To ask how many guests you had at your wedding? Is ours overly small?

[DiamondMine1]

I guess by this I mean people that have NOT purposefully had a very small wedding.

Getting married in June, we have approximtely 75 day guests, with probably another 10-20 in the evening.

I was having my nails done the other day, and the nail lady mentioned she was getting married in May and we were talking weddings. She was saying how much it was costing them at their venue per head and they were going over budget slightly. I said yeh, ours is pretty expensive per head too, and with around 80 day guests it certainly wasn’t working out cheap.

She seemed surprised and said ‘Oh only a small wedding then?’ I said ‘Err, yeh I guess?’ And she laughed and said ‘I’d class 80 as small, we’ve got so many friends and family between us, ours is working out about 100 on each side.’

She wasn’t being deliberately mean or anything, she just seemed surprised that we only had 80 guests.

I actually had a friend comment similar the other month. It’s making me feel like people are going to be thinking we’re Billy no mates or something The thing is, I’m very sociable, but DP isn’t. He has a group of 6 men that are his best friends and that is it. He’s having 1 evening guest, an old work colleague and that’s it. He’s an only child and is estranged from his extended family so it’s just his parents attending from his family and that’s it. So I guess what I’m saying is, one side of us is only inviting about 10 people which shortens the numbers quite considerably!

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wedding not a popularity contest FFS, but I guess all the weddings I’ve been to have probably been 150ish by the evening so we are probably on the low side in terms of numbers.

I just feel this huge pressure to have lots of guests, even my hen do list when I gave it to my MOH, she said ‘There’s only 10 names, are you sure that’s all you want?!’ I was like, well yes, my 9 closest friends and my mum! Who else would I invite?! Loads of random people that I haven’t seen for years? Is 10 people a small hen do?!

Have I lost tough with reality?! I just think, realistically, to have weddings with say 200 people, do people really know and hang out with 100 people regularly?

Are we odd/ Billy no mates?!

14 + us.

I had 120 for my first wedding and an additional 20 or so in the evening .

I had 30 the second time.

42 including us. We just had people there that truly meant something to us. I didn’t want aunt fanny and uncle bob who I hadn’t seen for 15 years. A few more in the evening. Can’t remember how many now though.

We're having 90 for the day and will invite another 10 or so to the evening.

We’re having 60 all day at ours- our venue only holds 80 so it seems like you’re bang on the money with your numbers!

60 as per hotel package

700 invitations! 400 Evening guests! How?

What do you mean, 'how' ?

700 invitations! 400 Evening guests! How?
Big venue and lots of money

Looks like ours will be average/ slightly smaller than average then.

I just don’t get how people can have 200 plus at a wedding? I’m a pretty sociable person with quite a lot of friends (probably /0 I see/ socialise with regularly/ semi regularly) and I have a fairly large family. But really, that’s about it? I guess if DP had similar to me in terms of family and friends then that would bump the numbers up but we still wouldn’t be at 200 or the like!

I did go to one wedding last year which was massive, about 260 people I believe...honestly, they’d invited their cleaner and Gardner who they’re not exaclty I’m overly friends terms with. Both attended but stood about looking awkward with their partners all day as they didn’t really know anyone. I’ve been friends with this girl for years and know most of the same people as her, but honestly hadn’t ever seen half the people before in my life! I do think they’d probably just invited everyone they’d ever met and been on vaguely friendly terms with before as both are sociable people, but neither popular enough to warrant nearly 300 guests! T’was a good wedding though

20 not 0

I had 7 for the actual wedding/afternoon tea (including us!) We then had a full reception 2 weeks later and had 45 for the day and about 60 for the evening. 80 doesn’t seem small!

Parents, grandparents and siblings through the day.
Aunts and two cousins addition on the evening!

We had 12 guests. People that mattered to us and kept in touch/were in the country.

Saw no need for a big display for the sake of others, but realise a lot of people like the big weddings.

There were 45 people at our wedding. That I used us and the photographer, who was my cousin so stayed for the whole event anyway.
We didn't want a separate evening do. We got married at 3pm, had photos, meal then had the bar and lounge to chat. I took colouring and bubbles for the 4 children that were there.
It is up to you to decide what you want as it is your day.

We’ve got about 100 for the evening and that’s including partners of friends!

And I’m only having about 10 to my hen

None at all. We got married in New York in 2016 and our photographer was our witness (you only need one in NY state). It was perfect - my mother was 3000 miles away

We’ve got 85/125 and we’ve been told that’s a little above average (OH from a big Irish family!)

17 including us and our DD. It was bloody lovely.
About 75 to a night do a month or so later!

We had 40, reg office then a pub lunch, then we had everyone back to ours for a garden party plus more guests in the evening. We both have huge families on each side but didn't want to have a big wedding. Ours was our parents, grandparents, siblings and our closest friends, (other friends/partners came in the evening) there's nothing I would of changed about our wedding looking back!