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To not send my boy to school

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Clairaloulou · 03/02/2019 18:20

My DS has brittle asthma and a blood disorder. He has symptoms every day and he is more unwell that not at the mo. He has been in hospital very poorly, with confirmed flu (positive test result - I say this because so many people say they have flu but it's a heavy cold), a secondary bacterial chest infection and it has triggered his asthma. He was on oxygen for 36 hours, hourly nebulisers, oxygen levels 87% without oxygen. We got out of hosp on weds. Tamiflu, antibiotics steroids etc etc. His asthma has settled now and he's over the flu symptoms, still cough, white as a sheet and wiped out. He seemed to have perked up so we came out for tea, but he's completely done in now, asleep in the car both ways and has gone straight up to bed to watch tv. He started being poorly a week ago thu night so he had fri off and then the whole of last week off school.

I'd originally said to school he'd be back on mon (tomorrow) but now I'm worried I'm pushing him too hard. I don't want to risk making him poorly again, but I'm conscious he's had lots of time off already. Part of me thinks bugger school, his health is more important. But on the other hand he struggles with school with dyslexia and a few other bits and bobs.

Id appreciate other people's thoughts please Smile

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Clairaloulou · 03/02/2019 21:13

Very relieved at all the "bugger school" votes!

Have emailed school (my usual method of contact) and said he won't be in and I'll keep in touch, and they can send work etc.

We are actually in the process of trying to get him help through the attendance officer or something it's called in our area, to try and get him some tutoring or something when he's off. Not sure how it works and the school aren't massively confident he'll get it. Even though his attendance is 60% Hmm

I've kind of accepted there will be gaps in his education and that's how it is. He is really not academic and has severe dyslexia and dysgraphia and so has that to contend with too. It's very alien to me because I was the exact opposite and have a masters in biochemistry, albeit gone to waste now! But, I also think it's a good time for him to be alive in a way, because there are so many options open to him for his education in the future, that it doesn't matter so much.

So we'll go with bugger school Smile

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Orchidflower1 · 05/02/2019 12:33

How is he today op?

StarlightIntheNight · 05/02/2019 12:38

Has he completely recovered? If not, keep him home. Its not fair to send a sick child to school infecting everyone else! I hate when parents do this. Also, not fair if your child is poorly and needs rest. You can help your child keep up with school work at home. Ask the teacher to email you what they are covering etc.

Clairaloulou · 05/02/2019 12:58

@Orchidflower1 on the surface he looks fine, no more flu symptoms, but he's quite fatigued still. Thank you for asking 😊 I've booked him in at the gp tomorrow to see what he thinks, but I'm thinking of sending him in thu and fri just for the afternoon.

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Clairaloulou · 05/02/2019 13:01

@StarlightIntheNight I'm not one of "those parents", thanks. I want going to send him back poorly to infect other kids, but I was querying about convalescence time. But thanks for your slightly arsey comment.

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Goldmandra · 05/02/2019 15:14

the school aren't massively confident he'll get it.

Seeing as the school have to fund the tutoring, they should know perfectly well that he is entitled to it after the statutory 15 days. It sounds like they may be stringing you along a bit here.

Contact your local SENDIASS service (used to be parent partnership) and they will tell you what he's entitled to and how to access it.

Clairaloulou · 05/02/2019 15:20

Oh thanks @Goldmandra I didn't know that! I've been in contact with them before regarding his SEN so I'll ring them back and ask them. Thank you Smile

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Orchidflower1 · 05/02/2019 18:37

Half days would be a good way of easing him in. Glad he is on the mend.

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