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To be sick to death of cake smashes?

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Noteventhebirdsareupyet · 29/01/2019 08:45

I am so sick of this strange new phenomenon. It might even be worse than baby showers, at least you don't normally get people sending a million photos of those! What a ridiculous American (no doubt) thing to do - waste of cake, fake set-up pictures, expensive clothes bought specifically to be ruined...... ok rant over!

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ScreamingValenta · 29/01/2019 17:23

The expressions on that couple's faces in Sparklingbrook's photo is hilarious.

I like the parallel to the Roman Empire and the French Revolution - let them smash cake! Cake

BertieBotts · 29/01/2019 17:38

It's literally the same thing as baby led weaning except before baby led weaning was cool. It is an American tradition and used to be you'd order a large birthday cake (for the family party) and get a small, muffin-sized cake for the child. Or you'd just give them a small slice. Because small children who don't know how to eat tend to dive in with their hands and because cake tends to be crumbly and icing sticky, it makes for a funny photo. Especially if they have never tasted anything as sweet and sugary as cake before.

If you object to this then I hope you are as po faced and miserable about any and all photos of young children trying new foods.

Sure it has gone a bit ridiculous and far but that's social media, not "America" - the fact that googling American cake smash gets you a picture of an equally ridiculous but American themed one is totally beside the point.

TooManyPaws · 29/01/2019 17:54

For those who said that they hated pregnancy photo shoots, I've seen some gorgeous ones - but the mothers involved have been quite literally bitches.

There's a very sweet and funny one on the Internet of a very pregnant dachshund with a flower collar and crown, followed a couple of weeks later but a baby shoot of a proud mother overlooking a line of her little darlings wrapped up like burritos in pink and blue towels.

Is it weird that I'm 🤔 for humans but melt when it's animals?

DaisyDreaming · 29/01/2019 18:31

I’m not a fan but seen some cute ones with cupcakes. I don’t see a kid smashing and nibbling at a cupcake any different to what most of us did on our birthday - smash and eat either a slice or the cake if our parents left it within reach by accident! I don’t see the point in paying a fortune for a special cake though

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 29/01/2019 18:33

Eh?

Madmarchpear · 29/01/2019 22:00

Posed photos aren't always terrible. The unforgiving bleached out ones on a white background of pink faced people in frozen shoulder tops are though.

RupaulsGagRace · 29/01/2019 22:05

LoL!

Each to their own. Who cares. Child looks like theyre having fun.

MaisyPops · 29/01/2019 22:13

A child making a mess of a piece of normal birthday cake is fine and what we all probably did as children.

Parents buying a fancy special cake so they can have instagramable photos of their baby in a cute outfit, expensive fancy cake and different stages of it being 'smashed' (which more often than not seems to need adult help to get the smash just right) is ridiculous to me.

Abcdefghii · 29/01/2019 22:31

I did one at home for my DS first birthday with little £5 cake. We got some funny photos of DS in his element as happy as a pig in muck and we ate what was left of the cake, which was most of it. It didn't go to waste.

Each to their own but plenty of people like doing these for their babies.

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Noteventhebirdsareupyet · 30/01/2019 08:19

Gender reveal pizza and lasagne? People are just having a laugh now aren't they? I don't want to be gullible enough to Google that! Although after seeing a picture of a 30 year old doing a cake smash yesterday, maybe anything is plausible!

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WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 30/01/2019 08:35

Pizza:

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WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 30/01/2019 08:35

Lasagne 🤮

To be sick to death of cake smashes?
Bluelonerose · 30/01/2019 08:37

I dont see the point of cake smashes but each to their own. As long as it wasn't in my house and I didn't have to clear up ide be fine.
Gender reveals I don't get at all. Confused

fromdespairto · 30/01/2019 08:51

I wonder how many of the PP criticising cake smashes spent hundreds, or thousands, on their poses wedding photos that they never look at? Or their engagement photos? And how much they spent on their wedding that they didn't need to? And how much food was wasted at their wedding / engagement etc.

It's not your business how people choose to celebrate their life events. We had a cake smash because I wanted to celebrate my child's first birthday. No expensive outfits were bought, no posts on social media for likes. The cake wasn't expensive and it certainly wasn't wasted (we ate it all!).

If you don't like cake smashes don't have on and just scroll past the photos on social media that seem to be getting your panties in a bunch.

badlydrawnperson · 30/01/2019 08:53

At least there will be no more cake smashes or other food festivals after Brexit when the only people with any food are the peppers.

IlluminatiParty · 30/01/2019 08:54

I don't like them either OP but then I also don't like photos of babies or toddlers with food all over their faces.

WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 30/01/2019 09:01

I'm usually the first to say if you don't like it, don't look, but the waste is just too awful to do that in this case. Perhaps if you'd worked somewhere there were hungry children, you'd feel the same.

And no. I don't waste food, I hate weddings so didn't have anything extravagant (4 guests) and I don't waste money on photographs Confused

LadyRochfordsIcedGusset · 30/01/2019 09:06

YANBU: tacky sheeple wasting food for likes.

Pickwickpapers · 30/01/2019 17:35

Such horrendous waste. Throwaway society. Donate it to starving people instead Angry

HermioneKipper · 30/01/2019 17:43

I hate them too. Waste of cake and food generally. I hate the look of the mess too. Yuck

Abcdefghii · 30/01/2019 17:59

All the ghastly things going on in the world and yet people are angered by cake smashes Grin

Not everybody spends a fortune on extravagantly decorated from professional cake makers - only for their babies to destroy it and then simply chuck in the bin.

I'd understand the annoyance at those scenarios as i agree it's just wasteful.

Plenty of people pick up a cheap cake from the supermarkets and they eat it. I wouldn't have dreamt of throwing away perfectly edible cake, smashed or not.

BethH94 · 30/01/2019 18:01

Why would something like this even bother you so much? So what if you/other people don’t like it the parents of that child obviously think it’s a cute/fun idea!

Gugglebum · 30/01/2019 18:07

My friend, a baker, made a teeny little smash cake for my youngest’s first birthday, without me ever suggesting it. No wedding dress. No posed photo shoot. Just my baby with a cute little cake no bigger than a piece of cake she would have been given anyway. It was fun and adorable and she ate most of it. I don’t see the harm.

MissyMoooo · 30/01/2019 18:08

I LOVE THEM!!! I also love engagement and maternity shoots, people love and want to pay for them so why not? Everyone to their own and they're keeping me in a job (professional photographer lol)

GunpowderGelatine · 30/01/2019 18:11

YANBU.

SIL did one for my nephew, he just had jeans and a tie on, he looked like a creepy little Chippendale. Such an awful waste of food as well makes me feel sick

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