*"Some stoicism or maybe even a bit of humility until you actually have some useful skill/experience/contribution to make?"
That statement was fucking outrageous, especially on a durum that is usually supportive to Parents of disabled children.
"I feel like some kind of Calvinist puritan throwback from the 1600s for even daring to think this."
Yes you are notacoldwomanhenry. Are severely, or long term disabled people surplus to requirements then? What do you suggest we do with them?*
OK, I take your point but I also think you're deliberately misreading my post so you can take massive offence, as per one of the modern behaviours we are all finding such a PITA.
OF COURSE if someone is so disabled that they cannot make a practical contribution, I am not talking about them. (Though I'm not suggesting they don't make any contribution at all)
I am talking about people who focus on and obsess about their diagnosis (or even self-diagnosis) and seem to think only their identity and status matter, rather than anything they might do. They bleat on about their special status as having ASD, MH issues or being non-binary or whatever and expect a round of applause for that in itself (which, given the nature of social media, they often get, which only encourages them).
I wouldn't be moaning about this if these were people who couldn't actually do anything other than that, would I? That wouldn't make any sense.