to not want MIL's dog in the house with my baby

[mamadoc]

or is it just my PFB syndrome talking!

said dog is an excitable collie with no manners at all. Jumps up at people, begs at table, all over furniture and beds leaving hair everywhere, howls if left alone.

MIL wont leave it at home cos it chews her house up- Aww she just gets lonely-so wont visit unless dog comes too. I am worried about germs and at the back of my mind it attacking DD (10wks). Frankly even it licking her would freak me out.

DH and MIL think I am unreasonable. Under loads of pressure -you are stopping her seeing her granddaughter. What to do??

Dogs are not people

"Just because the dog is friendly and gentle(ish) with adults is no reason to suppose it will be with your baby"

wise words indeed

I adore dogs and all animals btw - but with sad cases where the dog has attacked a child you always seem to hear the same thing: "But Rover was such a softie he was great with children"
Animals are unpredictable, they get fed-up stressed, angry and volatile and it's not their fault.

i wouldnt want a dog near my newborn baby. you have enough to deal with at that time in your life! the added stress isnt worth it. maybe she can leave the dog in the garden (if you have one) or in another room if you guys visit her?

i hope something works out.

Bad Parent Alert

My dog went to investigate DD1 in her moses basket and pulled it over. I only popped to the loo. I don't ever leave the dog in a room on it's own with children anymore. She was approx. 5 mo. She was inconsolable.

It was a hard lesson learned.

YANBU

My mum has a lovely, though very excitable border collie. He's so loving, and was a great family pet when we were all at home, but we got him when my siblings and I were teenagers so he'd never really been around babies. It was my mum's decision to make sure he is always outside whenever we visit her, and if the weather's bad he can sit in the covered area between the backdoor and the garden (to call it a conservatory would be over the top, and anyway he sits in the rain). The dog doesn't mind, we play with him and leave dd with mum and dad so we all get quality time with dog and child IYSWIM.

My dd would love to play with the dog but she's a boisterous 22 month-old who would just love pulling his tail which would wind him up and he might try to bite her (though he has no history of this). She has tried stroking him but only when an adult has been holding her firmly and another has been holding the dog. It would be too stressful to try and keep the 2 of them in the same room for any length of time as both would hate being restrained for any length of time.

Oh and he does know days of the week too! He expects to see us on Sundays and waits by the window for us (though this is probably because he knows he's going to get a pig's ear as a bribe to go in the garden , and knows when it's Tuesday as my mum doesn't work on Tuesdays!