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WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 19:51

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have themHmm and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

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MissEliza · 12/01/2019 21:21

Ms Trunchbull wannabes it is sad and infuriating in equal measure how many parents try to undermine teachers by using this term. I worked with a child on the tip of exclusion who loved telling us that his dad thought our head was like Miss Trunchbull. He wasn't saying that in meetings when they were begging for him to stay in school. Angry

Mummylife2018 · 12/01/2019 21:21

@Piggywaspushed 'Upsets' dinner ladies??? HmmHmmHmmHmm

MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 12/01/2019 21:22

@mathanxiety
I used to live in the US and no one was doing this. We would celebrate birthdays with cards in school, and then presents etc after. No one was getting special deliveries. And we all had fun. You can have a fun day without being inconvenient and in your face.

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I used to be a teacher and I can tell you OP, if every student was walking around the corridors with a bunch of blooming balloons and had food delivered, it would be chaos. The baloons would distract in class (may be obstructing the view at best). Plus, some parents can't afford this, and I think it would create an even bigger gap between the better off and the not so well-off children, another competition between parents, another thing they would try to outdo each other in. A special day does not need to interrupt the school routine/day. And as others pointed out, if they allowed you to do it, they would have to let hundreds of other parents do it too. And offices are already busy as it is without having to do an extra job of delivering pizzas and flowers to birthday girls and boys.

Crunchymum · 12/01/2019 21:22

Actually OP, what did you do for her after school?

squiglet111 · 12/01/2019 21:22

Oh this is a troll. Makes sense now. Good one

GrandTheftWalrus · 12/01/2019 21:23

This has entertained me while DP is working!

Lisabel · 12/01/2019 21:23

It was a bit over the top but as you mentioned it was actually your DD's idea!

I think other posters are being a bit relentlessly mean about this- it might not have been the best thing to do but it hasn't hurt anyone and it was what your DD asked for for her birthday.

As mathanxiety says this is all culturally relevant- in the US they wouldn't think twice about it.

mathanxiety Sat 12-Jan-19 21:09:56
This thread has been a huge eye-opener.

I can't believe the flak the OP has been given.

I am in the US and students themselves order delivered food for lunch, parents send food deliveries too, and for a birthday it would not be unusual at all to have cakes, bouquets, balloons, etc. delivered.

Staff are not required to do anything wrt said food, bouquets, balloons, whatever... Students are expected to manage their own stuff themselves, share pizza or cupcakes or a cake with classmates, manage their flowers or balloons. Why would any of this be something staff would have to get involved with?
How silly.

Loving the sniff of 'very American' hmm.
What a joyless existence you all lead.

Yulebealrite · 12/01/2019 21:24

You had me for a while op but the Pineapple has gone too far Grin

Piggywaspushed · 12/01/2019 21:24

Yes, it upsets dinner ladies. Are they too working class for you to believe they might be upset by entitled young people eating expensive delivered pizza rather than those they cna get from the canteen??

At my place, we have to ask their permission/ let them know if we sell charity food, so they can menu plan accordingly.

AlexanderHamilton · 12/01/2019 21:25

Staff are not required to do anything wrt said food, bouquets, balloons, whatever... Students are expected to manage their own stuff themselves, share pizza or cupcakes or a cake with classmates, manage their flowers or balloons. Why would any of this be something staff would have to get involved with?
How silly.

I don’t know how US schools work but here the staff would have to speak to the delivery person over the intercom, buzz them in. Take the delivery. Put it somewhere behind reception then look up where the student is in the school on the timetable (if it’s lunchtime they could be anywhere) and send someone to find them.

Students are not usually allowed to just hang round reception. They have designated places at lunchtime be it a dining hall, outside area or common room.

Gumball54 · 12/01/2019 21:26

Cringey.
Should have surprised her with the balloon and flowers at home and invited friends to the house for pizza.

pootleposeyperkin · 12/01/2019 21:28

Well, you've made Reddit, not long until the DM picks it up

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 12/01/2019 21:29

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

Sure you did. This definitely happened.

MummytoCSJH · 12/01/2019 21:31

Honestly, I hope this isn't real, how embarrassing.

fruityb · 12/01/2019 21:32

I’m fed up of the Trunchbull thing! Teachers have enough shit going on without princesses and their bloody nightmare parents!!

I still maintain #didnthappen

bimmy8 · 12/01/2019 21:33

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HearTheThunderRoar · 12/01/2019 21:34

LOL Grin

Yes it is a special day but you do not need to flaunt it in front of every child and make a big song and dance about it. Do that at home.

I am in NZ, in year 13 at DD's school the kids were allowed to receive pizza deliveries (not just birthdays) on the proviso they picked it up from the actual pizza car. But they are 17/18 and are in the last year of High School so get more privileges.

Very different kettle of fish to year 11s and being dropped off pizza to the office, followed by ballons and flowers (which are arguably more of a PITA.

Edgeworth · 12/01/2019 21:34

I'm glad schoolchildren ordering takeout at school isn't the norm here; we need to do more to tackle childhood obesity, not revel in it.

And whilst birthdays are obviously to be celebrated, they do not need a grand fanfare of specialness in the middle of a school day.

youarenotkiddingme · 12/01/2019 21:34

When ds school do shows the kids order in pizza between school and performance 🤷‍♀️ and bring piles of cakes/crisps

Teachers don't care but the kids share willingly so think it's win win!

Can't imagine doing it for birthday during school day.

Flowers is lovely idea. But yes they need collecting at the end of the day.

JustLurkingAway · 12/01/2019 21:34

Oh god how embarrassing

Canibuildasnowman · 12/01/2019 21:34

I call fake post - there’s no way someone actually did this.

bloggingmumny · 12/01/2019 21:34

There's some seriously gullible people on here and please don't tell me you are happy to give advice in case it helps someone else in this situation.

Well done, OP. Have some flowers in return. FlowersGrin

huuskymam · 12/01/2019 21:35

Did it not occur to you to check with the school first regarding personal deliveries at school. I'd love to know how your daughter felr about it. My 2 teenagers would be mortified.

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 12/01/2019 21:36

I call fake post - there’s no way someone actually did this.

Definitely fake. As everyone knows, the correct gestures for a DC’s birthday are a trip to Chester Zoo and a Frozen cake.

BrilliantDarling · 12/01/2019 21:37

@huuskymam it was her daughters idea 🤔😂