To be pissed off that I was asked if I was my friend's Mum...

[tiredmama25]

So, for context. I'm 30 and my friend is nearly 28. She's just had a baby and is recovering from a c-section so I offered to go to her HV with her to get baby weighed.

We went into the room and sat down, HV started talking and then said "are you Grandma?" looking at me - after digesting what she'd said I replied "erm, no!" She then said Sister? Friend? I said just a friend. She apologised and went on to tell another "horrifying" story about how she'd asked someone if it was their Mum and it was their wife. Perhaps she hadn't learnt from last time.

Honestly, I can't shake it off it has really upset me. At the end she was like I'm sorry for asking if you were Grandma, I said "to be honest I am pretty offended, I'm only 30 so I can only hope you think my friend is a teenage mother as she's only 2 years younger than me". She said she did think she was younger.

I may be more sensitive than normal as I'm currently pregnant myself but she's just made me feel so shit. I'm paranoid I look in my 40's now or something which I really didn't think I did. Perhaps I should get booked in for some Botox.

AIBU to think she should be more careful with her assumptions? Surely starting with sister would be less risky even if I did look 35/40 whatever.

God I feel so shit about it. Can't even drink the wine.

Well, I was sat on a chair across from a table from her and I'd been in the room for a few minutes. It wasn't busy, we were the only two people left and about at the current time. That doesn't help my case.

Honestly, the people in real life I've told have been as shocked as me. I really don't think I look old enough to even have a grandchild nor does my friend look THAT young (yes, people will probably jump on me now and say well why have you posted then if you don't think you look old then why do you care etc) but that's why I just cannot believe she asked straight away "are you Grandma?".

I thought I was quite young when I had my oldest and she's only 8! I'd say I'm one of the younger parents out of her class. If it's relevant, I dress very similarly to my friend in terms of fashion - I had done my make up so wasn't looking particularly pale or haggered. We are both slim but she's quite a bit shorter than me, I'm quite tall.

I can only hope that she sees a lot of young mothers and grandmothers. Even still, I still feel majorly offended and only marginally less offended than yesterday.

It seems a lot of people have been misjudged on their age!