or doesnt feel like dessert. I took 2 slices into work for the girls in my area and he said jokingly "how come you're giving away my pie?".

So today he says he will take the pie into work but he forgets it. Again.

I just think it's a little rude to have not tried a little bit of it within 5 days?
Again, I'm probably just being petty.

Please be gentle with me Grin

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Tinty · 07/02/2019 14:34

His preference is chocolate however.

Why didn't you make him something chocolate? Maybe he only likes the shop bought apple pie. Maybe your 2 year old niece told him it was blurrgghh Grin

If I were you I would make him a chocolate dessert as a second anniversary treat as he (obviously) didn't fancy the first one.

Melt Chocolate, whip some whipping cream, mix together stick in fridge and crumble some flake on the top.

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Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 14:43

To be fair, he cant really know he doesnt like it if he hasnt even tried it Grin

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UnleashTheBulsara · 07/02/2019 14:48

Maybe your 2 year old niece told him it was blurrgghh

Maybe your niece told him she helped make it whilst earnestly picking her nose

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Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 14:50

Fortunately my niece was distracted with some foam blocks so left my pie alone

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UnleashTheBulsara · 07/02/2019 15:01

Well, kudos to you for going to the trouble to make it OP. So much easier to buy one, especially if you're not, ahem! a natural at baking.

Personally I think you've been quite generous. If my DH hadn't eaten a pudding I'd made in 5 seconds hours, I'd feel my efforts were being spurned. And finish it off to help him out.

We like our puddings though (hence the midriff spare tyre)

ittakes2 · 07/02/2019 15:08

I would have eaten the pie all myself - I would be delighted if my hubby left the pie for me!

RhiWrites · 07/02/2019 15:10

It’s just as well my OH doesn’t bake because it takes me forever to fancy a pudding. We now have a rule that after a couple of offers he eats whatever it is (usually donuts or something he’s bought from the shop).

I do bake and he always eats my creations (unless they’re made with whey protein powder of which he holds a suspicious distrust.) I’d rather live with him than another me.

Dragongirl10 · 07/02/2019 15:16

Personally l would be delighted as l LOVE apple pie......misses point

PlinkPlink · 07/02/2019 15:31

I would eat the whole pie myself. Sod him 😂😂😂

If he was upset you could always make him something else 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

User383673 · 07/02/2019 15:33

Is is still nice after 5 days?!

longtimelurkerhelen · 07/02/2019 15:37

Hot apple pie and ice cream is food of the gods! YANBU

Pinkbells · 07/02/2019 15:37

Oh god, life is too short to get upset about a half eaten apple pie! Maybe he just doesn't fancy it. Make him a chocolate torte?

SuePerb · 07/02/2019 15:42

haha on the love language thing. It's clearly not his love language. you should eat the pie, and just let him buy a chocolate bar next time. I'd be eating the pie for breakfast if it was me.

I think you are being a little bit precious about this.

LoniceraJaponica · 07/02/2019 15:47

I wouldn't have fancied refrigerated apple pie either. IMO pastry has to be fresh out of the oven to taste nice.

LatentPhase · 07/02/2019 15:50

Refuse to make him anything else, serve it up repeatedly to teach him a lesson, a la James Mason in ‘Spring and Port Wine’ Grin

WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 07/02/2019 16:10

My DH would do exactly this as he is not really a pudding man. What I can't get round though is that you still have some left after 5 days, and you gave half of it away. That pie would be gone if it was me, and I would have eaten all of it.!!

TwitterLovesMAPs · 07/02/2019 16:11

It sounds like he doesn’t really like apple pie. Or Titanic. Do you actually know him at all?

Witchend · 07/02/2019 16:19

I would say that he doesn't like apple pie for some reason.

I've done similar on a couple of occasions to dh.
First time was the first time I stayed with him (were students so still living at home). He'd made summer pudding the day before for his family and made me a special one to save. Very sweet and kind. Only thing is I have a real thing about soggy bread. Even the sight can make me vomit. I admired it very much, and appreciated the effort, but had to admit this when it was clear he wanted to watch me eat it.

Another time was a crumble just after we were married. I haven't touched crumble since a particularly bad one was made at school when I was in year 2 and the very scary teacher insisted we ate some. I spent about 2 days being "just about to have some" or "oh dear, I would but I've just brushed my teeth". In this case I pretended I'd eaten some by smoothing out the remainder.
I admitted this about 6 months later.

Mmmmbrekkie · 07/02/2019 17:02

What the fuck is going to kill you about a five day old apple pie that has been stored in the fridge?

Absolutely nothing
But if I’m going to have a treat, it’s not going to be a 5 day old dessert languishing in the fridge

LoniceraJaponica · 07/02/2019 17:23

I imagine that 5 day old pastry that has been languishing in the fridge would be rather unappetising.

BertrandRussell · 07/02/2019 17:29

Just wondering how long people think bought apple pies languish in the fridge before you buy them.....

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Waterbottle1999 · 07/02/2019 17:56

As I previously commented, DH does actually like apple pie. Twitterlovesmaps I find your comment quite unnecessary tbh.

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GallicosCats · 07/02/2019 18:02

I'd ask what he'd like next time. Just say that it took a lot of time and effort and you know it hasn't really worked, so what would he like?

be prepared to be asked to dress up in stockings and suspenders and heels while serving up Dominos

PBo83 · 08/02/2019 08:26

I must confess, I could easily be that man.

For a big guy I don't eat huge amounts and rarely manage a dessert. I also get up early for work (long commute) and always forget something in the morning (normally food).

I don't think he's doing it out of spite, I think he's probably genuinely full/forgetful and actually did intend to eat it (unless it turns out later he doesn't like apple pie).

If I were you I'd eat it yourself before it spoils. You get to enjoy it and, although he might joke, he might be slightly relieved that he doesn't have to try and eat it on a full stomach to avoid hurting your feelings.

As an aside, it's strange how these things play on your mind. My wife kindly made me lunch last week, on day two I actually remembered to take it to work (hurrah!). We had clients in that day though so ordered food in and my lunch stayed in the fridge. Forgot about it entirely the next day (Friday) and come Monday I had to bin it...that played SO heavily on my mind and I felt terrible...so yeah, just eat the pie :)

origamiunicorn · 08/02/2019 08:30

When you're next having a slice put one on his plate and pop it under his nose, I can guarantee he will eat it. Blokes are lazy.

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