Husband opening post

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Would this bother you? I don't open his so don't expect him to open mine.

We got in at the same time tonight and as I was getting out the car he shouted me to hurry up cos he wanted to show me the letter.

Would this bother you? I asked why he'd not just left it for me to open and he went off in a huff.

Aibu?

I really wish there was someone opening my post as it's always bills lol.

That said, he'd have his head on a platter if he opened mine.

Oooh was it exciting post?

Personally it wouldn't bother me because the only post I get is vouchers from Pets at Home, the occasional credit card statement and Fat Face catalogues!

But he wouldn't, out of principle more than anything. The only time I think he would is if I was away for a while for some reason and it looked urgent or important.

We open each other's post if it looks important. I've never considered it being a problem.

And for the same reason I hate joint email addresses.

I open pretty much all the post because my partner doesn't. It wouldn't bother me if he opened my post but it's unlikely he ever would if he doesn't open his own.

If either of us were bothered we'd just tell each other.

Of course YANBU.
I too, thought it was illegal to open post not address to you.
It is a gross invasion of privacy / overstepping the mark.

When boring looking post arrives for my dc away at University, I send them a Whatsapp photo of it and ask them what they want me to do with it, at which point, they will often say open it to see what it is. Same when dh is working away. When people are at home though, everyone opens their own post.

It's one thing opening post if the other isn't home and it looks important or like something they have been waiting on but you came in at the same time, you were together and he opened it? Weird

Dealbreaker for me I'm afraid. Massive overstep of boundaries IMO, and to then kick off when called out on it - no you don't matey.

I think it's fine to decide either way but you definitely need to agree about it. I like opening my own post too. For me, that's part of the fun, so I'd be irritated if someone else did it for me.

No I wouldn't like it. It's just a respect thing really I guess.

Post should be opened by the person it's addressed to. Unless you have a mutual agreement to open each other's post it should be left for the other person. This is why there's a stack of unopened envelopes on OH's desk!

Don't see the problem 😂
Just tell him to leave it alone if you want to have the joy of opening.

We open each others post but each to their own.

I hate it when DP opens my post. It really winds me up. If it’s not addressed to him, he shouldn’t op enough it, unless you’re ok with it.

It wouldn't bother me, but I know he never would. He doesn't even bother opening his own, just asks me what it is.

We do tend to open anything that looks interesting or important if we are the first one home... it did irritate me a bit when he was the first one home mainly as he came across things like speeding tickets! If it’s an issue, just make it clear that’s a boundary you would like to be respected in future. I wouldn’t get cross about it though as I don’t think it’s that bad unless you have expressly told him not to before.

All these bloody husbands who go off in a huff when they're in the wrong! Do they have any idea how stupid they seem?

We open each others post all the time. Mostly it is just standard household bills and credit card offers. The goal is to get it sorted quickly and the excess into the recycling. If something looks personal, like a birthday card, we save it for the intended person.

Well it's not necessary unless one has a partner who welcomes it because they lazy with opening important things and don't mind or the person has dementia or something. It's not usually the done thing and I as pp said I thought it's illegal.

I too, thought it was illegal to open post not address to you.

It is, technically, but the police are hardly going to be interested in it unless it's part of a whole other load of problem behaviour!

I wouldn't do this but wouldn't be bothered if my partner did it either. However you are massively reasonable not to want him to do this. The fact he huffed off is worrying to me. Sounds a bit controlling and entitled.

He knows he shouldn't have done it which is why he's gone off in a huff. If mine did it I'd cut his hand off, neither of us would dream of opening one another's mail.

We open each other's post unless it looks like a card or if it's around Christmas/birthday/anniversary

Never open dh's post, I barely want to open my own never mind his (usually just bills).