To ask, if you were once a single mother, broke and breaking your back for your DC...

[NorWeezelee]

Did you manage to fall happily in love again with a wonderful man? Are there any wonderful men, ones who might risk it with likes of me?

Please pick me up with your happy stories of love and romance. I'm feeling utterly miserable and sorry for myself today.

Yes definitely I was single mother ds was 5 I was broke living in council house oinv clean ing jobs etc struggling to make ends meet. met my now hubby he encouraged me to do courses etc that was 20 years ago this year were marries 14 years ha e 2 dc lovely house I've a job I love not great pay but great perks so yes you definitely can meet someone always happens when u least expect it

For me I just never felt they were - I mean you can have joint dreams/desires but I think when you’re looking for something that is very much dependent on someone else it rarely works how you want.

I was a single mum to a 1 year old son, in a part time job, the house was 're possessed, my ex h had been abusive to me and taken up substance abuse and repeatedly taken the mortgage money for drugs.
I got a rented flat, new, flexible job, was able to save and get back on the property ladder, went to university and got a degree and masters while working, met a lovely chap when my ds was 8. We've been together 19 years next week, and have a beautiful dd.
I made my own life better and found someone, I didn't find someone to make my life better, that doesn't ever work imo.

@JacquesHammer - there's a difference between being dependent on, hinging on, and wanting to share happiness.

there's a difference between being dependent on, hinging on, and wanting to share happiness

You miss my point. If you want to share happiness that’s still dependent on finding someone who is in the same place.

It happened for me. Single mum to almost 2 year old dd, met and then married dh.

It also happened for my mum. She was a singlr parent to 6 of us, met and then married. Though she is widowed now.

And for my sister. 3 boys, met her current dp after about 6 months, they also have a little girl now and are probably the happiest couple I know.

I was never looking for a relationship - in fact I was adamant I wouldn't get into one! However I fell in love with my partner, we live together, have a son each and a baby on the way.

I got myself happy first. I got a career, it doesn't pay loads but pays enough so that if I'm alone again I'll be ok. I think the key is to be happy with yourself first.

I’ve been a single mum since 2011 and in some ways I’m happy enough plodding along but I miss having someone to care for me, it’s me doing all the caring and worrying about everyone else. Even my job involves caring for others. Just feel like I’m alone in the world at times despite lovely children and having parents and a sibling.

Off the back of this thread I have just tried to book a birthday meal for myself to be told they don't take reservations for one person, and that reservations are required. It's not a fancy place, just popular

Yes op that was me. A broke single mother of 2 small kids having finally got away from an abusive ex. Now blissfully married to dh, who after we got married became mega successful. We all now live an extremely privileged life and he is an incredible stepdad to my kids. It happens sometimes.

I've been a single parent twice! First time I was separated when my daughter was 7. I met a man who I was madly in love with, I was so happy as never thought I'd meet someone else, we went on to have a baby, all my wishes were coming true, I had not 1 but 2 wonderful daughters then that man left. I was back to being on my own again.
Couldn't believe it, I was so angry and still am. Been single 4 years now and I doubt I'll meet anyone again. I'm in my mid-late forties. I think I've aged especially in last couple years

Single and happy here but despite 50 / 50 with ex still haven’t met someone new since separating 5 years ago - not looking though and no idea how you go about it 😂

Me!

Was a single parent for 7 years and met a wonderful man, and now been together for 12 years. My DD changed her surname to his, and calls him dad.

Very much happily ever after, I am sure it will happen for you too. In the meantime though, sort out whatever issues there are with your children and put your wellness first, get running again!

OP, I have an uplifting story.. actually two!

1. Skint single mom, working hard as a waitress.. falls mutually in love with an eligible (incidentally childless) single man. Years later... still very happily married. To Matt Damon.

1. Not famous although in other respects he slightly resembles Matt Damon (possibly a lower net worth ) A friend of mine fell in love with a lovely single mom, both were early to mid 30s at the time. Also now very happily married.

I can’t imagine him being so crass as to compare a woman to an applicant for finance. If he was though, he would say his wife’s “credit rating” was enhanced by the funny, smart little human he is now privileged to receive Father’s Day cards from.