To begrudge paying for a replacement screen?

[CollyWombles]

Just befofe christmas the mother of my DS friend asked me if I could look after her son overnight as she had to work and had been let down by the father. I agreed though I have 4dc who were hard work with Christmas being so close, but felt sorry for her.

Anyways we had the boy over night and the next day I was working so my husband (kids stepfather) was watching the kids. My DS1 and his friend are both 10, my DS2 is 9 and ASN.

I got a phone call from DH just before I finished work to tell me DS2 had thrown the friends bag onto the floor and the screen had broken on the tablet inside. DH had sent DS2 to his room. I know my DS2 and knew there would be a reason but DH hadn't bothered getting the story, just sent DS2 to his room.

When I got home and spoke to DS2, it turned out that DS1 and the friend had been pretending DS2 didn't exist and winding DS2 up until he went into meltdown and threw the bag. Now DS1 knows exactly how to get DS2 to go into meltdown and I suspect him and his friend planned to do it together so DS2 would be sent to his room and they could take over playing on the xbox.

DH had already told the mother we would replace the screen, which happens to be an ipad air and I simply can't afford to at the moment. I feel my DS1 and her son are both to blame for DS2 meltdown and we were doing her a favour looking after the boy so close to the Christmas and also her son was taking part in winding up my ASN son to the point of meltdown. Whilst I'm sorry his screen got broken, it was an unfortunate consequence of pushing an ASN child to breaking point.

I would like to offer to pay half as I really begrudge the thought of paying full. AIBU?

Thanks @rageagainstthemachine

OP - you don’t need an optical diagnosis to get dla.

It’s about his needs not about what they label him with.

My son is asd and I get HRC & HRM so if you need any help let me know

Official not optical

Definitely apply for the dla now. You have plenty of evidence already from the school. Citizens advice can help you fill out the forms. It's worth doing as it will make a big difference to you and things like this won't cause the same level of stress.

YABU - by your own admission it was both of your kids faults that the item was broken. Your DH should be paying though because he failed to supervise correctly.

Ask other mum if she has insurance and you can pay the excess