Colleague acting strange. Aibu?

[Diamondangel8]

One of my colleagues that I get on with really well has just returned from travelling. We have been in touch and been communicating fb and WhatsApp. Anyway she came back on Monday and been totally off with me. We norm go out drinking, lunchtime together. I went to see her in her office first thing and her face was like thunder. She carried on with her work and wouldnt look up from her screen saying how busy she is and can't meet me for lunch. so simply tried to ask had she had a nice time? Very odd. I said if she can spare 5 mins to come see me in my office like she normally does as looking forward to hearing all about it. She didn't. I saw her in the corridor yesterday as returning from another office and she dashed down the other corridor when she saw me. I was talking with another colleague in the kitchen and she came up to them over the top giving them a big hug interrupting our conversation and ignoring me. I have absolutely no clue what is going On! AIBU? On her last day before travelling with her dh we went out for drinks and had a great time. I'm a bit in shock. WWYD?

Did you accidentally shag her husband?
Or did she shag yours?

She is obviously angry with you for a reason

"Oi! What's up with you? You're behaving really strangely..." should prompt a response.

Good grief, is she 8?

What did the gratuitously hugged colleagues make of her behaviour?

Could someone else enquire on your behalf / tell her to stop being such a childish tit?

I agree you should just ask.

Is there any chance anything you've said to colleagues whilst she was away could have gotten back to her, even something like 'oh Linda's jetting off again' could have been twisted perhaps?

I hate situations like this, always makes me feel really anxious even if I know I haven't done anything (purposely at least). Hope you find out soon OP

Blimey. You do need to ask.

Ask. But don't text she has the option of ignoring that.

Was going to suggest that maybe her husband had confessed to having a crush on you while were away but I see someone else has suggested this. Any chance this could be the case? Also just to say you’re not alone I have a work colleague who is acting strangely towards me. I think some people are just rude and need to grow up and act their age.

Could it be work related jealousy?

Someone sang your praises or you've been tipped for promotion?

Ignoring you whilst being OTT with another colleague is redolent of jealousy.

I really don't know. I haven't met her dh hut have commented on couple of pictures. Just saying how lovely everything looks. I think I'm going to stay out of her way and if she's off next week just ask her what her problem is. I've only spoken highly of her while she has been away last couple of months. Very odd behaviour!

I would WhatsApp her - something simple...

‘What’s happened? Whatever has pissed you off has to be a misunderstanding...coffee tomorrow at lunchtime?’

I knew a 50 year old woman who has and probably still behaves like this. Just cos she's an adult, doesn't make her a grown up.

Doesn't look like she's just catching up on a backlog of work as she's avoiding you but spending time with others,

Have you missed her birthday/anniversary/other special occasion?

You weren't meant to be picking her up at the airport to take her home and forgot, resulting in her having to make other arrangements to get home at 2.30am?

Is there anything you had arranged to do for/with her since her holiday you might have forgotten about?

Have you said something at work while she was away that has got her into trouble?

There are so many possibilities, the only way to find out is to talk to her. If you leave it too long you will never ask her about it and might lose a friend over not talking. Is she worth fighting for or are you happy to just let the friendship fizzle out?

Could she be planning on leaving the company?

Sounds very odd. Has she been away for a while and have you taken on some of her job?

Hold on, when you say travelling, has she taken Lariam for malaria? I had an old friend come home acting quite oddly after taking this.

Someone at work has told her something you said about her or her work while she was away?

You’ve somehow backstabbed her at work?

Check recent messages and emails for any misunderstandings

Maybe its the Monday lunchtime drinking, she's decided she wants to cut down?

No I have nothing to do with her job but I am friendly with her and her manager. When I went in to sat hello and hope she had a nice time she was completely off. So I just took the hint and left and her Manager did apologise as I left saying they were really busy but seems odd she can't look away for a minute to say she would have enjoyed her holiday. Wouldn't meet me for lunch as normal all week and ignored me in the corridor and kitchen. I think screw her I would never be that rude to someone. I'm just going to see how she is tomorrow and maybe ask in passing if she can give me the time of day what her problem is. The whole hug thing was v passive aggressive. She was like miss you and have her a big hug while we were talking and then walked off ignoring me. Pathetic really.

Are you pregnant or could she be and either one struggling to conceive?

My guess is someone has been stirring and said something to her that's not true.
But the reality is none of us could say and the only way to know is to ask her.

She sounds like a total prick. Write her off as no loss and don't try to interact again. It's dangerous to persue this given that you work with her and hr could get involved if she says your contact is harassing her etc. She sounds like the type frankly.

I'd ask her outright as otherwise you'll never know & given you're working together, you need to not have this kind of shit happening, so best to clear things up.

Ask her directly: 'are you okay? Have I upset you?'

Yup, ask