Friends boyfriend commenting on photos

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I feel I am being unreasonable here but please bare with me, I have some negative self esteem issues which may have triggered my annoyance.

Me and 2 friends got dressed up to go on an evening out and took a nice photo before hand. Friend said she was going to send the photo to her DBF (dear boyfriend). He replied to her message and said "you all look great" and the friend showed me this message in a "aww look what DBF has said". As she was showing me another message popped up from him to her saying "but you look the best obviously".

I didn't say anything but was I being unreasonable to feel put out by the unnecessary comment... I felt a bit awkward knowing someones DBF feels the need to 'rank' attractiveness and comment on it.... I mean obviously he will think she looks the best but does he have to say it to everyone's detriment.

YABU. Thats his girlfriend. Dont be daft

Your self esteem issues are making this into something but it's not. Her boyfriend finds her the most attractive and that's why he isn't dating you or any of the others.

Had he said "you all look wonderful except for LittleMiss, she looks like a tramp" then you would have mind for being annoyed.

He's the BF. He's 'supposed to' say stuff like that

YABU

It would be strange if he didn’t think (or even pretend!) his partner looked the best

Yabu - he said something nice then probably thought his gf might take it to mean he thinks you look hot. So he clarified that he prefers his gf. It’s not rocket surgery.

I think you're overthinking this entirely- it's a normal 'couply' comment I'd say. Don't give it any more thought!

YABU. Obviously he would say she looks the best. He’s her boyfriend. It wasn’t intended at you or specifically about you so don’t take it personally.

YABVU. I thought you were going to say 'but OP is ugly'

He is her BF!! This is perfectly normal behaviour.

This would only be werid if he had said that anyone other than his girlfriend was the best

Ah ha ha ha ha

Just imagine the absolute shit show that would occur if he said “you all look great but WOW, your mate Jen looks really fantastic!!!!!”. This is one of those times when I white lie is utterly acceptable!

Completely normal. He didn't assume you'd see it. Wouldn't you want your boyf to do the same?

Sorry OP, totally your mean inner voice. It's the kind of things bf's say. He said it to her privately. He didn't look at you, laugh and tell her she looked hot.

Do rockets have surgery ?

Of course he would say that, it’s his gf. Even if he didn’t think it, and she did look the worst, he would still say it. (Well most loving partners do!)

Now if he’d messaged ‘but of course your bff looks hideous’ then I could understand your upset. But he didn’t!! Seriously you have over thought this way too much, and are looking for something that isn’t even there!!

I think you are being ridiculously over-sensitive. He was just trying to flatter his girlfriend. It was a private message between the two of them and you just happened to see it.

His response was polite for the group as it should be, and more personal and confidence building for his partner, as it should be.

Perhaps look at working on these self esteem issues? I'm sure you're trying. In this instance, your friends boyfriend was just being lovely to his partner, brownie points from me and he has no reason to think about anyone else's detriment when complimenting his partner.

Very very strange over reaction

She showed you a private comment, one you were no supposed to see, it was not intended as a slight. Just an I love you best comment, that means nothing except between them both, she could look like she was pulled through a hedge backwards and he would still have said it, as love is blind.

Plus it was a personal text message! He wasn’t aware you were looking at it when he sent the text. So it was to not to anyones detriment.

We’ve had this exact thread before.

Of course her BF thinks she is the most attractive.

Wouldn’t you think your BF was more attractive than his friends?

I was at dinner with friends on Saturday, I thought my DH was the best looking man at the table by far. I’m sure my friends all thought the same about their DH’s. It’s completely normal.

Yes YABU. He complimented you all, then sent a private compliment to his GF. Completely normal, understandable, and acceptable. He wasn't being detrimental to you - he was letting his GF know that she's his favourite. And she should be! I get the negative self esteem - been there frequently - but the fact that you're 'annoyed' and 'put out' is way over the top. You sound more pissed off than hurt.

You are over reacting completely. Whenever you feel like this in a situation, put yourself in the other persons shoes, if you were the friend and your boyfriend sent you the text, would you automatically think it was to insult your friends, or reinforce some love in jest.
You need to work on your self esteem, life is much harder when your are very insecure.

Thanks yes I agree I was being unreasonable, but I guess mental health can be very unreasonable at times

His her boyfriend, his kind of meant to say stuff like that.

So your pissed of your friends boyfriend thought she looked better than all of you? I’m just wondering if your 15, as I can’t imagine an adult woman thinking this way?

Oh OP....