To be so emotionally invested in other women’s bras?

[BuffaloCauliflower]

Just that really. (This is lighthearted before I get any ‘haven’t you got any bigger problems’ comments)

I’m just about constantly worried about whether other women are wearing the right size bra. None of them seem to be. In a group I’m in on FB a women was getting annoyed by suggestions she wasn’t a 38D. There was a picture of her whole body, she was a size 8/10 and her boobs were quite clearly bigger than than mine (32FF/G). She just wouldn’t have it despite everyone being quite kind and just wanting to help.

My size 8/10 SIL insists she’s been measured and she’s a 36C. I can see from looking at her that it’s clearly wrong. I asked her how she can be a 36 at size 8/10 and I’m a 32 at 12/14 but she won’t accept she needs to measure differently. Every time bras are mentioned anywhere I feel compelled to leap in with a booborbust link like some crazed bra pixie.

The ridiculous old school add 4 inches or whatever they’re still doing in M&S and Debenhams needs to stop, it’s doing women no favours. How many women must be uncomfortable and bra hating because they’re nowhere near the right size? I feel like there needs to be some mass PR campaign to teach women and the shops that only stock 32A to 44DD how sizes actually work.

If your sister is wearing a 30C it would be smaller than your 36A. But if she's wearing a 36C it's pretty similar to a 30F
treacle I’m 36A she is 36C and believe me, she has bigger breast size than me- same frame-actual boobs bigger. I years ago tried her bras on, in hopefulness that I wasn’t so tiny, and I could have filled her cup with several socks.

It's a weirdly obsessive feeling IME and I get this quite a lot on many topics. If you find out something which is demonstrably true but most people don't know about it you end up feeling compelled to share it with the world and find yourself getting quite irritated when people present misconceptions about the same issue as though they are fact.

I feel like it comes from an annoying level of curiosity that most people don't seem to share and a tendency to get lost in researching a topic which might never be of relevance to me at all. Then I become an insufferable know it all about it.

I do sometimes step back though and wonder if this is how the flat earthers feel and worry that I might one day be drawn into something so ridiculous I hope not, because most things I feel like this about have good evidence or at least reason behind them, but you never know.

FWIW I believe this is part of my ADHD - because I start to get a little bit interested in a topic and while most people would stop there I don't, I tend to keep going at it in a state of hyperfocus until I've exhausted every source of information on the topic I can find and then I feel like an expert.

Where do I go to get properly measured if I have extra small boobs??? Pre pregnancy I got measured in BHS, and was told I was a 34AA, and that I'd better go look in the kids section.... Obviously I did not want a kids bra. I tried 34A, but it was uncomfortable so tried 34B which fit better but is still not right. Through all this I was a size 8 in tops. I'm now a size 10 post pregnancy, and none of my old bra's fit. They are all too tight. When I was size 8 they would ride up all the time. During pregnancy I bought a multi-size feeding bra and am still wearing that 7 months on, although not breastfeeding! Hopefully my post isn't too jumbled, I just want a bra that fits!! I plan to lose weight but I need a good fitting bra in the meantime 😩

@adeo1929 start by measuring and using the boob or bust calculator linked in this thread, then try on some bra’s around the size it suggests. I would only trust Bravissimo or Rigby and Peller for good bra fitting. It’s worth doing some googling on how a bra should fit against your body so you know what to look for. And when you put it on ALWAYS lean over and make sure you properly scoop all the breast tissue into the cup

@Bringbackthestripes you’re not following - the cup on a 36A and a 36C are not the same cup on a bigger and smaller band. A 30F cup would be much much smaller than a 36F cup for example. Not filling a 36C cup doesn’t mean you won’t fit a 30F... the band and cup letter size both effect the total volume the cup can hold. This graphic attached might help - same cup letter, different band, hugely different size. I’m a 32FF, it fits me well. A 36FF would be huge.

Also if you’re the same frame as your sister and measuring 30, and she’s in a 36C, sounds like she also desperately needs resizing as well.

@buffaloCauliflower maybe you misread? What I said was the difference in cup size between me -36A - and my sister 36C- was huge. I did NOT fit in her cup size in the same band as me. And she has way bigger boobs than me. We have the same frame, she has bigger boobs.

I never said the fit wouldn’t be different on a different sized band but that on THE SAME band the difference was massive, as expected, being as we are the same frame but she has -enviably- bigger boobs than me. I get that going up and down a band size would have an effect but we are the same chest measurement but she has big boobs, I don’t.

@Bringbackthestripes it will be! She is two full cup sizes bigger

If she was a 32C and you were a 36A, then you would have the same (size) volume of boobs

The band is your underbust and the cup size the actual volume but they relate to each other. So you have the same size underbust, but she has boobs 2 (cup) sizes bigger

@Bringbackthestripes I’m not saying she doesn’t have bigger boobs. I’m saying a 36C is a lot bigger than a 30F, it will also be a very different cup volume. So the fact the 36C didn’t fit you doesn’t mean a 30F won’t.

What dress size do you and your sister wear?

@BertieBotts I think I get frustrated because people post "I'm a size 6 and I can't breathe in a 36 band" (not aimed at anyone!)

I'm a plus size and wear a 32/34 band. A 36 rides up my back and is way too big
Bloody m&s have a lot to answer for. My friend was complaining about her boobs moving in a sports bra, I pulled the band about 8 inches away from her back and said WTF do you think that is doing, it's like wearing a baggy corset!

My sister is a size 16, I fitted her bra today - 32HH/J. I’m a 14 - 32FF. The cup adds so much to the band, too small a cup will also make a band seem small

Make the band seem too small, when really the cup is the issue*

For a visual this is a 34JJ bra on a size 16, and fits absolutely perfectly (bloody love this bra!)

@Ollivander84 not seeing anything I’m afraid?

Hmm it's showing on the app. Weird

@Bringbackthestripes I went from a 36b to a 30f with no change to my boobs. Ie they didn't get any bigger. 30f is still small. I'm pretty flat chested. Where I wear my bra had changed in that it sits great round my back and doesn't ride up to my shoulders, the straps don't fall down and I don't take the weight of my small boobs through my shoulders. Tops fit better on me now too.

@Ollivander84 - a great idea for a thread - posting in our bra with make and size.

You would hate me I'm too nervous to get measured so just try on a load until one looks ok.

At the moment though I have read marks on the side of each boob as I can't afford a new bra so I'm wearing ones from when I was 5 stone lighter.

I'm a size 14/16 and have been told I should wear a 34 which I think might be right but the only 34 I have left deep, painful welts in my skin. It was a strapless one though, not sure if that made a difference.

I was wearing a 38 so have generally compromised on a 36. The 34 did make my boobs look amazing though!

I've tried the bra intervention method. I found it uncomfortable and unpleasantly tight. I'll stick to my 34c.

When I lived in the UK I used to buy my bras in anne summers. If there was a sale on they were very affordable, and they stocked large cups with small backs. I was a 32FF and found lots of very pretty styles in my size.

@NicoAndTheNiners 34 does sound likely, it sounds like your cup wasn’t big enough if it was that sore and painful. What cup were you wearing? The cup makes a huge difference in how it fits around the body.
Try measuring using this calculator booborbust.com

@Hedwigsradio I wouldn’t hate you at all, but you can measure yourself! Give the calculator a go and see what it says. If you’ve changed weight that much you will definitely be in the wrong size and doing yourself a injury, Brastop have loads in the sale at the moment?

I have no money for anything for me at the moment. So just making do. Not to sure what all those measurements mean where do you measure for snug ect. I don't have fb .