To have no time for 'nonsense' anymore

[scoobydoobydoooooh]

People expecting me to travel thousands of miles to attend their destination wedding.

People putting their name on waiting lists for designer handbags that cost thousands of pounds.

Pamper parties for 9 year olds.

Any other grumpy old ladies like to list the modern day nonsense they can live without?

People who post about a lost cat they found in their garden. Pictured in a cosy bed...
I said why do people take others cats in? Of course they wont go home. Someone replied "because they don't like to see them cold lost and hungry ffs. "

Totally agree about the constant push for personal development, tied into our achievement/perfectionism culture. I think it's great to decide you want to study, work out, eat better or any other thing that you want to do, but not having a goal or big ambition doesn't mean you aren't developing. We don't need to be 'developing' all the bloody time!

What is a bog roll stamp?

Great thread!
Anyone who calls me 'hun' .
Anyone who isn't David Suchet playing Poirot.
Anyone who isn't Joan Hickson playing Miss Marple.
Any supermarket that expects shoppers to checkout their own purchases. I go to a shop to be seved, if I have to serve myself (and by so doing put cashiers out of work and increase the shop's profits) I would like a discount!
Anyone who spits in the street.
Career politicians who have never worked in the 'real world' and haven't got a clue about how ordinary people live.
I could go on but will start to bore myself in a minute.......

I agree, Breakawaygirl. The "pale, male and stale" thing seems horribly unkind. Do people not have husbands, sons, brothers, fathers?

What's wrong with pamper parties for 9 year olds?

When dd was in primary school they started the day with this song about how you are great and wonderful and the best etc etc. Self-esteem is good, but I was hmm about the sentiment and thought a bit of humility might be in order!

Yes! One time a friend's DD was petting my cat and friend said "X

People too fat/lazy to walk on mobility scooters.

Really?

People who would be mortified to be considered racist or homophobic giving no fucks about being casually disablist.

The rest of society giving no fucks about casual disablism.

Gemma Collins

Escalators. Specifically the people in front of me on the escalator who have no idea in which direction to go when they disembark. Instead they step off the escalator and stand there oblivious to the bottleneck they’ve just created. Then they get arsey when everyone crashes into them. Just move over to the side out of everyone else’s way.

Ditto people who’re having a conversation in the shop doorway thus blocking it for everyone else.

Baby boys referred to as “little man”
“Can I get?” Instead of “May I have”
Driving at 20 mph in a 40 zone.
Leaving the front gate open.

I have to admit I've become quite cynical about the amount of posters on MN who claim to suffer from 'anxiety' or 'social anxiety'. I am sure some of them have been diagnosed with this and fully understand what it is.

But I also suspect a significant number have just seized on the term as an interesting label and an excuse to not do things. We can all think of times or situations where we felt very nervous and anxious and everyone else seemed to be fine. But a few isolated incidents does not mean you 'suffer' from anything. It's just life.

It's also not fair on genuine sufferers. The more drama llamas that claim to have something they don't have, the harder it is for genuine sufferers to be taken seriously.

People who start every story with "So.."
Couples I know well who have had their mortgage on a 2 bed semi for 18 years, both earn good salaries and are constantly mentioned how they "can't afford" to have a holiday that isn't camping, or complaining how expensive food is...Yes, I technically don't know their financial situation blah blah blah but if you have 50k net a year and your mortgage is £300 a month you aint broke and you can bloody well afford what you like.
Busybody allotment holders who express "concern" about what I do/don't do with my plot. I have limited time and do bits when I can. Yes it's a bit of a mess at the moment. Can't make an omelette without breaking eggs. Once it's all finished and I erect (fnar) the giant fertility sculpture in the centre of my plot it will look so much naicer...
People who drag everyone into their non-dramas and teach their children to over dramatise everything too.
Parents who wring their hands over the fact that their 14 year old never comes out of their room or speak because they are on the x box every waking minute. Just Ebay the fucking thing and have done!
Charity shops that price faded Primark shite at more than it cost new.
People who buy the faded shite and encourage them.
Cafes that think they are posh, but aren't and charge £4.95 for a bacon butty.
People who are not diabetic but go on and on about being sugar free and act like you are trying to kill them if you offer them a slice of banana bread.
People filming everything they/their kids/their pets do on their iphones. Just be in the moment! You have this amazing thing called "memory" when you want to re-live the carol concert (which will be never).
Cyclists in lycra on footpaths dinging their bells for you to jump out of their way when you are having an amble.
Eyelashes on cars.
Dogshit bags on trees.
Litter. Seriously, growing up it was SHAMEFUL to chuck your litter in the street. What happened to that?
I need a lie down.
I may be back!

But constantly telling people they're the dog's bollocks doesn't lead to real self-esteem – effort and achievement does, and a sense of who you are.

^^

Yes, yes, yes!!!!

Self-esteem can only be earned by YOURSELF, your own effort, actions and achievement. It's important for others to be there to support and love, especially in the case of children, but telling someone how amazing they are all the time isn't self-esteem, it's narcissism. Self-esteem can only be built through what we do.

People who say 'smashing it' or 'crushing it'
People who live for love island and Ibiza especially over the age of 21 - grow up.
People whose interests don't extend beyond drinking, TV, football or shopping.

@crosser62 I honestly thought it was upto the person after the person paying to put the divider on saying next customer.
Granted I only go to the supermarket about 3 times a year but I had no idea I could be causing such annoyance on those occasions!!!

Most of the people on this thread

People who don't realise that everyone is different and all like different things

Ableism

People who eye roll when someone says they have a mental illness.

Re anxiety, I agree about people over-using it and escalating feeling nervous into a massive MH issue for sympathy/likes and to get out of stuff.

But what riles me even more is this attitude that having something like anxiety or asd or whatever means you can just avoid what you don't like. Whether you have an official diagnosis or not - yes, some people have difficulties, it doesn't mean you can sit on your arse and moan and expect everyone to do it all for you/make way for you.

I "have anxiety" as in officially NHS diagnosed and medicated, extreme angst, panic attacks and worry. I prefer a lot of personal space and to avoid some social situations. But it never occurred to mer that that meant I could just avoid them. I still have to do things I'd rather not, it's just that sometimes it's tough - I don't want to have a chat with the teacher, I'd rather not share a seat on the bus, I don't want to go on a plane. But sometimes I have to, and so I do - because guess what, I'm not a newborn baby and I can cope with something being difficult or uncomfortable for a few minutes or hours. because sometimes necessity or others' needs come first.

What I hate is this current idea that because you have a special need or issue of whatever kind, you're just excused from anything you don't fancy. How can that possibly lead anywhere good? Self-evidently, we can't all be like that or society would collapse. And just caving in and not making an effort is probably the worst thing for self-esteem.

People who get offended at the word 'fat'.

That's what it is 'fat' . That layer of blubber on our bodies that isn't bone, or muscle or sinew is fat.

Always remember when Wayne Sleep did the ballet thing with the overweight dancers and they got all offended because he used the word 'fat' at one point. Cue big dramatics and the 'we are real women' bollocks.

So anyone who isn't overweight isn't a real woman?

My FIL. Narrow minded, keeping up with the Joneses, sneery git. If you're going on holiday, he will look up the weather of where you're headed, then sneer at you if it's supposed to rain one day. Weird twat.

Work. I don't want to be a housewife, I just also don't think work should exist. Can't we just til the soil and hunt or something? (Housework is actually satisfying and enjoyable when you don't have work to do IMO).

Getting fat. It can piss off. It's well hard to lose weight.

I detest fake nails. I think they look awful.

And on the subject of selfies, people taking pictures of beautiful scenery and (a) insisting on being in said picture and (b) doing a dramatic pose.

Just fuck off out of my Greek idyll you philistines.

people who say they have depression and/or anxiety and milk it - some of us actually have it and its awful!;

^ THIS! sick of people on FB sharing those posters about having anxiety, if you had it chances are you wouldn't draw attention to it! Everyone seems to have it nowadays I do have a medical diagnosis of anxiety and take meds for it, never once posted on FB about, i get on with my life and deal with it.
People on FB whinging all the time about how hard their life is, i know you! no it fucking isn't, there are people out there much much worse off and they aren't whining all the damn time.

WhyDontYouComeOnOver - I'm sure we're all very sympathetic to and accommodating of disability. But this thread is about modern life, and one of its annoyances is that there seem to be hoards of people who have adopted, say, "anxiety" and used it as an excuse to be an arsehole, and a special arsehole at that. And instead of the world being able to tell them to get a grip, we now have to ooh and aah over someone feeling a tenth of the anxiety that you do yourself.

I was working in a challenging school recently, and noted that 5% of the pupils had extra time/adjustments. Local private school (no SEN specialism) - 25%. Funny that.

Agree about anxiety.

I have panic disorder and GAD, and have done since I was a child. I used to have panic attacks in classes at school like drama and PE, and even at a few weddings, going to the dentist, going to see a friend.

It has stopped me living my life at times (cancelling social things last minute, not going to the dentist for years) but I started to ask for diazepam for one off things that made me really nervous and it helped. It's never stopped me holding down a job, going to uni (although graduation was horrible as had a panic attack.)

I hate people who say they have it to avoid stuff that people WITH anxiety have to drag themselves through 7 circles of hell to do - it invalidates just how debilitating panic disorder and anxiety really can be and just how many people keep going even despite the challenges.