AIBU to think DH can go back to work with an infected cut?

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DH had a minor operation and the incision has got infected. It is being dressed at the GP surgery, but they have said if he feels up for it, he can return to work and it won't damage his health. He stacks shelves in a supermarket/warehouse and says it pulls when he does heavy lifting and irritates the area, the doctor is happy to still sign him off.

AIBU to think he can get back to work now? I'm not trying to disbelieve him but he manages to do some household chores with no problem... I think he's enjoying the lay ins a bit too much.

AIBU?

I really hope the infection goes soon, op. Things like this are very worrying.
for him (unless he' on antibiotics in which case he can have when he's finished for you.

No I'm not trying to say it's fine or anything, I am just trying to explain. It was a gallbladder removal, one of the incisions is about 3cm, the others smaller. And I'm not just making stuff up, he was originally told he could be getting back to normal activities 2-3 weeks after.

But like I say, I am unreasonable and accept that.

Sorry *1-2 weeks!!

I work for a supermarket, though not in a store I spend alot of time in stores. I am always amazed by the amount of manual work people in store get through. It's a very physically taxing job.

I think you are being massively unreasonable. Being a sahm is hard but you clearly don't get what his job entails. Trying to get home to go back when he says he isn't ready is really shitty. He is doing stuff at home so not laid about doing nothing.

My suggestion would be forbyoj to apply and pick some shifts up, if they have so many spare hours. You could do one shift per week, then pick up extra shifts when you need more money.

Normal activities can very much depend on what the normal activities are. A physical job is something you back to when you are ready. Especially after having your gall bladder out.

If he can’t do heavy lifting while in pain maybe you could get a job OP and let him stay home with the children, would that suit you money wise?

The doctor also says he can go back to work if he feels it's okay

YABU unless he feels fine. An infected surgical cut can make you feel pretty unwell. Mine did anyway.

Perhaps try working a shift stacking shelves and pulling heavy cages around, it's not as easy asa lot of people think. Leave him to heal properly.

My C section cut git infected. I could barely stand up straight for 9 weeks. Some people take longer to heal than others. 2 weeks seems a very short recovery time for a manual worker.

Normal activities doesn't really mean manual work though, does it! YABVVU OP, I'm genuinely shocked at this, I can't believe that anyone actually has such a lack of sympathy for their own partner.

OP why don't you get a job and make up the hours you're missing by him being home? If he is home he can do the tasks you normally do. Even if you have no skills you can do ironing or something.

If he does a good job at home you should maybe consider both of you working part-time and sharing household duties, it is a bit unfair to complain about him not bringing in enough money due to being injured when you don't bring in any. If you were both working, then next time one of you is sick the other can pick up some extra shifts.

I do this job part time, and it is really bloody hard work! Lifting, pulling, climbing etc... it’s very physically demanding. Let the poor bloke go back when he’s ready. I wouldn’t want to rush back either. YABU and quite unkind too op.

Might I suggest you pick up some evening or weekend work if money is tight? Call centres often have some available.

I had my gallbladder out, it was excruciating, I worked in an office, it was a month before I was fit to go back to work. And when I had my appendix out I was told 6 weeks before I could so heavy lifting or vigorous exercise.

OP you're being very unkind to your OH. Fgs let the poor man heal.

Ouldnttbe supermarketput him on alternative duties temporarily? DS worked a Tesco and everyone was trained at checkout for cover.

The supermarket I work for has about a 3 week turn around for recruiting. You could be doing the extra shift, you want the money from. He does the childcare that day/night.

And then if he ever has to have something else don't, you can pick up extra work.

But I suspect you don't want to to do this. Which is concerning. You would rather not work even though money is tight and get him back earlier than he is ready. What if he injures himself and ends up with more time off?

I did a few dishes and loaded the washing machine a couple of weeks after a hysterectomy....there was no way I could go to my DESK job!

Cut him some slack! And maybe find some work on the opposite shift to your partner if money is a worry.

Mayrhofen that maybe an idea, but if they don't need checkout staff on his shifts it won't help. While there's lots of staff checkout trained, that's so they can jump on when needed not for full shifts.

They would need to move someone into stacking, checkout staff may not want to do that.

God help him if he ever loses his job or becomes very ill, is he of any use to you at all apart from what money he can earn for you. Give the bloke a break, if you had ever done a manual job you should know what that will do to you. He probably is enjoying a lie in, he is probably knackered!

Checkouts can still be quite hard work physically. More so in some ways than stacking as you’re stuck in one position for hours on end. Try lifting multi tins of dog food sideways across your body with an infected surgical incision.

Person I know having keyhole gall bladder surgery has been told 4 weeks off work and they have a desk job.

If you are reliant on the extra shift money could you get a few hours a week somewhere op?

Poor man. Instead of regularly doing the extra shift, you could work an evening or weekend job. Yeah ... I know ....It's really tiring

This thread title is VERY misleading. Three weeks post gallbladder removal operation scar is NOT just an infected cut.

I had my gallbladder out eighteen months ago and was signed off from my sedentary office job for a month. That was without post operative infection. Poor bloke.

Christ almighty. YABVU. You clearly have no idea what having an op is like. It's like someone has been rumbling around with all your inners. Which in fact they have!! Or an infected wound. In itself not pleasant.

OP I am not going to continue the kicking you are already getting.

Possibly what you havent realised is that the healing is not just on the surface that you can see. It is also all the internal wound which will be quite deep which has to heal. An infection will have slowed that process right down.

There are multiple threads on MN on the topics of gallstones and gallbladder removal. I suggest you read some of them.