I have 2 DC with DH.
DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 6 months. I’ve noticed in the past few weeks that his attitude has changed towards DS2. Getting frustrated with him when he cries and rolling his eyes when his name is mentioned.
Yesterday he seemed really off and irritable. Finally last night night he said to me that he hates his life now he has two children and regrets DS2. He’s kind of hinted before that he finds it difficult. My elder DS was a very easy baby and DS2 is a bit trickier in that he’s not the best sleeper. That being said, I do all the nights and he’s a total joy other than the sleeping. Since DS2 was three weeks old he’s done one weekend of nights and I’ve done the rest.
He said he can’t wait to get his life back and I get what he means but, to give you an idea, he was out last Friday and rolled in at 3am, he’s out tomorrow to watch football with his mates and he’s got a boy’s night out on 9 February. He is not tied to the house all the time. He also goes to the gym.
I’m not moaning about this - I have my own social life.
The only thing is that we don’t socialise together very often as babysitters aren’t easy to come by.
He also told me he is feel long down about his job which, despite paying him well, leaves him completely wiped out.
I feel like he’s spoiling for an argument every time we speak. He told me tonight that he’s going out tomorrow night and it was so combative that I was taken aback. I told him he could go out no problem.
I feel like this might get worse and It really worries me.
FWIW I had a miscarriage after DS1 and he knows how much DS2 means to me (not that DS1 didn’t but DS2 came after a tough time for me)
All our friends also have children (bar a couple of his) so it’s not like we’re in a different situation from our mates.
What can I do?