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To be furious over what has just happened?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:46

Out Walking our dogs and my 6 month old baby in carrier. I have four dogs and look after one of my friend's dogs while she's at work occasionally. My four are quite large, the biggest being big German shepherd size and the smallest is a pug (friend's dog).

Before I get flamed for having too many dogs, two were mine, two my DH's before we met, so obviously we now have four. We aren't the kind of people to get rid of dogs just because we had a child - dogs are family too and we treat them as such.

We live in the countryside, very quiet rural area.
Coming to the end of our walk over the fields (where I never usually see any other walkers) I see another dog approaching - muzzled Siberian husky with a bloke.
At this point I already have four on leads ready for the road back to our house and bent down squat position to put pug on a lead.

I thought man would stop when he saw me bent down but he carried on approaching. I was struggling to get wriggly pug back on lead so I called out to him "can you just wait there a sec so I can get this one on the lead?" - No response and continues towards us.

Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks.
Just to add here, our dogs are all very well behaved but they are protective over me and DD and will act accordingly if they feel threatened.

Man takes no notice, I call out again and say "can you just give me a second?" Ignores me completely.

He decides to squeeze by my dogs and I with a stupid smirk on his face. He can clearly see I'm struggling and baby is now crying and the others are pissed off. One of mine pulled forward and I dug my heels in and sat back so as not to land on my daughter.

I shouted at him and called him a fucking arsehole.

If he could have waited one second, I'd have been out the way and that wouldn't have had to have happened.

FFS Angry I just despise people at times.

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InsomniacAnonymous · 15/01/2019 12:58

DioneTheDiabolist "he didn't react to being called a twat"

She shouted that he was "a fucking arsehole".

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:00

I bet much doubt they were blind too.

It certainly wasn't a service dog on duty. Probably not the best route for a deaf and/or blind person either.

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diddl · 15/01/2019 13:02

I think that if the pug was the "problem" then the first thing is to no longer walk it.

IknowTheBoswellJoke · 15/01/2019 13:03

Wow. Now, even if this man turns out to be deaf, it's his fault for walking on the 'hearing peoples' territory Shock

timetostepup · 15/01/2019 13:03

Some men are just arseholes and like to bully women when they get half a chance.

This ^

Also, some people in AIBU are arseholes and just like to have a go at other posters. It's what they're here for. Pretty sad, really. Please ignore them, Dippy, YANBU.

Charlie97 · 15/01/2019 13:04

I appreciate that OP says she put her hand up to warn the approaching dog walker.... but realistically was this a quick flick of the hand or was it held there so he definitely saw it?

After all, holding four non lead dogs, whilst crouching down to wriggling pug, with baby is not going to allow a decent amount of time to ensure that the approaching dog walker could see her signal.

Junkmail · 15/01/2019 13:04

I haven’t rtft but some of the replies are unbelievable. We don’t live in a bubble, we all have to coexist. Could the man not have taken ten seconds out of his day to help out the OP? If she wants to walk five well behaved dogs with a baby then what’s the issue?? Christ alive. You see someone struggling then you stop and let them compose themselves, no? I have three dogs. If I had been passing the OP I would have waited and not thought twice.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:04

Not sure yet @Lweji
A buggy for baby isn't an option due to the terrain. Not ideal going over fields, through wooded "off road" areas etc. And I don't know how I would have dogs on leads and push buggy effectively at the same time?

Can't leave the baby home alone, obviously.

Could do staggered walks - time consuming and the dogs all enjoy being out together.

Employ a dog walker - don't think this is the answer.

It will be easier when the days are longer, certainly.

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Charlie97 · 15/01/2019 13:05

@timetostepup really? If the opinion is against a woman it's wrong....?

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:05

Wow. Now, even if this man turns out to be deaf, it's his fault for walking on the 'hearing peoples' territory 

Where was this said, please?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:07

I appreciate that OP says she put her hand up to warn the approaching dog walker.... but realistically was this a quick flick of the hand or was it held there so he definitely saw it? @Charlie97

I held my hand in the air whilst I said "can you please just give me a second?" Whilst looking at him, making eye contact. At this point we were probably about 2 or 3 meters away from each other.

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DistanceCall · 15/01/2019 13:07

OP, this man may have been a dick, but he had one dog, and muzzled, and you had five unruly dogs plus a toddler.

The situation is trouble waiting to happen. Take turns walking the dogs.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:08

Thanks @Junkmail and for you I'd do the same.

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:08

They're not five unruly dogs, as stated in previous posts.

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Jaxtellerswife · 15/01/2019 13:08

Not the best route for a deaf person Hmm

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:09

They were four sat down dogs and one I was putting on a lead.

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:09

A blind person @Jaxtellerswife I think we are getting a bit silly here...

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timetostepup · 15/01/2019 13:10

@timetostepup really? If the opinion is against a woman it's wrong....?

Er, no. What a weird thing to write. Why mention the sex of the poster, I didn't? Are you a sexist arsehole? If so, what are you doing on mumsnet?

I was talking about the kind of people who hang round AIBU to have a go. OPs can't do anything right for those kinds of posters, they're just here to have a dig.

If you're a regular you should recognise this.

If it applies to you, then the post was aimed at you. If it doesn't, then it wasn't. Simple.

Charlie97 · 15/01/2019 13:10

@DippyDiplodocus but you said your dogs were unsettled and twitchy?

Charlie97 · 15/01/2019 13:12

@timetostepup you quoted and agreed with someone who did think the sec was relevant?

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:12

ONE dog became unsettled as the man and dog kept approaching.

I imagine it may have felt intimidating for the dog, I don't know, you'd have to ask him.

The others remained seated.

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IknowTheBoswellJoke · 15/01/2019 13:13

You said it here, op.

Probably not the best route for a deaf and/or blind person either.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 15/01/2019 13:14

A blind person @Jaxtellerswife I think we are getting a bit silly here...

You said deaf too.

Probably not the best route for a deaf and/or blind person either.

Charlie97 · 15/01/2019 13:14

@DippyDiplodocus Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks

Sorry was going by your original post which said my DOGS (plural) were getting twitchy and unsettled.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 13:15

Typo.

I just meant that with the terrain being uneven as it is fields and farm land, it may not be the best route for a person with blindness.

Of course that would be down to the person in question to decide.

HTH

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