To ask how many guests you had at your wedding? Is ours overly small?

[DiamondMine1]

I guess by this I mean people that have NOT purposefully had a very small wedding.

Getting married in June, we have approximtely 75 day guests, with probably another 10-20 in the evening.

I was having my nails done the other day, and the nail lady mentioned she was getting married in May and we were talking weddings. She was saying how much it was costing them at their venue per head and they were going over budget slightly. I said yeh, ours is pretty expensive per head too, and with around 80 day guests it certainly wasn’t working out cheap.

She seemed surprised and said ‘Oh only a small wedding then?’ I said ‘Err, yeh I guess?’ And she laughed and said ‘I’d class 80 as small, we’ve got so many friends and family between us, ours is working out about 100 on each side.’

She wasn’t being deliberately mean or anything, she just seemed surprised that we only had 80 guests.

I actually had a friend comment similar the other month. It’s making me feel like people are going to be thinking we’re Billy no mates or something The thing is, I’m very sociable, but DP isn’t. He has a group of 6 men that are his best friends and that is it. He’s having 1 evening guest, an old work colleague and that’s it. He’s an only child and is estranged from his extended family so it’s just his parents attending from his family and that’s it. So I guess what I’m saying is, one side of us is only inviting about 10 people which shortens the numbers quite considerably!

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wedding not a popularity contest FFS, but I guess all the weddings I’ve been to have probably been 150ish by the evening so we are probably on the low side in terms of numbers.

I just feel this huge pressure to have lots of guests, even my hen do list when I gave it to my MOH, she said ‘There’s only 10 names, are you sure that’s all you want?!’ I was like, well yes, my 9 closest friends and my mum! Who else would I invite?! Loads of random people that I haven’t seen for years? Is 10 people a small hen do?!

Have I lost tough with reality?! I just think, realistically, to have weddings with say 200 people, do people really know and hang out with 100 people regularly?

Are we odd/ Billy no mates?!

Ah okay overwhelmed... the US would have been a bit much for us 😂

80 guests day guests is about average, and i wouldn't call that a small wedding (just right)
200 day guests, is much more unusual, and sounds like too many to me

60 at my first ( held at my parent's house, and that was all the friends and family we had). 18 at my 2nd .

The idea that you "should" have a certain number is not realistic. You have the people who you love , not some certain number . Just enjoy your day and ignore silly comments .

40 in the day, 100ish in the evening.

Look at it this way: if you have 100 guests and you spend just 5 minutes talking to each of them, that's 500 minutes or 8 hours and 20 minutes just talking to guests. You've also got to fit in the ceremony, photos, speeches, food, first dance, cake etc.

What's the point in inviting people you aren't going to talk to and enjoy the day with? Focus on your very nearest and dearest. Quality over quantity.

My friend got married last year and it was family and a couple of very close friends only in the day, so there were maybe 30 of us, and that included their five children (2nd marriage). They had a lot more in the evening.

It was a really lovely wedding. Some other friends came to the ceremony, and then left and came back in the evening, but it felt really special just being family and a couple of friends.

10 in total (2 were us and 2 were under 3) and no evening do ''twas bliss! That was perfect for us and 80 is right for you don't feel bad, ignore mean nail lady I bet she doesn't even know or like half the people coming to hers

60 day guests, another dozen or so evening. My hen do was 6 (,including me)

It meant we could spend a decent amount of time with each guest (or group) and didn't feel overwhelmed

We had 75 bang on too. Originally we invited 80 day and 20 evening. In the end we upgraded the evening folk because only six of them could come so everyone was there all day.

It felt loads at the time but it was all people we knew (despite my dad randomly asking to bring some people we’d never met!)

80 isn't small at all. We had a registry office wedding with about 30 people and then a bigger do in the evening - that was about 100.
Didnt seem small to us.

80 seems to be about average for the packages on offer at wedding venues?

But for us we only had 2 guests

My friends are getting married and have 35 guests coming

Geography meant we had a small wedding - 10 guests. If that had not been a factor, we would probably had less than 50.

Some people invite everyone they have ever met, some people include acquaintances, some only. Have close friends and family.

Entire,y your call but YABU to compare yourself to your manicurist. You are different people!

We had 80 in the day, plus 10 more at night. 10 were from my “side”: family, 1 set of godparents, 1 friend and her husband. It didn’t feel small. I was very conscious of not having friends there to talk to, especially as dh knew and spoke to everyone, but with 6 close friends your dp should be fine! (I spent most of my time with my 4dc if dh was off socialising, but they’re great company so that wasn’t a problem!)

We had 40 including bridal party to afternoon reception & 80 to night do.

We had 52 during the day and another 50 at night

35 day plus another 35 evening

Just under 60 and in 10years will have photos of the most special people in my life who will still be in it, rather than a load of acquaintances that I won’t renember half there names!

It’s personal choice sounds like a good number and you will have a fabulous day!

Congratulations

Getting married in June, we have approximtely 75 day guests, with probably another 10-20 in the evening.

What have the 10-20 done wrong?!
We just invited who we wanted to have there. When we counted up the replies there were about 80. Didn't really think about whether it was 'small' or not. Does it matter? Is the nail lady Prince Andrew?

4 at mine, plus us = a total of six people. I think you’d class that as small.

I had 8 for my hen do- family & best friend... It was was lovely- I didn't want to get lashed and wear a sash (no problem with other people doing so just not my style). We had 80 people to the wedding and then had a festival weekend... Really loved the second day and we realized that the people who stayed and camped/booked accommodation nearby were the people we wanted at our wedding. Probably could of happily had 60. Enjoy being able to see all your guests which is very hard when there are 200!

We invited 40 to the meal (I think we had about 35 acceptances) and we had another 30 or so for the evening, some of those 30 also came to the ceremony.

The only wedding I've been to was my cousins, it was in Thailand on the beach. Just close family, there was 10 of us in total. It was beautiful, really emotional and romantic. So your wedding doesn't sound too small

We had 20, so just the immediate family and four friends. It was ace. I've been to big weddings and some have been lovely too, but with larger crowds I found that people tended to stick with their own table/friends and there wasn't that much mingling going on. Each to their own though.

I had 3 and it was lovely

We had 76 at ours, DH’s side was only around 20 people due to distance to the venue and his work friends working that day. (We live around 250 miles from where he is from and he works in theatre.) I would say it’s quite a small number but not overly so. We were close friends or family with all our guests.

We had 60 during the day, and about another 20 in the evening. That felt like plenty to me! We wouldn't have known enough people to invite 100 each!