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To be furious over what has just happened?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:46

Out Walking our dogs and my 6 month old baby in carrier. I have four dogs and look after one of my friend's dogs while she's at work occasionally. My four are quite large, the biggest being big German shepherd size and the smallest is a pug (friend's dog).

Before I get flamed for having too many dogs, two were mine, two my DH's before we met, so obviously we now have four. We aren't the kind of people to get rid of dogs just because we had a child - dogs are family too and we treat them as such.

We live in the countryside, very quiet rural area.
Coming to the end of our walk over the fields (where I never usually see any other walkers) I see another dog approaching - muzzled Siberian husky with a bloke.
At this point I already have four on leads ready for the road back to our house and bent down squat position to put pug on a lead.

I thought man would stop when he saw me bent down but he carried on approaching. I was struggling to get wriggly pug back on lead so I called out to him "can you just wait there a sec so I can get this one on the lead?" - No response and continues towards us.

Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks.
Just to add here, our dogs are all very well behaved but they are protective over me and DD and will act accordingly if they feel threatened.

Man takes no notice, I call out again and say "can you just give me a second?" Ignores me completely.

He decides to squeeze by my dogs and I with a stupid smirk on his face. He can clearly see I'm struggling and baby is now crying and the others are pissed off. One of mine pulled forward and I dug my heels in and sat back so as not to land on my daughter.

I shouted at him and called him a fucking arsehole.

If he could have waited one second, I'd have been out the way and that wouldn't have had to have happened.

FFS Angry I just despise people at times.

OP posts:
Cauliflowersqueeze · 16/01/2019 06:47

He was being a complete arse. Yes maybe he was deaf and blind and foreign. But much more likely he’s an arse.

RhiWrites · 16/01/2019 06:58

@DippyDiplodocus This thread is so weird. I think what’s going on is that there’s a lot of competition among dog owning posters to show how perfect their control of their dog is.

Anyway, I think this guy was rude to ignore your request for him to wait. You asked twice politely and he ignored you both times.

I wear headphones but pull them off when someone appears to be speaking to me. I think it very unlikely he was deaf.

The smirk may have just been a smile but given the whole situation I think he thought you were a silly woman making a fuss about something and he knew better that he’d be fine.

On this occasion he was right. But also an arse.

Don’t take these replies too much to heart. You’d have got the same heap of responses if you had questioned a teacher or asked a guest to take their shoes off. Dog recall/control is an issue around here.

Lweji · 16/01/2019 07:09

I think what’s going on is that there’s a lot of competition among dog owning posters to show how perfect their control of their dog is.

You think wrong.
The replies were that 5 dogs and a baby are difficult to control. Dog owners said they wouldn't go out with those many dogs and a baby on a slightly because they wouldn't be in full control.
Nobody said how brilliant they'd be at handling those many dogs in similar circumstances, except making sure they were on a lead except in the open field.

Charlie97 · 16/01/2019 07:17

@RhiWrites I can't see one post that says about the recall of posters own dogs, maybe I've missed them? The general comments are split between five are too many to handle and the guy was a twat?

Productrecall · 16/01/2019 09:03

Hmm, there's also a large proportion of us who think she was jumping to conclusions about his behaviour and reactions, regardless of how many dogs she was not controlling.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 16/01/2019 09:26

Grin TwitterQueen!

reallyjustreally · 16/01/2019 09:34

Not sure if it’s been clarified but you said you saw him when he was 100yards away. Now it’ll take about a minute to walk 100yards, so how was the pug still not attached to the lead when he was 3m away when you’ve had about a minute to do so (not the few seconds that keep being mentioned). Apologies if I’ve missed it or misunderstood but this just doesn’t make sense. I’ve got 4 dogs (no baby!) and it wouldn’t take that long to get them all on leads when they’re sitting nicely.

Wordthe · 16/01/2019 10:21

We're still going 😯
🐾🐾🐾
woof woof
🐕🐩🐶

CSIblonde · 16/01/2019 11:28

I don't think you can manage to efficiently control 5 dogs with a baby in tow as well. You also can't expect the world to stop for you to leash a dog. His dog was leashed & muzzled so no immediate threat. Walk them 2 at a time if you have to take baby. He prob had earphones in.

Charlie97 · 16/01/2019 13:11

@Wordthe

I think you've missed some emojis...

It's

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Surely? 😆

WiddlinDiddlin · 16/01/2019 13:30

Wow, what a lot of inconsiderate tossers there are on this thread!

Doesn't matter whose right of way it is... you see someone trying to put their dog on a lead, who clearly has a lot to manage, you bloody well wait a second!

If you all saw someone struggling to tie a shoelace would you just barge past and knock them flying because its your right of way or they should have velcro shoes on if htey cant manage a shoe lace?

Give your heads a wobble!

mintich · 16/01/2019 13:39

Any normal dog owner would have waited! That would annoy me too

CatWhisker · 16/01/2019 13:43

There are a lot of twats about. The other day I waited for the green man at a crossing and a car stopped, then when.i was half way across he just decided to skip the red light and drive through. Idiot!

Aquilla · 16/01/2019 13:50

Bloke was either being an inconsiderate twat or genuinely didn't hear you.
I even 'hold back' when someone is picking up poo for goodness sake!

BadLad · 16/01/2019 14:14

A classic AIBU thread.

BlancheM · 16/01/2019 14:29

What are we supposed to be holding back for? What's it in aid of? At what point is something judged worthy of holding back for? Are we not just all busy doing our own thing and going about our day minding our own business? I've never thought to myself, 'oh someone is busy doing something over there, I won't walk past, I shall stop and stand here for a few minutes and watch' :/

IknowTheBoswellJoke · 16/01/2019 16:26

it's more like this:
👶🏼🐕💩🐕💩🐕💩🐕💩🐶💩🖐🏼🗣✋🏼🗣🗣🤷🏽‍♂️😡🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Wordthe · 16/01/2019 17:25

If you all saw someone struggling to tie a shoelace
your analogy is as weak as a kitten

Vedette89 · 16/01/2019 18:48

Sorry I think five dogs and a baby is a disaster waiting to happen!

He sounds rude but at the very least the five dogs should be on a lead

TeaByTheSeaside · 16/01/2019 18:56

He was a twat but you should really only walk two at a time if you're on your own.

Aridane · 16/01/2019 21:33

Eh? this is barking!

Woman with 4 dogs and baby out walking. Man with dog out for a walk and passes her. Woman calls him a fucking arsehole.

650 posts later...

Lweji · 16/01/2019 23:14

That is a very sizist post.
It's 5 dogs!
Just because one is small, it still counts as a dog.
Shame on you.

explodingkitten · 17/01/2019 00:22

Hmmm, I like walking while listening to music, and I certainly would on a quiet country road so I also wouldn't hear you. I'd also expect that a dog owner/ any dog owner has control over their animals, either by leash or by voice. It wouldn't occur to me that you weren't fully in control at all times. Tbh I feel that you should be if you unleash them.

sillysmiles · 17/01/2019 18:47

More importantly in all of this - who walks past someone in the countryside at close (ish) quaters and doesn't say hello? That's just weird. That alone makes him an ass imo.

Aridane · 17/01/2019 19:14

He did say hello, as it were - he smiled at the OP (or smirked)

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