Completely lost my shit this morning

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Just going out the door to defrost the car and Ds tells me it's games kit today. He's suitably apologetic.
One games kit is in the wash, wet, the other one who knows.
Finally find it in the car.
Telling him to hurry up, get his trainers, on, teeth brushed.
Get back in, he's on the toilet.
Back out with the dog, turn car around,
Get back in, he is sitting in the couch on Nintendo and watching the iPad.
Wtf.
I'm banning all screens in the house
I've told him it's for my sanity, he thinks I hate him

I think we have all known days like this. I sometimes wonder how the hell mine never managed to miss the school bus when they went to secondary school.

My youngest is 16. She is pretty good at organising herself most of the time now, but it hasn't always been so. I remember the mornings when she would shout downstairs in a panic that she couldn't find her school skirt, which I knew she had taken upstairs to put away with her clean laundry the night before. My stock response very soon became "Well go to school without it then" to make her get the message.

They are here to try us. This is exactly what tea, coffee, chocolate, cake and wine are for. To help parents cope.

And what would happen if he wore unironed clothes?
There would be no way on earth we would have allowed our lads to have gone out looking unkempt!! Sure not everything needs ironing but if something obviously dies there's no way the boys would go out looking like tramps

Oh please, listen to yourself. Tramps indeed. I never iron trousers (why would anyone, it doesn't make any difference to school trousers)
and their shirts are under a blazer, and they aren't allowed to take the balzer off, and you can't actually see any of the shirt except the collar and the strip by the tie. Really, I am an ex teacher, and I have never judged any child by an unironed shirt. (I have judged the parents for dirty clothes, poor kids)

But that isn't the point.
The point is, it doesn't reflect on YOU it reflects on HIM. If he didn't iron it last night, then he goes in in unironed. If he doesn't like that, then learn to iron it.

That attitude of - Oh I couldn't let him/her look untidy, is actually holding the kids back. Better the attitude of - your appearance is your problem, not mine.

I got told at 8.15 this morning, by my DS (9), that he had an assembly this morning, which parents were invited to, and that he needed a troll costume.

That was a fun 25 minutes. FFS.

DD (11) is terrible for sneaking upstairs with a screen when I've asked her to do something. She never gets away with it, ever, so maybe one day she'll get the hint.

No screens before school though - we never have done. It's the only way.

I’d get tough now because when he is a senior school he will get detentions etc.
I’ve told my ds it’s for his own good and I’m training him for next year

We only have one bathroom and I ended up having to take betablockers

^^ This would be the title of my autobiography: the teenage years

That or Leave the bloody house or I can't get to work and who'll pay the bloody broadband bill, then, huh?

I had this this morning, youngest ds was horrible and wouldn't let me come to his burns show at school (in all fairness to him it's because he knows he will cry if he sees me because he's overly attached) so I was emotional because of that. Baby screamed literally all day. On the way to school, didn't have time to walk had to drive and the bloody car breaks seized up and I could smell burning, so had to abandon it and walk home. DP was fucking horrible on the phone and said I shouldn't have drive the car then. Walked to my mum's and burst out crying when I walked in her living room. She gave me a big hug and a kiss like I was a little girl again 🤣 then got me coffee, she's the best!

Hope your day gets better Drogosnextwife

Thanks OopsInamechangedagain some for you too. All pretty silly problems to have but sometimes it just gets a bit overwhelming.

Oh please, listen to yourself. Tramps indeed. I never iron trousers (why would anyone, it doesn't make any difference to school trousers)
Hey, it was has been drummed into me all my life, I can't shake my up BRI ging off that easily!
Anyway I'll admit, fabrics have got better over the years and theres a lot of non iron uniforms.
DP is strict about shies always being polished and buttons been sewn in!
You never truly leave what you e been bought up with.

This morning was better
And I can tell he's trying, putting his dishes away and folding his clothes up!
Went out to defrost the car and when I came in he was kicking a ball around!
I think he's always find something else to do, it's not just the screens.

I think he's always find something else to do, it's not just the screens.

That is why you need to address the lateness and not the screens, specifically.
Set as goal to be out of the house on time. Then define the reward/punishment.

Lol @Theunreasonableone come back on here in a few years. We can all expect. Doesn't mean it's going to happen!!

A few on here mentioning add. Yeah. Add that into the mix and you're laughing 😅😅 I have a Ds who leapt out of bed every morning. Now at 16 it is like trying to wake, get dressed, packed, on the train, the dead!!! EVERY MORNING.

I meant ASD

"Ds the taxi I'm leaving at x time. If you want a lift be in the car".

Then let him deal with consequences and back up school with any punishment.

Ime teens soon realise an extra 30 -60 minutes at school in detention is far worse deal than missing 3 minutes you tube in the morning!

Anyone seen Better Things??
Very timely