Aibu if someone offers to take you out for a meal

[lastqueenofscotland]

For a birthday as a treat, is the implication that they are paying and you are not going Dutch?

Get rid.

I did end up paying for my birthday meal. But my boyfriend has no money, and I have lots. And more importantly we had a conversation in the very early days (which must have been excruciating for him) where he told me he had no money and couldn't afford to go to the sorts of places I like to or pay his way. And I had no problem with that because he has many fantastic qualities that outweigh his lack of financial assets and the cheap present he buys me are so so much better than the extravagent ones my ex-h used to get his PA to order for me because thought and love have gone into them.

Treat implies the other person will pay especially on your birthday, new boyfriend or not the guy sounds like a bloody tightwad, you can do better.

Why the hell do we say going Dutch anyway?

YourDP? What a cunt

No way if someone offers to take thee out for a meal on ya birthday then there paying girl its standard

Why the hell do we say going Dutch anyway?

mentalfloss.com/article/66871/why-do-we-refer-splitting-bill-going-dutch

They pay its ya bday they o offered to take u out dont dwell on it arse whole thinking bout there own pocket

“T’int right, t’int fair, t’int fit, t’int proper!”

So actually his “treat” was simply his presence at the pub?

Dump him. Tell him you don’t need to be “taken out” as a grown adult and can make visit restaurants quite easily without him.

Demelza

Of course if someone says "take you out" it's a treat. Why would you check, otherwise all they are offering is to be in a restaurant with you, as if you aren't capable of arranging that themselves.

The only way I'd give him a pass is, sometimes blokes can think it's offensive to offer to pay, maybe he's one of those?

Other thought, is he British? If not, may be a cultural thing. My mate was with her Scandinavian partner for years before he bought her a drink in the pub - not the done thing where he is from.

Always double check people like to use other people as an excuse to socialise and then don't want to pick up the bill.

They should pay otherwise What sort of treat is that?

Your not living with him are you? If not then just block and ghost him. Don't even send this tight fucker a text finishing it, hes not worth the effort.
I once had a friend who said she'd take me out for my birthday but we could only go to either X or Y place because she had vouchers. These places did nothing I wanted so I suggested some other places. I was prepared to pay for myself but she wouldn't budge.I declinded her very tight offer and finished the friendship not long after. Meals are a good indicator of tightarses.

Wow.

Dump, now. You were essentially tricked into laying out money you wouldn't have otherwise chosen to pay.

Did he at least get you a gift?!