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To not send my boy to school

83 replies

Clairaloulou · 03/02/2019 18:20

My DS has brittle asthma and a blood disorder. He has symptoms every day and he is more unwell that not at the mo. He has been in hospital very poorly, with confirmed flu (positive test result - I say this because so many people say they have flu but it's a heavy cold), a secondary bacterial chest infection and it has triggered his asthma. He was on oxygen for 36 hours, hourly nebulisers, oxygen levels 87% without oxygen. We got out of hosp on weds. Tamiflu, antibiotics steroids etc etc. His asthma has settled now and he's over the flu symptoms, still cough, white as a sheet and wiped out. He seemed to have perked up so we came out for tea, but he's completely done in now, asleep in the car both ways and has gone straight up to bed to watch tv. He started being poorly a week ago thu night so he had fri off and then the whole of last week off school.

I'd originally said to school he'd be back on mon (tomorrow) but now I'm worried I'm pushing him too hard. I don't want to risk making him poorly again, but I'm conscious he's had lots of time off already. Part of me thinks bugger school, his health is more important. But on the other hand he struggles with school with dyslexia and a few other bits and bobs.

Id appreciate other people's thoughts please Smile

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Zebedee88 · 03/02/2019 18:21

Could you send him in the morning and pick up at lunchtime?

LovingLola · 03/02/2019 18:22

I would not even consider sending him to school until he has completely recovered.

justforareply · 03/02/2019 18:22

I wouldn't send him tbh

LokiBear · 03/02/2019 18:23

Im a teacher. Bugger school. His health is more important.

Isadora2007 · 03/02/2019 18:24

I wouldn’t send him. But I’d email the school and ask for some work to be sent home that he could do as and when. Hope he is better soon but his health comes first.

Sandsnake · 03/02/2019 18:24

It doesn’t sound like he’s well enough to me. Hope he’s better soon.Flowers

MyNewBearTotoro · 03/02/2019 18:24

How old is he?

I think based on what you’ve said I would be keeping him off longer, if he’s exhausted after going out for tea he doesn’t sound readyto do a full day at school and he won’t learn anything if he’s feeling awful. Schools are full of germs so if he goes back before he’s built up his strength he may well pick something else up anyway.

Keep him home, but maybe ask the school if there’s any work you can pick up to do with him over the next few days so he doesn’t fall behind.

Babyboysarenowbig · 03/02/2019 18:25

I wouldn’t send him back. He needs time to recover. Or you could end up sending him back and setting him back healthwise.

Sirzy · 03/02/2019 18:28

Flu is horrendous even without the asthma. Ds is also a brittle asthmatic and missed 3 weeks of school when he had the flu.

Give him the time he needs to recover, then talk to scjool about a phased return so he isn’t too tired

zen1 · 03/02/2019 18:30

Don’t feel pressured to send him back until he has fully recovered. His health is more important.

flumpybear · 03/02/2019 18:32

No I'd keep him home if he's sleeping so much and only just over flu ... poor little man he's got a lot going on in his little body 😔

FadedRed · 03/02/2019 18:32

I wouldn’t send him back until he’s much better and more resilient.

Waveysnail · 03/02/2019 18:33

How old is he

ChristmasSnow · 03/02/2019 18:34

Keep him home

Talkingfrog · 03/02/2019 18:34

I would phone the school and explain. I would think it would be better to keep him off. If he is tired after going out for tea, he won't be there long before they end up calling you to take him home. Maybe they could send something home for you to do with him. He will also be likely to pick up something else and be off for longer. Has the school signed up to any websites sucb as mathletics or messy. If so maybe they could give you the details (if you dove already have them) so he can do something at home to ease him back into it. Hope he feels better soon.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 03/02/2019 18:35

We have forgotten the need to convalesce! He isn’t well enough. Brittle asthma is not something to mess around with. Keep him home.

BarbarianMum · 03/02/2019 18:39

Unless he's doing GCSEs in June Id keep him home. If he's well enough he can read w you/practise his maths/do homework/revise (depending on his age).

Orchidflower1 · 03/02/2019 18:39

100% keep him off for a further few days then age dependent half days for the rest of the week. Age dependent you could do bits and bobs at home.

FlapAttack23 · 03/02/2019 18:42

Christ no definitely not!!! I am a teacher

ThePoliticiansPraiseMyName · 03/02/2019 18:42

I wouldn't send him. Could you ask for some work for him to do at home with you if he feels up for it? If he rushes back you might find he takes much longer to get better and gets unwell again.

Topseyt · 03/02/2019 18:43

Awww, the poor lad.

He doesn't sound ready for school just yet. I would keep him at home, possibly for the week going by what you have described.

Just phone the school and explain that he still isn't right and that your comment that he might be back on Monday now looks as if it was too optimistic.

Schools might occasionally send work home that DS could tackle if he feels able and willing to do that but would find a day at school too much. You could suggest that if he looks likely to be off for too much longer

SpoonBlender · 03/02/2019 18:44

Hell no. It takes a couple of weeks to recover from a real flu. Five days after coming out of hospital is too soon.

HungryHippoMummy · 03/02/2019 18:47

Good grief no! Keep him home until he's better. He won't get anything useful done st school and likely pick up more germs. If he's up to it later in the week ask for some work to be sent home. I'm a teacher and we're used to this for far less serious illnesses! You don't want to risk him developing a post viral fatigue syndrome.

Odiepants · 03/02/2019 18:47

I definitely wouldn't be sending him back to school tomorrow. Tbh I'd be aiming for next Monday unless he suddenly perks up over the week. He needs time to rest and recover. Plus schools are full of bugs at the moment which he is going to be more susceptible to until he's recovered more.

1frenchfoodie · 03/02/2019 18:51

Trust your instinct and don’t send him to school. Yes you said he’d be back mon but that was based on how well you thought he would be.

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