45 year age gap - Filipino bride

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Argh help me.

My step dad (mum's Ex partner) is in his 60s. He split from my mum when I was 14 and we have remained very close. He has been like a dad to me and my sister.

He is a lovely, warm, kind man. We both love him to bits. He has been unlucky in love and has been desperately lonely.

Well anyway he's gone to the Philippines and met someone - turns out she is only 19. (He has told us she is 25) but I've had a nosey on Facebook and found her.

I know the age gap is huge but I've seen bigger. I don't understand the attraction and I don't have a clue about Filipino culture. Is this the norm? Is he in danger?

We are going to visit him and have a frank discussion with him. She has applied to come over here on a work visa (she's a student)

Just wanted advice / thoughts. Also I know it's a shocking age gap. I don't need to be told that and I don't want to hear abuse towards him. I'm not keen on the idea.

Thankyou

SJaneS48 it’s pretty annoying tbf to read a long thread and then realise it’s been bumped even more so if you’ve commented.

How did you not know it was a year old?

Your stepdad is a fucking creep.

So upset and disappointed

Yes, about missing on an inheritance I bet!

I can't believe this thread. A man in his 60s is taking advantage of a 19 year old poverty girl stricken girl and OP expects us to believe he is 'lovely, warm and kind'? No, he is a PREDATOR.

I hope if she does come over she takes every penny.

@SJaneS48 don't be disingenuous, you didn't resuscitate it by accident. You have either looked for this thread or scrolled back several pages to a thread nearly a year old. Very annoying.

The power dynamics of a 19 year old from a 3rd world country who is unable to work on a student visa and a 60 year old man who she has to rely on for everything aren’t in her favour, she would be the vulnerable one here.
People are worried about her wanting his money?
Jesus it’s way way creepy and predatory of him to want a sexual relationship with her.

I wouldn't worry about him, he may lose some money/assets and friends. I'd be more worried that she is being exploited though. I mean he can't think it's true love can he, if he's honest.

@Highonpotandused, I clicked on the thread as it came up when I was searching something else. It interested me as my ex lives with a Filipina. I clocked it was posted in Jan, what I didn’t click was that it was 2019 not 2020. It’s January for Christ’s sake! It was an accidental posting as I wasn’t knowingly resuscitating an old thread.

Abased myself enough here or isn’t this quite enough for you! I’m sure you must have be an absolute delight.

Interesting name as well - would have guessed that would come with being a bit more chilled.