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Reported ex for tax evasion

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Maryqueenofscot · 03/02/2019 14:55

Anyone here ever got back on an ex and reported them for something? I reported my ex-h for tax, he was self employed for years, cash in hand jobs. Before anyone says 'well done' Im well aware I did it simply to get revenge for him wanting to end the relationship, not out of some duty or for it being the right thing to do. Its all got very serious and I now regret doing it and feel terrible. I feel it was spiteful and Ive messed with his life. I was aware of what he was doing when we were together, so I cant even tell myself I did the right thing for my own peace of mind, it was purely a way to get back at him and Im having trouble dealing with that, knowing my motives and the consequences of what Ive now done.

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Mmmhmmm · 03/02/2019 23:48

You seem to feel very sorry for yourself over your choice to cheat on your now ex-partner. Good on him for having enough respect for himself to leave you.

You are not the victim, so stop trying to play it.

Mrskeats · 03/02/2019 23:59

You cheated on him then reported him to just be malicious.
You should feel guilty.

MumMumMum1 · 04/02/2019 00:00

🤢 you’re vile. Poor bloke, he may not be perfect, but at least his not a sneaky, lying cheat to people close to him. Telling him you did it would at least stop him suspecting anyone else he knows, but you won’t do that because you’re not an honest person, obviously. Glass houses OP, I hope you’re squeaky clean.

ImNotKitten · 04/02/2019 00:33

You’ve done it now OP so no point crying over spilt milk. Your reasons might not have been honourable but he shouldn’t be doing it anyway so don’t feel too guilty.

In future the best revenge is a life well lived.

GunpowderGelatine · 04/02/2019 00:56

What a nasty thing to do. I hope it comes back to bite you

What utter bollocks. Tax dodgers use the NHS, drive on the roads, walk down the street with the aid of street lamps, take their rubbish to the tip etc, but don't pay for it. They rake in their personal cash whilst you and I pay for these privileges for them. If they're reported they deserve everything they get. Also not sure how a legitimate claim of tax evasion is going to "bite" the OP? She did nothing wrong

I also completely agree with everything @CanILeavenowplease said, I know loads of men who dodge child maintenance this way and boast about it!

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Catchy98 · 04/02/2019 06:08

@cherry2727 LOL I do not care for you think. Truth is I didn’t know for most of the relationship what was going on, as I’m young myself I didn’t understand about tax evasion until only recently towards the end of the relationship. Not that it matters but this man was verbally and physically abusive towards me, and now I’m carrying his child he continues with the abuse and threatens to not pay a penny but will take the child away from etc etc. I have my personal reasons sure, but I also don’t like the fact he’s working the system. Carry on hating on us if you wish Wink I know I did the right thing and so did OP. Doesn’t matter WHEN we chose to report or if we benefited, we did the right thing in the end and that’s all that matters! So get off your high horse please.

Catchy98 · 04/02/2019 06:11

@Gems567 you’re right I’m some cases don’t get justice, I shan’t get my hopes up.

silvercuckoo · 04/02/2019 06:43

I am really surprised by the number of people choosing to follow the (perceived) letter of the law rather than their own internal moral compass. I hope you have no issues with big corporate non-payers then, because what they do is exactly toeing the line of the tax code, fully above water. I probably have a biased view, as my ex had repeatedly reported me to the immigration enforcement after the separation (he also cheated and left), apparently just fulfilling his good citizen duties, nothing personal.

In the self employed world there are many ways how people choose to structure their income and tax matters, there is a massive grey area that the government actively tries to avoid explaining (i.e. at which point you stop treating yourself as a service provider and business owner and start treating yourself as an employee of the company you work for). In some of the scenarios personal taxes could be minimal.

silvercuckoo · 04/02/2019 06:56

Tax dodgers use the NHS, drive on the roads, walk down the street with the aid of street lamps, take their rubbish to the tip etc, but don't pay for it.
Would you be OK if the OP's ex paid his fair share then, or even double his fair share, but avoided paying anything in addition to that? Tax avoidance is not a black and white all-or-nothing universe, it is called "tax optimisation" on the milder end of the spectrum and is completely legitimate.

Inliverpool1 · 04/02/2019 08:27

You’re confusing council tax with income tax. Services are paid for by the local authorities and provided out of tyat income

TurtleCove · 04/02/2019 08:49

You thew away those 9 years OP, not your ex. It's no wonder he left.

DistanceCall · 04/02/2019 11:37

And for those having a go, who wouldnt enjoy the lifestyle? What was I supposed to say, I dont want a holiday, go by yourself? No I dont want a new car! Anyone who says otherwise is just lying to themself.

You keep telling yourself that.

Boysandbuses · 04/02/2019 11:42

Wow your a dick. It was fine hon evading tax whole you were benefitting. You cheated and then since you were benefiting anymore you reported him?

Hmm I think they could come after you since you benefited from it and clearly knew.

Boysandbuses · 04/02/2019 11:44

This thread really reminds me of a mother one this morning from nasty fucker, that got deleted

easyandy101 · 04/02/2019 11:53

but all those getting mad there are also others who are saying they'd do the same in my situation.

Well you post here so it runs that other vindictive, horrible people do too

Cclmsc · 04/02/2019 13:17

You horrible , terrible person

Morgan12 · 04/02/2019 13:26

Such a spiteful person. He is well rid. You will get what's coming to you one day I'm sure. I really hope he finds out it was you.

LakieLady · 04/02/2019 13:28

You’re confusing council tax with income tax. Services are paid for by the local authorities and provided out of tyat income

Councils receive a large grant from central government; council tax (and business rates) only cover a proportion of LA costs. Central government is cutting the amount it pays though, which is why council tax is rising but services are still being cut.

Tututuna · 04/02/2019 13:38

And for those having a go, who wouldnt enjoy the lifestyle

My DH owns a business. I would be absolutely furious, I mean absolutely furious, with him if I found out he was doing this and risking our families livelihood. I certainly would not play along enjoying fraudulent holidays and cars because it benefits me.

Whilst I can understand not wanting to hand over your husband to HMRC whilst together, I would not sit there quietly!

Badbadbunny · 05/02/2019 16:47

Tax avoidance is not a black and white all-or-nothing universe, it is called "tax optimisation" on the milder end of the spectrum and is completely legitimate.

Tax evasion is illegal and is usually either not declaring your income or over-claiming tax-allowable expenses. It's basically lies and fraud.

Tax avoidance is legal, and is just using tax allowances/reliefs to your best advantage, with no dishonesty involved. Such as putting money into pensions/ISAs, or making a decision which way to claim your mileage if you're a sole trader using the two options provided by HMRC. No sane person would voluntarily choose to pay more tax by not taking advantage of options, allowances and reliefs presented to them by HMRC and the govt.

In this case, the OP's OH was deliberately and fraudulent not declaring all their income. It's black and white, no gray at all. Pure dishonesty. It's not tax optimisation, tax planning etc., it's plain and simple illegal tax evasion.

Racecardriver · 05/02/2019 16:52

He told his wife he was evading tax then left her. What did he expect to happen? I’m surprised he hasn’t put two and two together. Sounds like you are well rid of him-he’s hardly the sharpest of men.

shortlongterm · 05/02/2019 18:21

Its almost like this is a thread concocted purely to get people aggravated.....4chan trolling is at least funny

OhCustardPots · 05/02/2019 18:43

Racecardriver did you miss the bit where he left because OP cheated on him??

Kikipost · 05/02/2019 18:50

You’re feeling like shite and really guilty for shopping your ex, however you enjoyed the fruits of it when you were together.

Ex likely to be prosecuted for tax evasion

I would say this thread should all full us with happiness. It’s a win win as far as I can tell!