Fuck off daily mail and other crappy publications (they've published my stuff before).
Baby is 11 days old. We've had the usual request for visits, all fine, I'm feeling very well (despite c section) visitors coming today, we asked they come for a set time as we wanted to take DC1 out to a group. Was told no, that didn't work for them, they'd be arriving at X time. Fine DH took DC to the class I stayed in and awaited their arrival.
We said we'd take them out for lunch (we'd pay), no that wouldn't work, they wanted to eat at home. No offer of bringing something with them or getting a take away. When take away was suggested, that was also refused. They'll be here over 2 meal times, so just not feeding them isn't an option.
Close family so didn't want to be too pushy with them but they have form for coming round and expecting to be waited on. We've told them previously to help themselves (drinks, snacks etc) but they never do, just huff and grumble until they get offered something or leave. They are helpful in other ways though so can't put them down too much.
But AIBU to think that if you ask to visit someone (this isn't first visit to see new baby) that they get to decide the terms? And you don't demand a home cooked meal?