AIBU to get annoyed about people parking in parent/baby spaces

[Mummyto2munchkins]

So went shopping today. A woman parked her car in a parent and baby space but left both kids and her mum in the car with the car running..
I shook my head as it annoyed me.

She stopped the car and opened the back door showing her kids saying "if you wanna get lairy my kids are in the car"

We explained that the parking spaces are for parents with kids in the car to get the kids out.. She then said that both kids were in the car. We said also with your mum in the car too.

She then said "he didn't want to go in, what do you want me to do drag them out" we responded with "no just park in a Normal space"

AIBU to think she's out of order, and the spaces are for kids getting out of the car as you're needing extra space to get them in/out? Or am I completely missing something here?

God not this again! Every day!

She's a twat. And so is everyone else who parks in them when they don't need to. But for some reason people on mn think it's ok so you'll probably get flamed.

This won't end well

She was wrong but you won't get anywhere arguing about it.
Also mumsnet is really weird about p and c spaces.

If they didn't put them right next to the doors and in the back corner of the carpark. I bet 90% of parents who currently use them wouldn't.

Maybe read the numerous otherbposts that are on this. every day

Why did you feel the need to get involved? Did you not get a space as a result of this? Does it actually matter anyway?

*other posts

I leave them for people with children for extra space generally. The exception to this was when I broke my back and had a big brace and crutches; I got whoever was driving me at the time to park in them as I needed the extra space myself to get out of the vehicle and needed to be as close to the shop as possible as my mobility wasn't good at all. I was on the receiving end of quite a bit of abuse several times for doing this which was pretty unreasonable I think.

I'd never park in a disabled space without a blue badge but think as "courtesy" spaces the parent and child spaces are OK to use if you also have a need for extra space temporarily.

Shall I summarise for you OP?

If supermarkets pander to today's snowflake parents with their snowflake children, the parent and child spaces should be as far away as possible because it's only extra space you want. The little snowflakes should be obediently walking nicely so the distance doesn't matter. Kids who don't want to walk tbst far as just lazy.

Supermarkets shouldn't provide them, they weren't provided for20 years ago so why should they be now. Grow up, buy a smaller car, a smaller buggy, a smaller car seat etc.

Anyone using one who isn't getting a child under 7 out the car should be shot on the spot.

Have I missed an argument?

Oh yeah, there's normally something about the rights and wrongs of converting disabled bays as they're never full any way but then if there's fewer they aren't available when someone does need them and having a child is no way comparable to disability so see point 1

We was driving away and she managed to block us leaving to angrily walk towards the car, telling us not to get lairy, all I did was shook my head, (not that she would even know it would be about her in the first place)

We also have a small car, with a small pram, with a small carseat, but with people's "poor parking" nowadays. I mean who needs to be so close to a white line nowadays anyway, you do struggle getting a seat out of a car, (especially if there are no other spaces available) - just saying.

On mumsnet people will describe how they manoeuvred 50 children out of a Fiat500 in a parking space next to two Jeeps, but in reality I think it's really mean to park there unless you've got kids or a disability.

Well here we are. Groundhog Day.

Op - have a head wobble - how did this actually impact YOUR life ? could you park adequately?

We explained that the parking spaces are for parents with kids in the car to get the kids out.

Point me to the sign where it says ^^ that .

YABU. Those spaces aren't legally enforceable. I park in them and quite frankly don't care...

I shook my head as it annoyed me.

😂😂😂

That told her!

Yes YABU

They are a courtesy, not a right. They aren’t a legally protected space like disabled spaces. Anyone can use them.

Yeah it's rubbish. It happens. All. The. Time. But seriously you are lucky to even have parent and child parking spaces. Majority of places don't. And yet parents still survive getting their kids out the car. Confrontations with people in front of their kids isn't cool. Walk away and know that morally you're doing the right thing.

We also have a small car, with a small pram, with a small carseat, but with people's "poor parking" nowadays. I mean who needs to be so close to a white line nowadays anyway, you do struggle getting a seat out of a car, (especially if there are no other spaces available) - just saying

Have you considered shopping online and home delivery?

I get a bit eyerolly when I see people without kids use them- in our local Sainsbury’s it’s usually people who are driving ridiculously big jeeps/ Range Rovers who are clearly a bit nervy about parking such a huge car in a regular sized spot lest it get dinged.

I wouldn’t say anything though- they’re handy at the moment as I have SPD with dc2, but if you have a normal sized car and can park competently a normal space is fine.

Partners father is in hospital following a nasty surgery so "requested" a few items to be taken to him. Otherwise I would have walked down

Have you considered shopping online and home delivery?

I hate that sort of remark. Are we now banning people with babies from entering the supermarket? Are they not allowed out of the house apart from parent and toddler groups? How would that work if you need food for tonight and the only delivery slot is in 4 days time?

The people on mumsnet it seems!

Hmm..

Wow - this thread. OP YANBU. This is a massive pet peeve of mine. I have 2 DDs and I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with twins. These spaces are essential and I will sit and wait for one if one isn't available. It really annoys me when people use them without children or leave their children in the car.

Having them near the doors is about child safety - rather than having to manoeuvre one or two toddlers through a large car park and the hazards that ensue.

Perhaps we shouldn't bother going to the shops....yep that's the answer in this economy. Mums are a rare category of people who have to shop for growing children unlike a lot of shoppers who like to browse without buying...