I’m a first time mum and I’m trying my best. Trying my best to make sure my baby is happy, make sure she’s fed and warm and is being brought up in a clean and happy home. Trying to balance all this takes up every hour of my day and I love it. I love being a mum, I love having a purpose. Someone to look after, someone that needs me. It’s lovely being needed. I’ve never felt anything like this in my life. So I feel like I owe it to my baby to make sure she’s got the best mum I can be. Physically and mentally, she’s what motivates me. So while I’m trying to be the best mum I can be, making sure my house is tidy and I’m not shoving junk food in my mouth, along with trying to still have quality time with my partner and just getting used to being a little family of three, it takes up all my time. I know people may think that I’m on maternity ‘she must be bored’ I’m not. My days are filled with baby swim classes, walks around the park, health visitor appointments, housework, tea times, bath times then bedtime routines. So my time is precious to me. I don’t have time for the same things I used to. So I don’t appreciate it when I’ve made plans with friends and I’ve made sure I’ve gotten up early, house is fairly tidy, everything is ready for her coming over for breakfast and then my friend shows up two hours late. I’m starving, not sure as to whether I should go ahead and eat myself as she won’t answer any calls or texts. When she does finally show and I challenge her on her time keeping, I get “I do have 4 kids you know!!”. Which I totally understand but because she has four children and I only have one, does that mean that my time isn’t as precious as hers? Before I had my DD (only 8 weeks ago) she would always use the excuse “I do have kids you know” to why she would show up late to other events. But now I have a child of my own she uses the amount of kids as her excuse to being late and wasting my time. Is it really alright to show up two hours late to someone’s house then expect them to cook your breakfast? 9am is early to meet with friends but when it was her that suggested the time, I didn’t think it would be an issue. This is not the first time this friend has been ridiculously late then showing up with no apology. But I feel like it’s the straw that broke the camels back for me. It’s not just my time she’s wasting now, its my child’s. Her time keeping totally ruined our plans for that day and I have no intentions of making any arrangements to see her anytime soon. My partner thinks I’m being too cut throat, as he worried that being on maternity leave that I will become lonely and that will lead to baby blues. But I’d much rather spend the day with my baby than people that take the piss. I just don’t feel like I have time for the friends that I did before. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Could all this still be the pregnancy hormones leaving me? As much as I don’t want to be friendless, I just feel that I don’t have time for the friends that I used to. Is that normal?