DH taking the piss out of my glasses

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Name change as DH knows real username. I’ve known for years I’m supposed to wear goggs but I feel so self concious in them that I don’t. Anyway after suffering constant headaches and worsening vision I admitted defeat and went to opticians. I knew DH would take the piss and I can handle a lot of banter so I’m so self conscious I don’t think he realises. It’s constant.
“You’ve got something in your eye, not that one ... not that one ... the 4th one”
“Stop making a spectacle of yourself”
“Get your windscreen wipers on”
“There’s bird shit on the window ... no not that one, that one !” (Spits on glasses)

I’ve told him to pack it in now, I’m getting where I just don’t wear them when he’s around and he still takes the piss putting his hands over my eyes to firm glasses etc

As I said we do have a “piss taking/banter” type relationship but I’m taking this quite personally. AIBU to tell him he’s upsetting me or am I being a baby?

I couldn't be with someone like your oh, you clearly are a better person than me

That type of thing is funny for 5 min the first time you wear them
That type of thing isn’t funny at all.

The relationship sounds fucked up. OP is having to ask if it is ok if her husband spits on her. Banter in a relationship is one thing, disrespecting each other under the guise of “teasing” is totally different.

I think you have 2 options:

1 - Explain, completely seriously, that he is upsetting you and it's making you not want to wear your glasses. Tell him you know it's been banter and not meant to hurt but it is hurting so he needs to stop.

2 - Retaliate. Put your glasses on and when he mentions them, use the fact that your vision is good now against him. Ie
Him - "You've got something in your eye, not that one etc etc"
You - "I didn't notice. Now I have my glasses on I can't stop staring at that spot / your nose / your wrinkles etc. I never noticed that until I could see properly"

What?? I wore glasses in Primary and secondary school and no one said a word. And that was actual children being more mature than he sounds.

He’s being nasty, no excuse for it.

I couldn't be with someone who was so passive aggressively hostile to me. He's been nasty and pretending it's banter. What do you see in him?

Nopety nope nope this is not piss taking at all, he's just a nasty bastard.

Tell yourself you have the kind of relationship all you like but you are fooling nobody but yourself.

He does wear gogs, he’s worn them all his life which is probably why he doesn’t think he’s being offensive.

Glasses, not ‘gogs’ for fucks sake.

You both sound as immature as each other.

He sounds like a catch!!!

Tell him you'll take your glasses of when his is around.....as he's far less ugly then with your glasses on. He sounds like a 10-year old brat.

@Windgate

He's a bully

^^This

But maybe calling them 'goggs' isn't helping.

Yes, 'gogs', ffs.

if my DH spat on my glasses i'd likely lump him one

gogs? WTF?

I think you both need to get out of these strange turn of 'pisstake/banter' that your relationship has taken. It is not funny anymore.

You would have to initiate a conversation which is not in the middle of his spitting on your glasses when you are both calm and not in banter mode to tell him you need a reset. The glasses thing has got nasty for you and has been the trigger for calling a stop to this.

If he continues, there is your answer. He is an immature bully who rides roughshod over your feelings. You will at that point have a decision to make but hopefully you never get there because he sees the light before then.

Tell him you need to wear the glasses so you can check he hasn’t got any uglier overnight.

I used to work with someone who, being of advancing age and failing eyesight, really needed glasses for her job but was far too vain to do so. She was also "devastated" when both of her BEAUTIFUL daughters were prescribed glasses, as it was such a dreadful shame to spoil their good looks.

She said all this to me. Someone who has worn glasses for 20 years. And no one has ever uttered a word to me about them OTHER than her.

Grow a spine OP, wear your GLASSES (not fucking goggs) and tell that dirty bastard to fuck right off. Spitting on someone is absolutely rotten.

Have you always referred to his glasses as Goggs?
Maybe he feels he's getting his own back, albeit in a twattish way

I'm 37 years old and have worn glasses since I was 2 and never once have I heard them called 'gogs'!

Just tell him to pack it in. I wouldn't put up with anyone spitting on my glasses, it's disgusting and not remotely funny.

There is a fine line between banter and bullying and he is crossing it massively.

Why do you have a relationship in which nasty mocking and abusive behaviour is normal?

This

Why on earth do you think this is ok?

Are you mad?

Spitting is disgusting, no way could they ever be classed as banter. What kind of moron thinks it’s in any way funny?

Goggs??

Cringing so hard....

It's like "hubs" or "holibobs"

But yeah, just TELL HIM TO STOP.

Arseholes like him are part of the reason kids resist wearing glasses