Friends boyfriend commenting on photos

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I feel I am being unreasonable here but please bare with me, I have some negative self esteem issues which may have triggered my annoyance.

Me and 2 friends got dressed up to go on an evening out and took a nice photo before hand. Friend said she was going to send the photo to her DBF (dear boyfriend). He replied to her message and said "you all look great" and the friend showed me this message in a "aww look what DBF has said". As she was showing me another message popped up from him to her saying "but you look the best obviously".

I didn't say anything but was I being unreasonable to feel put out by the unnecessary comment... I felt a bit awkward knowing someones DBF feels the need to 'rank' attractiveness and comment on it.... I mean obviously he will think she looks the best but does he have to say it to everyone's detriment.

Don’t be daft.

You’re not being ranked (neither were the bridesmaids) unless he said “Katie looks second best, sally is close third then Jane looks the worst.” You’re being vvvvvv unreasonable.

you seem weird, are you 12?

That's a ranking and it's unnecessary.

But it wasn’t a real ranking. It wasn’t the output of serious consideration and analysis any more than when I say my DH is the best looking man in the room it means anything more than I only have eyes for him.

He wasn’t ranking them, he just said he liked her best.

As you might expect.

How old are you?

You’re being a bit ridiculous. He didn’t say it to you for one thing, it was in a message he could reasonably presume was private. And he’s her boyfriend! Of course he’s going to pay a particular compliment to her. And he wasn’t ranking you. He was just highlighting his attraction to the person he’s actually in a relationship with.

I do think you took things way too personally, probably as a result of the MH issues you mention. Of course he is going to say that to his GF, and it was a compliment to her not any intended detriment to you!

Who cares if it’s ‘ranking’?

A groom saying to the bride (who he just married) that she is the most beautiful woman at the table/in the room/on earth is completely normal. No one was looking to see if you were offended that he’d said that; you just imagined that they were.

YABU and completely over-thinking this.

The bridesmaids thing has been said at every single wedding that I’ve ever been too. Of course it’s not a ranking. No one is as beautiful as a bride on her wedding day

Lol, at the folks confused as to what a ranking is. It's a scale basically.

Worst case this is a comparison, in reality it's just a compliment for the loved one and no malice is behind it.

All I can think is there is some envy for the complimented women driving this.

I'm rather appalled though at the thought of some one having a bridesmaid who disliked the groom and who was fucked off that he thought the bride looked better than her.

😳

Forget the whole text message thing. This is about you, and your self esteem. There are no human beings that walk this good Earth that are perfect. Cultures get hung up different things, and in this country it is an obsession with how others view us, are they comparing me, why don’t I look like her/him/them.

You are probably just like everyone else on this planet, who isn’t to pleased with how they look. It might be something really trivial, it might be something very noticeable. But your image, how you actually look is only one very small part of you. You have a personality, you have a brain, you might be absolutely brilliant at something others cannot do. Focus on your positives, hold your head high, and try and smile every day. The wealthiest, attractive, so called successful of this world look nothing and no one without that inner warmth that comes from a smile. Just be yourself, be positive, become more than just a selfie. And never forget that some of the so called beautiful people are absolutely useless at forming and keeping relationships going!

@drinkygin actual lol!

@sweeneytoddsrazor the recipe comment really made me chuckle

Perfectly normal text to send to his girlfriend. He said you all look great, how could you find a negative in the second comment. I know you know you were being u reasonable, it’s odd how you doubted that though.

No WAY is this for real?!

OK I think that the OP conceded about 60 posts ago that she was being U, accepted that totally and said she was struggling with MH issues that may have clouded her judgement. So I think she can cancel the cheque and move on now eh?