To have no time for 'nonsense' anymore

[scoobydoobydoooooh]

People expecting me to travel thousands of miles to attend their destination wedding.

People putting their name on waiting lists for designer handbags that cost thousands of pounds.

Pamper parties for 9 year olds.

Any other grumpy old ladies like to list the modern day nonsense they can live without?

A lot of my (younger) friends seem to be doing this flowery, 'look what an amazing Mama I am' shit.

'I may have aged but I'm putting all of my spirit and energy in to raising these little humans to be kind and fabulous souls. This Mama's cubs will change our world'.

Seriously, please fuck off.

People who only get involved in charity work when it's fashionable and very public but who don't give a damn otherwise.

Likewise, here in Ireland, people who will travel from halfway across the world to get home to vote in referendums that are receiving huge global publicity and talk about it on social media and be photographed in the paper looking socially concerned, but when they lived here wouldn't walk down the road to the polling booth to cast a vote in anything.

We're overpopulated but pregnancy, motherhood and family life is "fetishised" more than ever.

Vloggers, bloggers , you tubers
Baby showers
Reality Stars

user no it isn't. If anything being childfree is trendy and feminist compared to those silly women with no ambition who choose to become mothers. At least that's what I notice as a mother.

It started off a good thread, but as always, a chance to have a go at disabled people, was seized.

"Some stoicism or maybe even a bit of humility until you actually have some useful skill/experience/contribution to make?"

That statement was fucking outrageous, especially on a durum that is usually supportive to Parents of disabled children.

"I feel like some kind of Calvinist puritan throwback from the 1600s for even daring to think this."

Yes you are notacoldwomanhenry. Are severely, or long term disabled people surplus to requirements then? What do you suggest we do with them?

@Birds

🤔 going back to my earlier comment - whilst those who are ‘actually’ unwell/disabled deserve all the support and empathy in the world - LOTS just jump on this bandwagon!

No formal diagnosis
No treatment
No consistency

But they are ‘disabled’ or chronically ‘unwell’ - those are the people who irritate the HELL out of me! Leeching from the sympathy/ riding on the coat tails of those who are deserving!

^ It's like the saying, 'the bad apple spoils the bunch.' Truly ill people deserve support, understanding and compassion, but there are a great deal of fakers, exaggerators too. I work with one, she always mysteriously feels panicky at 3.00pm on a Friday...anxiety never seems to kick in before then. How funny...

People paying extortionate amounts for food that is about 2inches square stating it’s a taste explosion or some shit.

Competitive parenting, I don’t care what your child can do when? Although I do care if you’re fucking up his childhood for bragging rights.

People who pass judgement over family size. No my child does not need a sibling even if he did I can’t actually give him one so stop with your shit about it being cruel, you can always tell an only child etc...

People reliving their life around work. Work is there to facilitate life not be the reason for it. Never expect me to think of work in the way you do

Computer games

Pseudo liberalism. People who have the opinion everyone is entitled to be themselves so long as they fit into whatever current boxes are deemed ok.

Pressure on young people, from school and society

The need to have stuff - new stuff all the time, often not of any quality that will last

People telling me why I voted leave and what I meant by it

Twats - can’t abide ‘em.

Oh and when couples get married, have kids, buy a new house, get a new tv staying on social media “can’t wait for the next stage of our life adventure #soulmates#lifepartners” in fact #anything!

People who think your dog is there for the convience of their child

People showing off that they've exercised on social media. Good for you, but plenty of people manage to exercise without making a statement about it.

Faddy diets.

People out for dinner with friends but constantly on the phone.

Rudeness to people in the service industry. If you can't be polite to your waiter / cashier / hotel maid etc then you are an arsehole.

People who make a song and dance about how they don't like whatever food is on my plate. Maybe you don't like calamari / Stilton / salmon but I do so don't grimace at my plate!

People who profess to be liberal but actually berate, insult and attempt to censor those whose views they deem to be less progressive than their own.

Also, someone I used to be friends with on Facebook would post photos of them posing by their grandads grave and then put pictures up of her nan standing by the grave. I just can't understand why you'd put something so private up and why you'd feel the need to POSE by your grandads grave and then put the photos on Facebook. Really bizarre!

Performance parents- people who make a song and dance about playing/reading/educating their child in public (eg on trains, in restaurants) not for the benefit of the children but to show off what good parents they are.

People telling me, in graphic, drawn-out detail, what they dreamt about. Even if I had 1000 fucks, I couldn't give any about anyone's dream- ever!

People telling me a story which happened "on Tuesday...hold on, was it Tuesday? Or no, wait, Tuesday I went to Zumba with Gloria, you know Gloria, with the hair? So it couldn't have been Tuesday, maybe it was Monday?..." THIS STORY HAD BETTER BE FUCKING WORTH IT, PAMELA!!!!

Vloggers who do 'hauls'
Just endless piles of tat from poundland, Primark, B&M, etc etc

Colleagues who comment on EVERYTHING. People who do snorty laughs after things they say about you 'ooh the lights off, why are you sitting in the dark? (snorty laugh)

LOOK AT MY FACE I HAVE A HEADACHE SO GO AWAY

Colleagues who look/ comment on your lunch or things on your desk- stop being so nosey.

Sexualising young girls. Six year olds don't need crop tops that look like bras; they need vests (but you can call them camisoles if that sells 'em better). They also need flat shoes that fit and support their feet, not high heels.

Mums who take their 11 year old daughters for horrible thick stiletto acrylic nails. Two problems: they're not allowed in school, and the cheap places that do them use e-files that damage the nails because they want a fast turn-over. That damage takes up to six months to grow out and the nails will be weakened, so they'll break low below the free edge, until it does.

People who want to pay you back in food or drink. I don't want the food or drink, I want the money back please.

People who borrow things and never EVER return them. I am actually really reluctant to lend anyone anything anymore as had a few once bitten twice shy moments.

The sense that everyone needs a congratulations for everything. I am not sure if this comes from over-parenting or under-parenting, but there's a trend towards 'I went to the gym, go me, aren't I great look at me?', likewise if you get a hair cut or a new dress or really do anything at all. Is it because kids were ignored too much, or given too much attention? Not sure but I notice it a fair bit. People can't just do something and be satisfied in themselves that they've done it, or satisfied in knowing that their nearest and dearest know about it. It has to be broadcast to a broader level.

THIS STORY HAD BETTER BE FUCKING WORTH IT, PAMELA!!!!

Unless it suddenly segues into an account of how she was climbing the Tiger when a mountain lion appeared and a moment later a wolf sprang at a goat that was startled, scrabbled on the rock face and caused an avalanche that she escaped with an astonishing manoeuvre, then I guarantee that nothing is worth that sort of preamble. (My DH does this and verbalises a whole pile of internal processing stuff that nobody else needs to know.)

*Eiger, not tiger - curse you, auto-correct.

Some of these posts seem to be about things that annoy the poster in general, rather than about some of the nonsense that has become the norm in modern society.

Haven't read the full thread, so I'm sure all of these have been covered, but I'm going to get them off my chest anyway...

MLM schemes.

People who insist on using their phones in the cinema/theatre.

People who talk all the way through concerts.

People who visit my city to get absolutely wankered and roll all over the shops breathing fumes, bellowing at the tops of their voices and being HILARIOUS. Fuck off home.

Chain restaurants who train their staff to talk to me like I'm a primary school child. Fuck off, Marcus, I've got tights older than you.

Tory MPs who turn up for photo opportunities at Food Banks, wearing shit-eating grins. It's like those photos of Victorians standing next to a dead rhino, grinning and holding a blunderbuss. Revolting and preposterous.

Performative empathy.

Bank adverts that try to sell banks as some kind of benevolent force for good, there to support your family out of the kindness of their hearts. As if a bit of shit poetry is going to give us all collective amnesia.

I might have to stop there, my blood pressure is rising.

Oh, 'pulled' anything, and salted fucking caramel. I've even seen salted caramel gin, ffs. I'm surprised I haven't found pulled gin.

Oh, oh - and the way that smartphones mean that nobody has any fucking respect for anything anymore.

Fucking selfies outside Anne Frank Huis, and at Auschwitz. I'm not kidding.

And trying to view the paintings at the Musee D'Orsay...even with a guide standing there asking people to stop taking selfies with the pictures. He might as well have asked the tide to turn.

I agree with the selfies in front of things. At the 9/11 Memorial, there were people doing selfies and grinning in front of the lists (and lists) of the dead. WTF?

And in Museum of Modern Art in NY, there were some young women tourists who were gesticulating at everyone to move back from Van Gogh's Starry Night so they could do pouty selfies in front of it. They were quite aggressive, too.

It seems as if the mobile phone and its uses has caused a sea change in manners.