To ask if you are nowhere near retirement and exhausted already?

[evaperonspoodle]

We had a winter sun holiday over christmas and I was watching the retired couples who lived there playing tennis and looking really fit and healthily tanned and remarked to DH that that would be us in a few years. He brought me back to earth with a jolt remarked that I will probably not retire for another 30, in which case I'll be 70. I am exhausted as it is, my dc are either secondary school or nearly there and I am so much more tired now then when I had 3 dc under 4. I cannot imagine in 30 years time wanting to do anything other than watch TV under a blanket.

Does anyone else feel like this or AIBU?

I have about 35 years to go. YANBU.

I'm in my twenties and permanently exhausted OP!

Give it another 10 years when you don't have to run around after the kids and your time is more your own you will feel less knackered.

My 20 yo had a stroppy sulk on Saturday night mostly because she was tired but I think largely because we spent the day playing in the snow with the dog whilst she was at work . Her mood still put a bit of a damper on the day though.

I've got just over 10 years to reach the national retirement age but as you can see from my username, I wish it was sooner. Whether I'll actually be able to afford to retire then is another matter. I'll probably have to do part time work of some kind to supplement my pension :-(

I hate to be the bringer of doom but I fear by the time we retire, there won't be much retirement left to have.

I’m 41 and permanently exhausted - my kids are still under 10, so ages to go before I can either retire or have my life back! I’d love to work part time to ease the pressure, but also conscious that the mortgage won’t pay itself off (and the sooner we’re rid of it the easier life will be).

I'm actually quite depressed about this. Glad to see it isn't just me though. Sometimes I feel like I am just surviving rather than living, and I really don't have it that bad So bloody tired though.

I’m 55 and knackered. I work part time and on my days off I’m fine. On work days I’m too tired to do anything when l get home.

But l have to keep going until 67, not sure how l can though.☹️

Yes, am 40 and in a physically demanding job. I can't see me being able to manage it into my late 60s at all. I'm using what bit of spare cash I do have to try and get some different qualifications under my belt so I'm not in that situation. It's slow progress though.

I'm 42, self employed business owner and currently having treatment for breast cancer. Retirement seems a loooooong time away and not very likely. Am actually trying to work out why the fuck I bothered working so hard for the last 10yrs to build this brand

I am close to retiremnet but I don't want to.

I have a small business working from home and I am having a fantastic time.
I earn more than I need, I work part time, I do 3/4 gym classes a week.
I eat well, I feel fit and full of energy.

I am close to 60 and I have more energy- and more fun than I did in my 20s.

Don’t despair, all you PPs! The late 40’s and 50’s can be a very tiring phase of life, where you’re simultaneously trying to deal with the menopause, insomnia, stroppy teenagers, care for elderly parents, and job stress/pressure because you’re now quite senior and the buck stops with you.
Once the kids are off to uni and have matured into civilised lovable adults, you and DH have the house to yourselves and can rekindle the romance as a couple, your elderly relatives are either in care homes, have a care package at home or have gone to meet their maker and left you a lump sum inheritance, and you have made some adjustments at work, you will feel a lot better.
Many of us 60 year olds actually aren’t fully retired- some work part time, some do contracting, some are volunteers. It’s all about finding a balance. I’d advise younger people (20’s, 30’s) to save as much as they can into a good pension pot, to give them more options.
I didn’t really want to retire from my hospital doctor post at 61, and was revalidated til 64, but I was just too enraged by the NHS bureaucracy to continue working for it!

You will all reach happier times eventually, honestly. Hang on in there.

Recently retired after 45 years non stop work, no children so no baby breaks. Friends keep telling me to get out more, do more when all I want to do is watch tv and relax for the first time in nearly half a bloody century of being told what to bloody do all the time. It's never too soon to plan an early retirement

I have about 20 years to go. Not sure how I’m going to get through it. But better than the alternative I suppose.

I've spent the last 4 years studying for a degree alongside full-time work, I've got a place on a graduate scheme to train as an accountant afterwards so another 3-4 years of studying for exams alongside work.... I'm knackered. I want to TTC but I'm not sure I'd cope with a pregnancy, baby, toddler alongside it all. Retirement is 40 years away, I can't imagine dragging my sorry self into work in January at the age of 69, it's bad enough now

BABY BREAKS?? Fuck. Me.

I'n 50 and have another 17 years of full time work to go.

It gets easier once the kids are off your hands and I now have loads of free time.

I do wonder if my brain will be up to it in 17 years though and my joints.

So many of my friends have retired already in early 50s and my ex dh is retiring this year aged 53. If I was still married things would be different.

No baby breaks ha ha bloody ha.

Retired at 57. I know I am one of the lucky ones. No way could I do my job now ( on feet for 12 hour shifts).

Tbh I think the 40’s was the worst. Menopausal, teenagers taxi service etc and your body getting older.

We're both early 50's and counting down to early retirement in two years. DH is part time as of this April. Can't wait. Our enthusiasm and passion for work is over.
We had a plan from age 30:
Pay into work pensions, save what we could without compromising lifestyle, invest any gifts/inheritance rather than spend it, pay off mortgage before retiring.
DD is 18 and working.

I'm 45 and have worked in a physically and mentally exhausting shift work job for 20 years. I have 2 DC's (3 & 5). I'm so tired all the time, I'd love to go PT but it's beneficial to still be FT. Thinking of another 20 years of this doesn't bear thinking about, I'm wishing my life away at the moment.
It also scares me that if I do go PT my pension will suffer as I refuse to rely on my DP for my retirement.

BABY BREAKS?? Fuck. Me.

Lol, I didn't get one of these breaks when I had the DC, where do I apply for mine please? Should it have come with the Bounty pack?

I honestly don't think I'll ever get to retire, at least not as we know it, with this lovely playing tennis and all! If I can actually stop employment I'm sure my DC will need me to help with childcare, which with the shitty way things are in the world, might be the best and only inheritance we can give them.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one.

I don't actually even have a private pension and not even inclined to start one now as I can't imagine what I will need money for at 70+ I'm in denial about needing a care home as I can't see me having the energy to look after potential dgc or take up any sports or travel. My state pension forecast is currently £150 pw and I think that will do me. I plan to down size to a one bed flat/apartment and catch up on the 30+ years of TV that has been recorded yet I haven't had time to watch.

It's difficult to imagine a Time when you aren't permanently knackered when you are in your 30s/40s but you will get there.

Life gets easier bit by bit as the children grow up, but it does seem like forever away when they are little. The old adage is true though and the years fly by until one day you wonder where they have gone. Our role as parents now is relegated to providing taxis and cash . Just remember though that those people playing tennis, chilling, having lunch etc all felt like you when they were working full time and had small children and they never thought that day would come either.

Lol at “baby breaks”.

I am 50. My children are adults and don’t live here.

However, I work full time in a very physical job, am marathon training and caring for my Dad who has cancer, dementia, and all sorts of other problems going on and lives 100 miles away.

I am bloody exhausted.

Yes. I wish I could retire sometimes and I m 51 but adult dc still live with me.
In the car this morning I counted the days till half term(work in a school) and prayed to be 67 already.