Invitations to MY house and I'm not invited...

[cantbearsed007]

He just moved in. To my house. I love him dearly.

Invite through the post - to him. Only him. He's clarified with them - I'm not invited.

Christening / bah-mitzvah / wedding breakfast / funeral wake type invite.

"We're restricted on numbers. Oh there's simply no room for HER."

AIBU to be a little peeved?

You’re not going to be invited to everything he is, just as he’s not going to be invited to everything you are.

Was he the OM and is your ex invited or something?

Is DP going to go?

How are they supposed to invite him? Text with instructions not to mention it to you?

These people are obviously not your biggest fans, and it seems that you're not bothered about them either. You're missing a Christening for a baby you've never clapped eyes on and a buffet in a community centre. It's not worth getting cross about.

@cantbearsed007

You and your DP have been together 24 months? Surely you mean 104 weeks OP?

Seriously, YANBU. It's awful when you are excluded from the life of your partner's friends and family. Especially when you have kids together...

Is HE going? If he loves you, then surely he shouldn't go. If it was me, and my partner was being left out, I would be declining any invitations, (and I would be saying why... )

Oh there's simply no room for HER

To be fair though, when I was pg with DC2 there wouldn't have been room for me in a barn, let alone a barge .

Wherever you stood in the room, you were next to me ......... ."

The OP has every right to be upset at being left out, and as she has been with her DP 2 years and they have DC together, he should be defending her more, fighting in her corner, and not allowing his 'friends' to treat his partner like shit.

Holy fuck, I was invited to family occasions of my boyfriend (now my DH) when I had been with him for less than a year. A Christening after 5 months of being with him, a wedding after 9 months of being with him, and his parents 30th wedding anniversary party when we had been together 11 months.

I was also invited on holiday with his best friend since they were 7, (and his best friend's girlfriend,) just after we had been together a year. We had no DC and were not living together.

The OP's partner's friends/family excluding the OP are arseholes.

YANBU. It’s extremely rude to only invite half of a serious couple. DH’s friends only invited him to their wedding. They got bitten by karma and ended up divorced

Sounds new relationship

No it doesn’t! 2 years and a baby on the way is not new relationship territory.

You know who you can leave off the christening/naming ceremony list when your baby arrives now

I think with the additional info I would be less than impressed too and I would hope my dp wouldn't go if I'm honest. This isn't like a wedding where each guest costs a fortune it's likely a buffet (possibly a family made buffet?£ so one more surely won't break the bank.

Now you've explained a bit more I would say I'd be annoyed in your situation. If it was a wedding with a £60+ per head situation I could just about understand why you might not be invited.

I was invited to a wedding last year addressed only to me. DH of 15 years not invited. DH didn’t know the bride or want to come and I didn’t mind, but I thought it was the done thing to invite a plus one or a spouse at least. My background is different and they would have invited my grandad too.

Are the friends friends with the ex?

In light of the drip feed, YANBU. Is he planning on going? I'd expect him to turn it down. You're a family now and they actually have to make room for you or not invite your DP.

Main question is - is he going to go? I'd be peeved too. Maybe they think you'll want to bring the kids and don't want that.

So you're pissed off you've decided to share a home with someone that you're in a relationship with, and they've received an invite that doesn't include you?

I'd be a bit pissed off probably but also I don't think you should automatically assume that you're suddenly entitled to go to everything just because you live together. It's not the host's fault he moved into your house.

Do you actually WANT to go to a Christening? Can assure you they're pretty boring.

You have a baby on the way but he only moved in on 1 January?

Were you the OW (I realise this is massive leaping to conclusions... but would explain why you’re NFI’d if his ex is invited)

This happened with my ex, he had been spreading shit about me, and telling people lies about me. What does your dp think of it?

Do they think If they invite you they must invite your kids and there is no room for all of you?

You've a 2yo and have been with him 24months-do they know your ex and think you treated him badly?

I would be peeved, how you came together may or may not rankle some people there, but you are together now. TBH if either ex is there I am fairly sure they would want to see neither of you rather than just not see one of you.
I had a friend whose DW thought our adoption placement was designed to eclipse her pregnancy and we haven't seen them since. Strange but true.

Again, apologise - we are still discussing.

My 2 original DC are not his. He moved in recently - I have wanted another DC for ages, didn't realise I would fall in love again. Pregnancy was a bit of a surprise.

They do not know my ex.